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A bit of an old thread, but since I feel as though we have finally had something of a breakthrough with potty training after a painful month or two, here's my two-penn'orth. Would be great to have tips from other people too. N.B. We started training Moosling when he was just 2, which imo was a bit young. I should also add that a lot of the work was done by the very competent person who looks after him during the week, and not by me! 1) as many people have said, a good approach is to plan a week of no outings and go bare bottomed as much as possible. Buy a big stock of patience and expect the worst. 2) training him to poo on the loo/in the potty at first didn't go at all well. He would wait until you weren't looking and then poo on the carpet and get terribly upset. Eventually we realised that he just likes to be alone when he's doing a poo - it amazed me that someone so little would be self-conscious about it, but there you are. So now when I put him on the loo he will sometimes say imperiously 'Mummy go way', and then 'Mummy come back' when he's ready. Job done, if you'll excuse the pun. 3) potty training him for pees seems to be as much about training ourselves to know when he will need to do a pee and putting him on the loo. If we rely on his saying 'yes' when we ask him, we get denials and puddles, and relying on him asking to go is clearly some way away. So on days when we're busy we have accidents, but when we get into the rhythm of remembering to ask and make him go, we don't. Friends of ours have potty trained their kids and gone within a week to relying on the child asking to go to the loo, which sounds marvellous, but that hasn't happened yet to us. 4) for me it required a mental mind-shift of not getting frustrated by accidents, especially ones that occur 30 seconds after you've just said 'Do you need a pee' and the answer came back 'No!!!'. When you can stop having to grind your teeth to suppress visible annoyance and just plan ahead a bit better, then everyone is happier. Control freaks beware! :) Hope that is useful for anyone thinking of potty training or going through it. I would definitely not start until the child shows some interest in sitting on the potty, but obviously that choice is different for everyone.

I see. But I still think you're talking about a different experience. I don't think a feelgood movie needs to be slushy. But it should leave you feeling uplifted and happy - enjoying feeling creeped out, or disturbed and thoughtful, or melancholy, or anything else, is not the same. I'm not valuing the one over the other, but I reckon you're just breaking the rules. To be macho. ;-)

Feelgood?! How?

I see twin girls commuting in on many mornings, and their parents seem to have it sussed (although they look about 2). Sometimes you can see people being a bit sniffy about their being a little noisy, but the parents seem rightly to ignore it.

The mentions of Midnight Run (great film) reminded me of Midnight Sting, which is a brilliant film with James Woods and Louis Gosset Jnr which should have you cheering in the aisles at the end.

It sounds like a bit of a strange excuse to me. There are adventure playgrounds with large structures all over London. The spider climbing wall recently erected in the playground opposite the Hornimans, for example, has plenty of potential for falling off!

I see Pride!

The renewed playground and paddling pool at Ruskin Park are great for knackering out my two-year-old, and he loves the bus ride there.

Oh dear, this has become a bit difficult to reply to without risking offending Steve, which I do not want to do.

What SteveT was saying was perfectly clear and didn't need to be explained again. Of course in this hypothetical example none of us actually knows whether this particular man would have ignored a woman or a frail person - neither Steve, nor any of the rest of us. What I meant was that I believe he was wrong in assuming someone would ignore a woman or a frail person. I don't think that someone's sex or physical state necessarily means that they cannot be perceived to be assertive, and I was offering my own experience as evidence of that. The context also has to be taken into consideration - a public supermarket is one thing - and here one might use Marmora Man's point of getting 'the audience' on side - whereas a dark alley is another.

A very ill-bred comment indeed, Mr. Palaeologus. I lift my brows a quarter-inch in response.

Almost all Audrey Hepburn movies. I'm another in the Shawshank camp. Juno is a recent one that made me smile. Really cheesy old musicals like Calamity Jane, High Society and Oklahoma!. Some of the better kiddie moves (I'm feeling brave today) like Monsters Inc and the 2nd Shrek film. Mr Ben and Keef, True Romance makes the list just for the fantastic music in the last scene on the beach - can't hear its life-affirming lilt and pulse and not smile.

I agree with LegalEagle, though I myself am more of the bland variety. It does have to be said though that the sneering does seem actively to take place in both directions - too many people find validation for their own preferences in ridiculing those of others.

A bounder of the worst kind! Rather a fine ginger 'tache though.

I fear he may be a bally hound.

I see this 'gentleman' wasn't wearing driving gloves. Most suspect.

SteveT Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- Had I been > female or frail he would have ignored me, but I am > not and it was my go. I disagree. I don't put up with that kind of thing either, and I am entirely female.

Our son sleeps much worse on holiday than at home. It's so unfair! but understandable.

What peppercorn said. With a cap. :)

Hmm, see what you mean but I meant talking about consultants' salaries! :) I'm going to stay away from the specifics of the Royal Free and the NHS, because as I said I really don't know how hospitals work. And given that we are talking about a hospital and that the cash in question might be used instead to pay some midwives or buy a scanning machine or an ambulance or something very directly beneficial to patients, then I can certainly see that someone who knows more could invalidate my in-principle argument with some real information. But, in principle, I don't think that spending money on saving specialists is necessarily a waste. It is in the nature of consultants to go into organisations to do specific tasks which they will probably have done before in similar organisations and which are not things that the people who are permanently employed in the organisation know how to do. Efficient information-gathering and analysis, coming up with appropriate solutions and means to implement those, is what consultants do. I don't know what the NHS does but many of my company's clients will compare our quotation for a piece of work with what it would cost them to do it internally, and it needs to be competitive with that. In principle therefore, it may cost the NHS less for a specialist consultant to come up with a workable solution than for someone internally to do it.

Sorry, Chair, I appreciate that this is somewhat off topic.

Again, independent contractors work differently (although being self-employed I think they pay 50% tax? Is that right?), but a consultant being charged out to a client at ?1000/day will not be being paid that. He will be on a salary and a considerable proportion of the daily fee will be margin.

Would it be relevant to point out that the hole is the nicest part of a doughnut? I wouldn't want to be Lounged.. oh.

bignumber5 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- I mean, a grand a day? > that's stupid money! Yep.

I don't know anything about how hospitals are run, so I need to be careful not to make assumptions. And I have no idea whether the Royal Free needs this job, was only extrapolating from the job description given. But although people get sick arbitrarily, does that mean that a hospital shouldn't plan its services? That doesn't seem to make sense?