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Smiler

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  1. Appeal and pursue til the end, as the council sometimes gives up. We live just off Lordship Lane and the wardens patrol around at the weekends waiting to pounce! They must know the best places to give out tickets / get cash. We have had several of these loading-type tickets, for unloading shopping outside our house, and have got them dropped at quite a late stage, they send scary letters about the fee escalating etc. Businesses near us have said that they get masses of tickets.
  2. What an annoying post plimsoul! Lucky you to have such confidence / "instinct", but not everyone is like that. No, we don't all have extended family nearby, which is one of the reasons why this part of the forum is helpful. And yes, we are lucky to have time / money etc. that is obvious, but why is reading a book / coming on a website "obsessing"? It can be damn hard being a new parent and if exchanging tips and chatting on a forum helps, why not? plimsoul Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > i think what is most interesting and makes by far > a more interesting doc is the fact that mothers > don't feel competent enough to deal with their own > babies. that their wider family structure and > support is gone. i didn't read anything and > followed instinct, which hey actually > instinctively i felt routine was important for the > baby and discovered that in part i was actually > picking up from all sorts of books. i'd know this > as other friends spent their spare time with baby > asleep reading more about how they should be > looking after baby. > > why is routine good for baby: as a parent your > role is to explain this crazy world that you have > pushed them into. at 7 weeks i felt now was the > time to introduce milestones in the day to be > repeated...a routine, like adults, nature, the sun > going round the planet. > > gina doesn't have the TM on routine, it's an age > old thing. > > we are obsessed with our children and how we're > bringing them up, this industry makes lots of > money. aren't we lucky to have the time and cash > to dwell on such things?
  3. You are not the only one Snowboarder! Many, many, many parents in same boat. The sleep issue has been major for us and am sure for lots of other people, but maybe they are too knackered to post! snowboarder Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Debate is good - but everyone seems to be either > gina/baby whisperer/etc follower and happy, or bit > all over the place and happy....am I the only one > who both tries to have a routine but also has a > baby who does not sleep/eat well?!? Worst of both > worlds!! > It's as much what you do as the personality of > your baby I tell myself. Not that this helps loads > but still! (oh yeah and the b/feeding to sleep. > desperate times.)
  4. Snowboarder, a lot of the baby books made me feel this way too, but think it was/is partly in my own head, but partly, as you say, due to the way the books are written ("do this and all will be well"). My little one has just started sleeping through at 21 months, really hope it lasts. snowboarder Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > You know - we have always had the same bedtime > routine, fed regularly and naps at fairly set > times. But sleep and naps are still disastrous. > I think its this feeling that we have/are > 'failing' despite following gina style guidance > that is upsetting - and the inference that if you > do follow said guidance it really will work...
  5. Found a little blue / grey scarf outside Gourmet Burger Kitchen last night, awnd took it home as was getting wet / squashed. It is quite little, maybe toddler sized, knitted wool, with light blue, dark blue and grey stripes, not block stripes, colours kind of mixed up. It has a couple of small loops. If anyone has lost one, PM me!
  6. We had better be careful what we say, apparently she sued Mumsnet for what Mums had said about her!
  7. Am not a fan of Gina Ford, think it is mainly the writing style that I found objectionable, it seemed really bossy and judgmental.
  8. Oooh, how exciting. Congratulations!
  9. It is v.nice in the park and snowy rather than icy.
  10. The statutory minimum is now 28 days, but this can include 8 bank holidays. Nannys are not self-employed, even if they set up a limited company etc. For tax and employment rights purposes they meet the legal definition of employees, so families are the employer and responsible for statutory sick pay, maternity pay etc.
  11. Information, including on how GPs are remunerated for doing the vaccinations, is on the NHS London website: http://www.london.nhs.uk/news-and-health-issues/press-releases/2009-press-releases/swine-flu-vaccination-for-children-under-five-to-begin "To provide the swine flu vaccine to children aged between six months and five years old, GPs will be paid ?5.25 per vaccination as agreed nationally. In addition, each practice will be given a one-off payment of up to ?100, depending on the uptake achieved in vaccinating children in their local area. This will be paid through the existing GP contract which allows Primary Care Trusts to make temporary support payments when requesting significant increases in workload. The agreement between NHS London and GPs represented by the Londonwide Local Medical Committees was reached on 9 December 2009."
  12. GPs are well paid and the fact that they do run practices should mean that they (or their practice managers) are well able to organise vaccinations etc. tulip Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Has it crossed your mind that GP surgeries may be > struggling to cope with the demand of people with > flu and the additional vaccination program? That > this is a huge workload ontop of an already high > level of demand? Or that they need that > compensation to pay for the extra staff to run all > the additinal clinics to vaccinate? Or the amount > of time, effort and cost required to contact > literally hundreds and hundreds of eligible > patients? It'a bit of a tall order for what are > essentially small businesses. All not helped by > the demands of the worried well turning up at the > slightest sign of a sniffle. I don't think doctors > want to withhold vital vaccines to patients- > especially with the effort they usually have to > spend around here trying to convince people the > vaccines are safe (see MMR debacle). The NHS may > have it's failings, but it has more to offer than > most countries healthcare.
  13. RE. Kings, the problem seems to be too much demand / not enough staff. But knowing that doesn't make it easier for those who experience problems.
  14. Aveeno cream (made with oats, can get it over the counter) is very good.
  15. Maybe will try the move to the bed when our current visitors go. Have already got the stairgate on the door. Though she has sussed out how to move things against it to climb over the stair gate - mini houdini!
