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Hope I don't offend anyone by saying this

But I've never quite understood why people are so bothered by flashers?

Where I grew up (foreign country far far away), my friends and I used to be flashed regularly by the crazy men who would hang around a few blocks away from our school (Catholic convent school, no less!), and we just found it rather funny.

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Ha, love it!

I never forget when my sister got flashed when she was about 10 yrs old.

She came home from school and told mum.

Mum asked, what did you do...

Sister: I just laughed and wiggled my little finger tiny tiny tiny hehehehe


We called the police, the were next to useless.

Could help but think my sister won the day anyhow!


It's a state of mind i guess.

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ClaireClaire Wrote:

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> Hope I don't offend anyone by saying this

> But I've never quite understood why people are so

> bothered by flashers?

> Where I grew up (foreign country far far away), my

> friends and I used to be flashed regularly by the

> crazy men who would hang around a few blocks away

> from our school (Catholic convent school, no

> less!), and we just found it rather funny.


Flashing is rarely just flashing, in my experience.


When I was 5 (flashers often target children) and walking home from school along an alleyway connecting two roads, a flasher blocked my path and lunged towards me (he got to about two feet away), as well as shouting various things at me (which I still remember 45 years later). I turned 180 degrees and ran as fast as my legs would carry me, back along the alley to the road.


The trouble is, you don't know what the person will do next. Follow you on foot, follow you in their car, follow you home... or worse.


Back in the 90s I had a regular back-yard (neighbour) flasher who waited for me to go outside on my terrace, then would immediately come outside and expose himself. Soon he moved on to doing the same plus masturbating. This happened a dozen or more times a day. He always seemed to be waiting for me to go outside. It actually made me stop using the terrace much. Then I got crazy scrawled notes dropped in the letterbox. (Then I moved away.)


According to Daniel Wilcox, "a forensic psychologist in Birmingham who treats sex offenders, including flashers, for the probation service," quoted on the Guardian website, "Typically, flashers have the highest crossover of all sex offenders into crimes against children." and "They work up to committing more serious crimes over time," and "However, flashers are prone to stalking, rubbing themselves up against women in crowded trains (frottage) and sending offensive pornographic letters and photographs to targeted women; it's part of the offender profile."

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Thank you Louisiana for sharing your experience - which must have been terrifying as a small child, I too found the jovial tone of this thread about flashers disturbing. I have also read that flashers often escalate their offences to approaching and sexually assaulting children and adults, and laughing at flashers can often expedite this. I was exposed to at 3pm while walking with my baby daughter - a very unpleasant and unsettling experience and not in the least bit funny.
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Sorry - no, it was quite a few years ago but broad daylight and walking down Choumert Grove just on from Peckham Rye Station. I remember feeling threatened and somewhat tarnished by the experience.

I also recall a dear friend being exposed to on an empty tube carriage, she was deeply traumatised as she believed she was about to be attacked or similar, I also recall she was quite upset by many of her friends reaction to the event - comments such as 'oh come on - I'm sure you've seen an erect penis before' generally people thought she was making a fuss about nothing...

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I agree and especially where children are involved. When my sister was 13, she and a couple of friends left school at lunchtime to buy some chips. The were walking along a busy main road when they were flashed. In the first instance they were shocked, but that led to feeling so affronted, they chased him. They didn't catch up with him, but twenty-five years later I can see it still makes her angry when she mentions it.


I have to admit, when she told me they had chased him I did laugh but only because it's just what I would have expected her to have done.

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