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Bringing boyfriend into the working day without your consent would be a breach of trust if not contract? I'm assuming you've not seen his DBS/CRB check?! At the very least the white lies and bringing the boyfriend along shows little respect of professionalism during the probationary period, when people are on their best behaviour.

Oh man this forum has me in stitches! Such nonsense. I'm not sure what someone has to do to get support with a business and praise on here but this is a local guy with a successful business that originated locally- a burger van in Peckham (got destroyed eventually), pub residences in Herne Hill and New Cross. Well done Yianni and MEATliquor....... welcome home!

Ooh! How can we get this put in the main section? I wanna know too Louisa.......!

Yeah, I should maybe gain some balance to my very positive post too by adding that I also notice that I bore the arse off myself and other people are less interesting too in January! :-) And I'm less good with the financial gains because I tend to reward myself for being booze free by spending on other things!

Nice work DulwichFox! I've done Dry Jan every year for many years. It's not easy but it you will get used to it. I agree it can be difficult to find a drink that suits in the pub as I'm not a sugary drink lover either. Good time to taste your way around non alcohlic beers. I often end up having a hot drink if I'm in a pub that does them.....I find I can happily drink cups of tea/coffee/hot choc rather than cold drinks. What I have also observed in my Dry Jan experience is other people's reactions. I'm always amazed by how often people will try to persuade me to drink and/or be disaparaging of my efforts. Folk will often have an event in mind that I simply must drink at "oh but you'll be drinking at XXX won't you?". Or they will gleefully advise you that "the research" says that Dry Jan does nothing for my health. Then there are those that just can't get over me not drinking on a night out and seem to spend most of the evening talking about it. My suggestion DulwichFox is to continue to socialise so that you aren't giving up your life, just the booze. Do stick to your guns though and remind yourself that some people feel a little threatened by people doing Dry Jan, as if it makes them feel a little guilty or look bad.....at least that's what I have concluded. I personally wouldn't keep doing it if I didn't see the positive impact- more energy, better concentration, better skin etc. The Dry January website is quite helpful http://www.dryjanuary.org.uk/

I don't see how that could be considered a big leap. If people had taken note of the signs and done something about it as cinders has then suffering could have been stopped and her death prevented. If this is how this father behaves in public then behind closed doors is unlikely to be like the Waltons. FGM is also culturally relevant but unacceptable nonetheless. I agree with you cinders that the emphasis should be on this father being identified so that official bodies can assess and draw their own conclusions about the nature of his behaviour and what intervention is appropriate

Penguin68 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > It must be remembered that what we consider > cultural norms now (things were very different 50 > years ago) may not be cultural norms even now for > other cultures. Of course, it is reasonable to > expect that in the UK people must follow our > cultural norms ? and we should absolutely not > endorse or condone actions in the UK undertaken by > people who would, in their own cultures, be > entitled to act differently, but neither should we > treat them perhaps with the same levels of shock > and disgust which we would for people brought up > in our culture who act contrary to it. > > Children, in particular, are treated very > differently outside Western European norms (and we > must remember that Scandinavians would have looked > at what we considered acceptable in child rearing > very differently from us, only a few years ago). > > What the OP has described seems horrid to us now, > but an adult hitting a child would not have been > seen as abnormal only a comparatively few years > ago. When I was at school, corporal punishment was > the norm. And any parent had a right to strike > their child. Indeed, it was rather encouraged as a > way of instilling discipline. ?Spare the rod, > spoil the child? was once a genuine axiom (if > actually, before even my time). > > We know better now ? but many cultures would not > agree with us. On the one hand yes, on the other hand tell that to Victoria Climbie......or girls who had female genital mutilation (also a cultural norm for some)

Hooray! I could do with some tea towels

When people care about others and try to help out but are criticised for their efforts.....

These flats will be great for the existing people of Peckham to buy.........oh no, maybe not really.