  16. Oh no. Am sure people will help if necessary, neighbours etc. There will hopefully be plenty time to fill it up when the time comes, even if it's slow 'cos of the pressure. Hope all goes well for you - keep us updated, family room birth announcements are fab!
  17. Sounds like you have good options! We find DMC v.good. There are other threads on GP surgeries with advice etc. Don't think that health visitors are attached to individual GP practices, but managed by Southwark PCT. They no longer do weekly baby clinics with health visitors, weighing etc. at DMC, think you have to go to Townley Rd, but not sure. For post-natal midwifery, think that at DMC the Lanes midwives help with the initial bit, before handing over to health visitors. The GPs at DMC seem to be well up on children's and women's health, maybe due to their patient population! They prioritise appointments for babies if unwell. With any busy London GP practice it is worth swotting up on how to make appointments, as it is much easier to get an appointment if you understand their system, e.g. how you book in advance, when are appointments released for the next week (at DMC for example they release appointments a week ahead of time, you can't book before this and they quickly get booked up afterwards), when can you telephone for on-the-day appointments (these appointments tend to go quickly, so you need to ring as soon as the lines open!). DMC has just extended its opening times from 8am to 6.30pm and also does evening and Saturday surgeries.
  18. R&A, Sorry about your experience, agree with others that if you can face it it'd be good to take the issues up directly with Kings, through the Patient Advice and Liaison Service (PALs). I have always found them to be helpful and on the two occasions when I complained (by email) I received constructive responses from a senior midwife / doctor.
  19. Might be worth trying Mumsnet for info on the area etc. Re.school catchment areas, the council might publish details of size of catchment etc. and the admissions criteria. Wouldn't believe estate agents when it comes to what streets are in catchment areas.
  20. I can recommend Davina! Amazon do sets. Though traditional aerobics not dance. There is a good thread on here somewhere about post-natal fitness, lots of good tips.
  21. Trains from Denmark Hill are on a "special" timetable, lots of cancellations.
  22. Our 21 month old (terrible sleeper, thought things were improving but we are back to the bad old days - sob!) has very nearly managed to climb out of her cot several times. She points to the (standard) single bed that we keep in her room saying "bed, bed,no cot" etc. etc. Won't settle in cot at bedtime or when waking in the night. Two hours solid crying 1am - 3am the last two nights as wanted out of the cot (stayed in room with her, but didn't let her come into bed). We co-slept until recently and before Xmas had thought we had successfully transferred her to her cot, but apparently not! We have a two-bed, split-level flat, with a standard single bed that converts to a double in the nursery, as well as the cot (when we have visitors we go into the nursery and the visitors have our room). There is room for a cot, but no room for a small toddler bed or cot-bed in addition to the standard single bed. So, when we move her from her cot she will have to go in the standard single and we'll get a plastic thing for the side to stop her rolling out. Since we co-slept, she's used to getting down from beds, but if her sleeping continued to be poor and she was in the bed, we would have nowhere to lie down when going down to check on her etc. at night (our room is on another floor). We would need to try the "supernanny" ignoring, putting back in bed approach mentioned by ludoscotts. Am really hoping that with persistence we can get her to settle in the cot again. For those with the space, think that toddler beds are much cheaper than cot-beds. Agree that sleepsuits are good. Got a couple at Christmas and they're good for our restless sleeper! They have bargain ones in George at Asda.
  23. There is discussion about this on bigger sites like Baby and Bump, Mumsnet etc if you're after people's experiences. Think that the miscarriage risk is lower if the test is done somewhere where they perform lots of the procedures and by an experienced doctor: might be worth asking what the miscarriage rate is for tests done at Kings. Guess it partly depends on what you think you would do if the baby did have Down syndrome.There were recently lots of in-depth articles about this in the press 'cos of a survey where a high proportion of people said that they would go for a termination.
  24. Huguenot, don't like the implication that people who wish to help their relative to end their life are doing it because it is "about them" and not the ill person. Especially don't like that this is made in response to someone who has been in an awful situation with their Mum. I also disagree with the suggestion that people who are pro-euthanasia hold this view because it is difficult to watch / care-for people who are dying. With respect to palliative care, there are some medical conditions that no amount of drugs / care can ease suffering can help, such as motor neurone disease. Huguenot Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > I'm sorry about your mum shosh, but your > description is telling: "watch your 56 yr old > mother vomit diahharrea and writhe in pain and > then let's discuss it again" > > You see that comment's not about your mum, it's > about you watching your mum. It suggests that > euthansia is more about the viewer's own > discomfort rather than the poor victim. > > I'm sure you didn't intend that and I apologise > for highlighting it, but I believe that's > dangerously close to a lot of people's views on > euthanasia. We perhaps want to allow people a > lifeline from their misery because of ourselves. > > I watched my own mother die over a painfully long > ten year period that left her mentally and > physically incapacitated. Myself and my siblings > eventually switched off her life support for many > reasons, but I made absolutely sure that none of > them were about myself.
  25. The research mentioned did not focus in particular on these kind of situations, it was about all kinds of situations and perceptions of honesty. Huguenot Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > It may be that this study tells us a little about > the psychology of the situation... > > Only 47% of people think that a nurse persuading > an elderly and infirm patient to change their will > in the nurse's favour was dishonest. > > So what proportion will believe that persuading a > chronically ill person to 'end their suffering' > and advantage themselves is also not dishonest? > > If people want figures to support my concern about > abuse of legalised suicide being widespread, they > need only consider the 53% of people who would > take advantage of the ill and infirm with a clear > conscience.
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