I think all mums feel like this, but not all admit it. But what you are describing snowboarder is normal toddler behaviour, not any indication of your parenting skills! When my guilt millstone is getting too heavy I remember the children whose only meal in a day is their school lunch, who never get taken to the park, who start school without anyone ever having read them a story. Those are the children who are not well cared for. So my little boy might not get five portions of fruit and veg a day, he might watch a bit too much tv, he might have chronically underbrushed teeth, but he's a healthy, happy little boy. And that is good enough.