All good experiences from me in the last year so maybe I've been lucky Last week went in there about 4pm and was offered an appointment the following morning at 9am. Doctor was helpful, went for blood tests, doctor called the following day with the results as agreed

Spoonty, there are people on this forum and in ED who know how to speak to others properly and address any issues they may have (valid or otherwise) in a more appropriate manner Thankfully, you don't have to employ the ones who failed to qualify at charm school ;-)

Ah ok, Zebedee Tring. Yeah, I guess you may have some problems Anyways, back to Sainburys in Dulwich maybe?

Zebedee Tring Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > There's no need to be sarcastic, binkylilyput > (what kind of name is that, for gawd's sake?). The > trouble is that too few people take a similar > attitude, in contrast to people in other countries > such as the USA who expect a bit of service from > the shops that they use. Um, it's my name. Problem?

Zebedee Tring Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Then don't use self scans. I refuse to do so on > the basis that I am not being given a discount on > my purchase because I am doing the job that the > store staff should be doing. Thanks for the advice, it might not have occurred to me not to use them otherwise......I find that kind of advanced level problem solving difficult to do for myself ;-)

What a shame, I flippin' hate Sainsburys local (and Tesco express....and all the others). In my experience it seems good at the time (convenient etc), but then becomes repetative and boring- plus all that crowding in narrow aisles, fruit and veg all pre-packed, squeezing around shelf stackers, no bread left, self scan tills that NEVER save you time because some item doesn't scan.....etc! And it's not even a money saver! The independent places will be pushed out

I certainly agree with the "live and let live" approach and also think that inflammatory statements are probably not necessary. I also believe that dogs will be dogs, and that's fine by me! My gripe should probably be in a new thread as I don't think it necessarily relates to professional dog walkers. Question: Why do some dog owners think it's perfectly fine for their dog to run over to me when I'm sat in the park, jump on me, steal my picnic (on countless occasions), run around my blanket, sniff or even lick my baby or small child, put their nose in my face etc? Do they get up from their own blanket, run over to retrieve their dog, put it back on a lead or apologise? No! This is not an exaggeration or inflammatory, I can guarantee something like this will happen every time I go to Peckham Rye. This summer I often ended up moving on because I didn't like a dog taking me by surprise with a wet nose in my face (or mouth.....bleuuuurgh!)when I'm lying down relaxing. I have dogs and so I'm not simply complaining because I'm a dog hater. Owners have a responsibility to train their dogs. If they can't be trained to come back when called then they need to be kept by their side.

apbremer Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > 176 and 185 buses running Northbound through > Dulwich Village~very exciting. I'm sure the poor person having emergency medical treatment and their loved ones will be glad to know they have provided some excitement for Dulwich Village...........

For ?6.95 for two courses and a drink what on earth do you expect?! Keep going Cherry Tree. You are showing an awful lot of initiative and clearly trying hard to accommodate requests and listen to feedback.....while maintaining some realism!

Lidl is great value Bring it on

Thanks for this, poor girl

Go ahead, chat to a girl, then when it seems like a good time, check out if they are single and do so with a smile. Given that single girls raise the same problems as you do then why not go for it? I think many ladies these days find it refreshing when a man is brave enough to ask them out. Whether she is single or not I can't see that anyone would be offended by a guy taking a shine to them. And if they do take offence then they aren't someone you should worry about! 😉

Pato your posts are really very funny! This should go a long way with those tricksy ring masters you speak of! Now trust me. East Dulwich may be stocked full of fabulous couples with their adorable little angels, but for every bugaboo there is a girl who is wondering where the hell all the single men went to when she blinked for a moment So, the obvious solution is for EDF to have it's own singles and dating section right? 😀

Just to complicate things further for you pato, women from some cultures/ countries wear an engagement ring on their right hand....... But don't give up, I know a number of women in the area who are convinced there are no single men around. At least no single men in a certain age bracket who doesn't have serious "issues"!!!

Decent article which gives the low down......the main concern for councils being the litter! http://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/aug/13/brick-lane-is-the-uks-laughing-gas-megastore-but-for-how-long