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Ikea do very cheap train sets Mine also love to pour water from one ikea cup to another (messy though)

Ikea do very cheap train sets

Play food

Here: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1201415/ It was a long time ago i read it, hope i have remembered it right

helena handbasket Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > What does that mean though, "not picked up ....... > left to cry a little"? Has anyone actually > researched how much time it takes to permanently > alter a child's sleep patterns? Some mothers can > bolt awake in an instant, others take a bit to > orient themselves. In my case I recall my son > screaming his little heart out and pulling my hair > while waiting for food in the night...... but I > couldn't have done it any faster. Did THAT > negatively affect him as well? And I'm a bit wary > of "studies" that make these links when there are > so many variables that can't be controlled for. > > I did one of my university degrees in > Developmental Psychology, and while I'm certainly > no expert and it hasn't exactly given me much of a > parenting advantage (darn!), I do know that the > research is endless but CONCLUSIVE research is > hard to pin down. For every study that claims "x" > there is another that claims "y". So, while it is > nice to pad our personal instincts and > philosophies with these studies, remember that > some new mother out there is reading this > information as absolute truth and punishing > herself for not getting it right. For the first > six months of my son's life I was an emotional > mess........ nothing went as planned, I was > probably suffering from PND, and somehow all the > attachment parenting people came out of the > woodwork to remind me of the consequences of the > "decisions" that I honestly didn't have much > control over. Unfortunately this resulted in > months of incredible self-loathing, and it took me > a long time to get the clarity to look at it all > and realize that it would take a lot more than > bottle feeding or not co-sleeping to damage my > son. And I will always resent those > generalizations....... so dangerous. > > Since it is obviously not possible to keep large > labs of babies for research, a lot of it is > anecdotal based on information from the mother, > who of course giving the best information she can > but not entirely good science. The other measure > is observation, which is tricky as well since it > is impossible to adjust for mood, hunger, a bad > night, and all those other things that make a baby > different from day to day. It is impossible to > control for the million variables from baby to > baby. > > Anyway not sure my point here but I think what I'm > trying to say is that I obviously believe in the > value of research and I'm the first person to read > and think about new research, it MUST be taken > with a pinch of salt. I am not sure I kept the link (on an old PC) but it was a large study and very interesting, they tried things like having bf bbaies sleep beside a tshirt that smelled of the mum... it was fairly convincing, but not really the road I'd go down, so it must have been quite good evidence for it to stick in my mind despite me not really agreeing, if you get what I mean.. I will see if I can find it

i did go there once with twins (nightmare as no buggies are allowed in) but now they're toddlers tis impossible

dbboy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > You could go to Waterloo and take the train direct > to Reading, what you loose in time on the journey > from Waterloo roughly equates to the length of ot > time it takes getting to Paddington. Have had to > do this journey several times in 2009 and will > need to repeat it a number of more times > throughout 2010. I might try that next time

Tipperary Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > How did the driving option go, will be doing this > route myself soon too Was fine, left at 715, was there by 930.

I read a laegw study about features of early parenthood and later sleep patterns. The main correlation was with fsmilies where babies were not picked up every time they stirred but were left to cry a little to see if they would resettle ...and were usually sleeping in their own room from earlier than is recommended. The report stated that it wasn't possible to say what was cause and effect ... placid temperament/easy sleeper and slightly arms length parenting, or vice versa

I am soooo tired after a long day at work but toying with the idea of going to Bookstart tomorrow or to the story thing at the Horniman then lunch... anyone else heading to either of those? x

Goodrich?

PS I have all the high need spirited baby books!!

