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Annette Curtain Wrote:

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> maxxi Wrote:

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> > Annette Curtain Wrote:

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> > > (mind you, Lower Sydenham is a sh*thole)

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> > Especially the bit they call Penge...

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> Admin.

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> I'd like to report maxxi for using the "P" word.



I claim immunity due to 'Sydenham-Syndrome'* caught when falling asleep once on the 176.



*a kind of SE23-Tourettes

El Pibe Wrote:

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> pull in on narrow street to let oncoming car(s)

> pass.

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> thanks from first car, about 60% of the time

> thanks from subsequent cars, about 3% of the time

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> I'm letting you go too you @#$%& ungrateful @#$%&,

> I hope you end up stuck in shrieking twisted metal

> under an articulated lorry and you scream as the

> flames consume you you @#$%&!!!!



I like this one. Its like sometimes they don't even notice you are there, sitting patiently waiting for them all to go on their merry way.

I think slagging off anywhere people live constitutes "bad manners"


even if they do it themselves

even if it's true

even if it's tongue in cheek


But they live there for a reason - and ultimately other people slagging the place off is only going to make them feel that much worse


I'm not saying "it shouldn't be done" - but it is good manners?


Pretty sure I've done it quite a few times but it always makes me uncomfortable when I read it

Correct!


StraferJack Wrote:

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> I think slagging off anywhere people live

> constitutes "bad manners"

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> even if they do it themselves

> even if it's true

> even if it's tongue in cheek

>

> But they live there for a reason - and ultimately

> other people slagging the place off is only going

> to make them feel that much worse

>

> I'm not saying "it shouldn't be done" - but it is

> good manners?

>

> Pretty sure I've done it quite a few times but it

> always makes me uncomfortable when I read it

Annette Curtain Wrote:

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> maxxi Wrote:

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> > Annette Curtain Wrote:

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> > > (mind you, Lower Sydenham is a sh*thole)

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> >

> > Especially the bit they call Penge...

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>

> Admin.

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> I'd like to report maxxi for using the "P" word.


Don't you live in Penge?

i was just about to say you people are unbelievble you think its exceptble to coat each other off about size,where you live. i believe a bit off bantering is good for the soul but do remember others read this and will definitly believe there is no manners anywhere in se...i wonder if this is how you speak to your partners and friends..wow.keep this to your inbox..facebook...twitter etc.keep your love between the sheets.lol
I took my son to a concert at the Festival Hall. It was Igor Oistrakh's 70th birthday and my son was about 15 and it was his first visit. As we went through a door a middle-aged man dressed in dinner suit and bow tie and his wife also dressed up let the door go right in our faces- reality check!
This is not just an ED thing, it's a London thing. ED is way friendlier than most other parts of London. I imagine somebod will jump straight on this but I couldn't believe how different London was from the Midlands when I first moved down here. London is a great place to live but people are just rude!

There are too many people in London- you never get a seat on the tube or the bus, people are always pushing in queues and are increasingly behaving in an aggressive manner. And caz6868 it is very contagious.

What sort of chips SJ?- they still serve the same stuff- wine etc

I disagree ED is friendlier than other places. I have not come across anywhere in London with more ignorant people than here. Whether its JAGS gym, Lordship Lane, Sainsbury, pubs...the same things happen. Pushing past with no excuse me, you hold a door open and people just walk through and worst of all - a buggy does not mean you own all shop space and the path as and when you feel like it.
damn straight..goodnight going to dream of spreading good behaviour amongst anywhere my oyster takes me.anyway on a quick note i visited wimbledon one day for lunch with a friend i was heavily pregnant and in front of me was an elderly gentleman so i moved to one side to give him space to walk with his stick and he said"get out of my way you bloody begging polish/kosvan...i laughed so much and replied "you can't get the staff "lol
I see , offer and get polite behaviour almost all of the time from most people (with kids or without) in SE22...people really think it's a bed of bad manners?? Really? or do they magnify the occasional bad experience out of all proportion...maybe the any people OTT should look at themselves a bit would be my suggestion. Thank you.
I don't usually weigh in on fiesty debates like this but I have to agree with Harry. I too have experienced this and actually ????, it is not 'the occasional bad experience'. It happens virtually every time I venture towards LL or Sainsburys. I realise people have busy lives and are often distracted but come on, how hard is it to say thanks / let someone go before you / keep your kids from racing around the supermarket or pubs. Please let's drop the 'me me me' attitude and take a second to remember our manners! For the sake of our community! :)

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