How ill is ill?

[ryedalema]

Morning all - just wanted to hear your views on this one. We were called by the nursery to pick up DD1 on Wednesday as she had a temperature. And fair enough when I got there (stopping off at Scoop for - ahem- ice cream medicine on the away) she looked like a bit of limp lettuce (poor thing) and we took her straight home to bed (and proper medicine).

Yesterday I stayed off and looked after her - and we went shoe shopping, to the library and to lunch. Not much sign of an illness in any respect - but in the evening she got a bit hot and my OH told me off for over exerting her (hmmm - possibly the other way around!)

So I'm off again today - Madam is playing princesses, wearing the new shoes and Snow White outfit, and I can still see no sign of an illness 'cept for a snotty nose and a cough (neither are bad).

- I'm of the 'stay busy and work through it' school of illness

- My OH is of the 'bed ridden until better and then a bit more' school of illness

What do/would you do?

I'm ok staying off (although obv. the work is backing up) and don't want to do wrong by Madam little one - but she's asking to go back to nursery (albeit with new shoes and dress on)and is pretty bored with 'just Mum' to play with...

Ho hum.....

[womanofdulwich]

if you reward illness by shopping and new shoes/ outfits you may find she is more ill than ever. At home, in bed and story tapes/cd's.

Believe me as they get older they play you.

[ryedalema]

Ah good point - the shoes had been planned for a while and I used the opp. of apparent lack of illness plus time to get them - but I can see how it looked to her.

The outfit was existing (but matched the shoes).

The ice cream and lunch?? Umm - no excuse there..:-$

[BeccaL]

Am definitely with you - stay busy... Agree that days off school sick need to be boring - realised this after spending weekend curled up on sofa with little one as she was really ill, but she then had Monday in bed as realised that otherwise she'd be *ill* at the drop of a hat!! I'd definitely have had her back to nursery today. Tell OH to stop being a wuss!!

[Pickle]

My son had a day off school a couple of weeks ago (had vomitted the day before, so fair enough) and spent the day watching TV on the sofa. That evening he said "I like being sick Mummy, I think I'll be sick again tomorrow so that I can watch more TV". He's 4 - and so it begins...

[new mother]

Not following the query - the child is asking to go back, you can't see any signs of illness over a cold and she is able to enjoy dressing up etc.

How do you get time off for this? maybe you are self employed? I'm missing something here...

[ryedalema]

Yes she's asking to go back. I'd like her to go back. My OH thinks she's not ready to go back, but she seems perfectly fit/healthy to me.

I am self employed - yes.

[Moi23]

Sounds like she's fine. Also, does OH see her during the day? Or perhaps in the evening when she's beginning to get tired and cranky.

[buggie]

Sounds like she's good to go back, especially as she's now got the w/e to get fully back up to speed.

She is likely to get more tired/cranky than normal towards the end of the day (as any of us would be after being ill/as we're getting better). Maybe OH should take the day off to look after her if he thinks she's still too poorly (might help change his opinion!!:))).