Helena, baby no 1 was incredibly high need.. still is.. never napped...fed every hour at night till he was 2+ The baby who will now roll over when I say got to sleep is actually just as spirited as child no 1... but she is quite a "GOOD" sleeper, when she was small she would grumble herself off to sleep holding a muslin and I guess if she had been put to sleep in a cot away from the temptation of mummy milk she would be a 7-7am sleeper just as some seem to be.. certainly, she is very easy to settle for a nap... always has 2hours at lunchtime... and scampers eagerly off to bed at 7pm. But when she's awake she's a little madam. She eats very well too. The other twin is the more subdued, laid back one, but buy does he get cross if I don't jump to it in the night with milk. He hates covers on him too.. he sits up and bellows "mum-eh! Help meh!" And at the moment, since having pneumonia, he is on some sort of exctreme faddy diet (fruit and breastmilk!) Elizabeth Pantley had high need children too. You might be surprised at the rollover snuggle down thing as I had some success with that with DS1 too. I have found with mine that sometimes they are virtually sucking in their sleep, and you need a way to get them to stop, without them getting cross... having some verbal cue seems to help them disengage without waking up too much, I have found.

I think expressing 2-4oz at a go is fairly normal (and easier if you have a double pump and a hands free bra!) I used to express while watching TV or surfing. If you don't get a good letdown you won't get much... The first few weeks my best time was actually evening at about 8pm then I used to go to bed and MrF would offer some milk at 11pm. Later on (I expressed until they were one) I used to do it late morning. Good luck, try to relax if you can!!

samstopit Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Thanks everyone for your info and support. I'm an > auntie since Thursday morning to a little boy! So it took from 15th-18th? Ow

One thing to try is to create some other sleep associations, bring a softtoy or a blanket in to your sleeptime bf snuggle so he gets used to it and eventually will see it as a sign its bedtime. Also try the "Pantley pulloff" with a phrase.. i say Roll over now, snuggle down, night nights time, and 9/10 M will let go, roll over and go to sleep. It often works when she wakes in the night and she will go right back off. Introducing a special stroke or pat as he drops off can be helpful too, again it can later standalone.. chose something that doesnt make your wrist ache though!! http://www.pregnancy.org/article/when-your-baby-wakes-frequently-feed-pantley-pull

SB: Feeding a baby to sleep is so natural and what we are designed to do as mammals. I think the whole parenting industry has a lot to answer for with all the stuff about "Creating good habits" from day 1, with sleeping through the night as the holy grail. Responding to little SB and settling him whatever way works best isn't wrong at all. The time might have come where the particular balance needs to swing back to YOu and your needs, rather than continue with the all night milkbar long term.. but don't let anyone make you feel you have done something WRONG. Little SB is behaving perfectly normally.. and it never crosses his little mind that you have any other purpose on this planet but to always be there for him, ready to meet his every need. Maybe the time now has come for him to begin to appreciate that's not quite true... but what a lovely start in life for him!

As a person who wet the bed for many years due to kidney problems and some deficiency in the hormone, I am convinced that there is a time when each child is PHYSICALLY ready to go through the nught and until they are producing vasopressin then it will not be possible for them to go through the night. If this applies to your child, then trying to force them into being dry will be incredibly stressful. Have a read here: http://www.bbc.co.uk/dna/h2g2/A1081207 and the link I posted earlier from the ERIC website.

A good compromise is to puree a few things to try and offer the same as finger food (eg puree some carrot and also give some cooked carrot sticks) BLW is much easier, less pureeing, less work feeding, less stressful... but is prob only at 1y+ the baby really seems to eat much

ryedalema Wrote: I even stripped said child to > her birthday suit as she entered the house last > night as I had a whites load waiting, that wasn't > quite full. > Exactly the sort of thing I do!!

I am obesssive about what goes with what and I am never really happy until my laundry basket is empty. I actually wait until a child has finished its breakfast so I can whip off white vests and I have the machine all loaded up ready waiting for the last item... My sister is even worse!

You can also add a caribiner and tether your child to a door handle. :-) (For the purooses of getting twins in and out of the car, I mean!)

we have backpacks. very easy to put on, kids happy, can also put a drink or spare nappy in there and save taking a bag

Some ~%&$@# lets their dog poo right in our front gateway, regularly, and sooner or later one of our toddlers is going to sit down in it, I'm sure.

We do approx 6 washes pw for 5 of us... but we don't wash bedclothes very often :-$