feminism....

[plimsoul]

did you find, i certainly have, that since having kids i have become rather feminist...i once had this crazy idea that things were now equal but somehow i'm still organising laundry, meals, child care, being a wife, cleaning the house oh and my job.

[Bumpkin]

I'm also in your situation, but as Mr B pointed out, a fairly large part of it was from me turning into bit of control freak at the beginning after baby B born and wanting to take charge. Don't want to turn into nagging partner, but find myself sounding horribly like my mum at times... Got a cleaner though even though can barely afford it - so worth it!

[Helen GV]

That I am not susie homemaker and have no such aspirations cause a bit of friction in our house! I AM making an effort to keep things clean and tidy, but I would rather spend time doing fun things with bub. and, um, keeping up to date with the family room(s) on this fine forum...

I work also but only two or three (part)days per week so it is up to me I guess to keep house, it's just that my husband and I have different ideas of what a kept house is...

*sigh*

[sanity girl]

that sounds uncannily like me!

Bumpkin Wrote:

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> I'm also in your situation, but as Mr B pointed

> out, a fairly large part of it was from me turning

> into bit of control freak at the beginning after

> baby B born and wanting to take charge. Don't

> want to turn into nagging partner, but find myself

> sounding horribly like my mum at times... Got a

> cleaner though even though can barely afford it -

> so worth it!

[mummy007]

Blame your mother-in-law?

[plimsoul]

what i find interesting is if they want it cleaner well then clean it?? and the same goes with cooking. the amount of men who 'enjoy' cooking but get hacked off because their partners don't enjoy it. well, why don't you cook every day mr if you enjoy it? because i've never really heard of a woman getting moody because everyone else refuses to cook in the house...

i cam ask mr plimsoul to hang the laundry, or hoover etc... but is always i who initiate. at first he totally refused to get a dishwasher, but i ignored him. then he refused to get a cleaning lady but again i ignored him and we're all pleased that i went ahead without him!