This thread reminds me of Basil and his 'don't mention the war' sketch in Fawlty Towers. Basil (in this case Sue) can't help but mention it to a group of Germans (most of the rest of you) who might feel uncomfortable with the subject (possibly because you are parents yourselves). My opinion is the parents were at fault for not looking after their children properly. If they feel the guilt that I imagine most parents would, then that is a life sentence. I doubt there is a parent here who hasn't made a mistake with their children, though hopefully not with similar consequences. As humans we find it very easy a lot of the time to be judge and jury. Maybe it's because we are harsh on ourselves.