Moi23

Silly question really, but do you make sure his willy is pointing down? Sometimes with my first if it was pointing upwards he'd leak quite a bit.

Skyblue, I'm totally in agreement with you. It's mad that there is no local co-ed in peckham rye area. My husband went to an all boys school and he's dead against our sons going to a single sex school, ruling out at the moment Harris. My 2 are still very little, but as you say, now's the time to act! I would like to be involved too.

sglanzer Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- From the streets at the bottom > of Lordship Lane to Horniman School is only 5-10 > mins walk. Do you mean down by Goose Green?!? We live quite close at the top of lordship lane and even then it's a pretty steep hill, definitely more than 5-10 minutes...

gufflings Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Hiya > > Mine did this too for about 6 months and it did > eventually stop, even though I'm still > breastfeeding. > > Now I've got a sort of halo of shorter hairs > around my hairline, which is a bit annoying, but > at least it's growing back I suppose! I've got the halo too. Very attractive... I know it's rather depressing but it will grow back.

Apparently they start coming out from 5pm. If you've done it online you can look on eAdmissions from 5 onwards, but they've already warned that the system might overload. Good luck everyone! I'm a bit of a bag of nerves now...

I would wait until you are only a couple of months away from the new arrival and assess the situation then. Double buggies are expensive, very annoying if you don't use it, but a total life saver if you need it.

You could try between now and baby's arrival getting him used to walking without the buggy. Try a few short trips. It'll be hard to start off with, particularly if he's running into the road. But hopefully without a little baby in tow you can spend a bit of time on out and about walking and road discipline. The age gap for mine is a bit bigger (3 and a bit years). I bought a massive double buggy and it was a real hassle. Also tried the buggy board and that was quite uncomfortable to use. Now he tends to either walk or use his scooter. I tried to instill the attitude that buggy's are for babies...

Sorry BB100 meant to post this on the thread, but accidentally sent you a private message! BB100 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > At the end of the > day, I just wanted people to give a little serious > consideration to how, and if, it affects their > children and how they feel about it. Of course everybody considers it, hence the fact that most of us try extremely hard not to swear at all in front of our children. Which is what this whole thread was about in the first place.

I've always assumed that if you have a small one, 2'5 and under, you need to keep an eye on them, particularly if there's older kids around. Their just a bit more vulnerable. There are definitely thuggish kids in the world, but most are just going through phases. I'm quite happy to tell a kid off if they behave badly with mine, and am quick to tell mine off if he's out of order. There are parents who do just look on and say nothing to their kids... I don't think the world's going to pot, Gussy, I think you've just had a nasty run of luck. Keep going to the playground. Bear in mind that in a few years, unexpectedly and to your mortification, you might find that your little girl suddenly does something awful. She won't be any less of a nice kid and you won't be any less a good mum, these things happen.

I don't think nursery's so bad if it's 3 full days a week. Try and clump them together. There are normally very long waiting lists for the good nurseries though. Cheapest option is a childminder and there are some truly lovely ones out there.

bluesuperted Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > Moi23, I'm surprised you've found the Ergo tricky > to put on. For the front carry I do the following: > clip on the waist band, adjusted to the correct > tightness, pick up baby and straddle his legs > froggy style around my waist (he's now 7 months, > so he grips really well now, but have been doing > this since circa 4 months). Then I hold baby in > place with one arm and use the other arm to pull > strap over each shoulder. Once they are in the > right place I use one hand to clip the strap at > the nape of my neck. You can then pull on the side > straps (just under boobs) to tighten it further > and pull baby nice and close to you. The back > carry is something I haven't quite mastered on my > own - but that's why I just bought a Beco > Butterfly II as it has an internal harness which > will hopefully make life easier when I start doing > regular back carries on my own. I can do the front without too much problem, though the backstrap is quite difficult, particularly if you've got a coat on. I can do the side carry too, but my shawl is way quicker and easier. It's the back carry that's really difficult. In fact I just tried it again this morning and baby (9months) was yelling and crying, while I broke into an almighty sweat. Really frustrating because that's exactly why I wanted an ergo, so I could carry him on my back. To be honest, I think I just wasn't destined to child carry. I love the idea of it, but the reality for me is mostly back pain!

