Thanks Brendan. You do know you can't explain anything to, in this case a 19 year old. He's having a gap year. I'm not sure how mature he is though. He's already been through a 'relationship' with what we thought was a very nice girl (very rich Dad)! He seems uninterested in getting involved again. He speaks about how hard he's planning on studying. This is so unlike me that i don't know what to make of it.