Accident on Lordship Lane this morning (November 20)

[ianjm]

Happened about 9-9:30, just south of Barcelona restaurant outside the takeaway shops. Seemed like there was some poor chap on the ground surrounded by paramedics with a rubbish lorry parked awkwardly a few metres away, at a guess he'd been hit by it. Just wondered if anyone saw what happened as it looked pretty nasty. Hope he was OK but I rather suspect not :(

[maritap]

Hope he's ok, so many road traffic accidents lately.

[Luanne170978]

I don't know what happened but I also saw the guy lying on the floor. Poor man, I have been wondering all day whether he is ok or not.

[donaldduck]

Pure nosey people. This was In fact my friend. Don't act like you wanted to see if he was ok because if you did you would of gone and asked one of the paramedics at the scene. You are just being nosey

[PeckhamRose]

That's unkind. We are very sorry about your friend which is why people have asked. There are some very kind people around and maybe they did not want to bother the paramedics but instead let them get on with their job. We wish your friend well, sincerely and honestly.

[davidh]

so many people on, such as donaldduck, are just plain unpleasant just because they can be. this is a very nasty place sometimes.

[donaldduck]

What? How would you act if that was your friend then Davidh

[mako]

Donald I think you have called this badly. The nosey person would come over at the time and people on here just seem to be showing concern, so if it was my friend I would be grateful that someone cared. If the paramedics were already there then that is when you don't want people shoving their nose in.

[davidh]

donald... I would feel sorry for your friend as we all have, but would have curbed an instinct to lash out in a ludicrous manner. we all concerned, so back off.

[donaldduck]

Do any of you actually care though? Where you at his hospital bedside? No so do not comment on a forum trying to find out about an incident out of curiosity when someone was badly hurt. If you really care private message me and I will give you his address so you can go around and visit him personally to show you "care". Until then keep your nose out of other peoples business

[annabel42]

Donaldduck, I wish I were in your shoes. My son did not survive a horrific accident on Tuesday 12 November and I have drawn immense comfort from many people, including many on this forum, none of whom have shown any curiosity, only genuine sympathy and concern.

[Dulwich Born And Bred]

Donald , I have passed many accidents and have worried about the casualty . Its disturbing seeing someone hurt , and it plays on ones mind . Asking if someone is ok is kind and considerate , there is nothing sinister about it .

If I watch the news and someone has been hurt , kidnapped etc , I hope for a happy outcome as I know they have family who must be beside themselves and it plays on my mind what they must be going through .

I don't think your friend would appreciate strangers turning up asking how he is when paramedics are working on him , or at his hospital bed , I think strangers asking if he is ok is caring enough to show that they are worried and they hope he is ok with no lasting ill effects .

[Dulwich Born And Bred]

Annabel, I am so sorry to read about your loss xx

[annabel42]

Thank you, DulwichBorn&Bread and everyone else.

[GSJ57]

Sincere condolences annabel42. So sorry for your loss.

[purplebreeze]

Annabel my thoughts are with you and your family and your sons friends at this time.

[annabel42]

thank you so much, GSJ57 and Purplebreeze.

[James W]

Annabel. We were so sorry to read of your loss. You and your family are very much in our thoughts.

[annabel42]

Thank you.

[JimH]

Wow Donald Duck is massively innapropriate!!! I also care alot and feel concerned about those who died in the Phillipines recently but I am not going to necessarily go and visit them. Maybe in your Disneyland there is only black and white but in real life there are many degrees of concern. Hope this reaction is stress related and your friend is ok (but I am not going to visit him if that is ok with you!!)

[Atlanta]

Annabel... so sorry for your sad loss. x

[jonsuissy]

I was hit by a car on my cycle on the big roundabout in Lewisham at sunday lunchtime. I was unable to move and although an Ambulance arrived very quickly many people must have seen both the accident and me being on the ground for half an hour or so blocking the roundabout. During this time many total strangers acted brilliantly, either looking after me before ambulance arrived, making sure I didn't get run over again, contact family etc etc.

It must have been a terrible sight for any witnesses

None of those have my address and vice versa.

I would love to thank each and every one of them but cannot as I don't now who they were.

I would also love to let them know I am OK, as indeed I am.

"donaldduck" - you are a supercilious fool.

[OD]

Jonsuissy - thank you for posting that you are ok, I was on a bus and saw the scene of the accident on Sunday and did think 'I hope that person is OK'. The police were directing the traffic and ambulance was on scene by the time I went passed.

[annabel42]

Thank you Atlanta x

[ianjm]

I've been out of the country for a few days but I'm really shocked at your reaction donaldduck, It was simply out of concern and empathy.

I obviously don't know the victim personally but just like JimH said about the Philippines - empathy comes from putting yourself in the person's shoes and thinking how terrible it must have been for them and their friends & family. Feeling like this, even about a stranger, is a pretty common reaction and human experience.

We tend to care more (and our news reports more, which is a reflection of this) about things that happen where we can identify more and are closer to home. Compare the coverage of the Boston Bombings to bombings that occur every day in Iraq and kill far more people. America is a country we can relate to and identify with much better because they're more similar to us.

When something like this happens literally on your doorstep, on a road that you walk down practically every day, it's pretty natural to have questions. You could call it 'nosy' - I enquired because I live in this community and wanted to know what happened to pass on my regards and see if anything could be done to prevent it happening again if it was indeed a road traffic accident although I was only guessing. We all know some of the roads around Dulwich are dangerous.

Perhaps I was wrong.

In any case, I hope your friend is recovering and I understand that your emotions are probably raw at the moment having been through this kind of hell.

To Annabel too, my condolences.