I've had a kari-me, various baby-bjorn style ones, an ergo-baby and frankly I've not got on with any of them. The ergo would be good if I could get him in position without help, but I find it impossible! I have a pashmina shawl that my aunt gave me. I tie it round one shoulder and he sits in it resting half on my hip. Its the easiest thing I've found. My other half refuses to use anything else. It's a bit hard on my shoulder though now. I have a baby-bjorn and an ergo if anyone wants to try it out.

I think at that age it's usually frustration more than anything else.

Yes, I have a particularly tantrum prone son. Often it's to do with hunger (low sugar level maybe), tiredness or needing to do a pee (he refuses to go), but other times it's more complicated. Like he'd built up in his head he was going to do a certain thing and then it turns out that we are going or doing something else. I think firmness and empathy need to go hand in hand. Also, I'm a far better mother when I'm not knackered. When I have the energy I can distract him and generally deal with him better. If I'm tired and stressed we just both spiral out of control. It's awful. Good luck, remember it's just a phase!

Oh no.... I've managed to just about curve my horrendous swearing (which regularly gets repeated by my 4 year old) and replaced it with 'Oh my god', 'Good gracious', 'Oh lord', 'Blimey', 'Sugar', 'Fiddlesticks', and many more. Are any of these bad too? I guess I'm not religious so wasn't bothered about blasphemy. Trouble is, I too love to swear. It's so satisfying.

Good luck! I'm sure it will make a difference.

Yes, I could do with a similar recommendation. I'm exhausted! Even coffee doesn't seem to do the trick.

Jennyh, I don't have time to look at what everyone else has said. All I can say, is I think you're a hero for keeping at it as long as you have. It's just soooooo tough to start off with and when things are complicated even tougher. Don't worry, bottle fed babies are absolutely fine! Heck, some mum's point blank refuse to breastfeed at all and that doesn't mean they're doing a bad job either. Congratulations on your little one. Enjoy it!

Hi Paps, I'd like to second everything ClareC said. Don't feel bad, it's so hard to know how things are going to turn out. If you are happy with the nursery and they are kind and loving, there is no reason to think that it's a bad option. If he settles and is happy he will get a lot from it. But, I totally agree about avoiding one day a week. I did this with my little one and we had terrible difficutly. Two or even 3 morning or afternoons are a way better option. That way they get used to it, there is an element of routine. Also, remember that it's his first day, give it a chance. And if it doesn't work out, you're in an ideal position with maternity looming up and mum to help out. Good luck!

Okay, if its bothering him, then definitely go back to the GP. My first little one got excema. I was given a whole array of things to put on him. In his case, the most effective was hydrocortisone (not to be applied too liberally). You have to be prescribed it and effectively it takes a layer off your skin (or something like that) so you only put a small amount on the affected area for I think just a couple of days. Again, your gp needs to explain this and prescribe it. The other thing that we applied long-term and more generously, was hydromol ointment (not cream). It looks like vaseline and poor little chap looked like a basted chicken, but it did put a stop to the excema. Lastly if you give him a bath don't use any product except maybe oilatum (or something like it), definitely no baby soaps, bubbles, shampoos, even if they say they are hyper-allergenic. Nothing is best. To this day, I only wash his hair every couple of months and he's almost 4. He doesn't need it, so long as you wet the hair. The other thing, and I don't mean to alarm you, sometimes excema goes hand in hand with asthma. My eldest has asthma and we were very slow in diagnosing it. It probably won't in your case, put just keep an eye out. Gosh, sorry for the long lecture. Hope that helps.

Congratulations! I found 'What to expect in the first year' very useful. And Emma's Diary, even if it is a bit naff at times. The best thing I did was join an NCT group. Not for the info they give you, but because we all kept in touch, met regularly, and were always going through similar stages with our babies. Was a fantastic support network and they've become really good friends.

My little one had something similar at around 3 months. Didn't seem to bother him. I spoke to a friend who was a retired GP specialised in dermatology and she reckoned best do nothing. Still it didn't seem to go so I took him to the doctors and they prescribed hydrocortisone cream. It seemed to help, but the dr didn't really know exactly what it was. Hope that helps. If you're worried, go see the GP or HV, just for peace of mind.

Sounds like she's fine. Also, does OH see her during the day? Or perhaps in the evening when she's beginning to get tired and cranky.

Oh, and for public breastfeeding, you could try wearing a poncho. Nobody will know there's a baby under there feeding!

I'm not absolutely sure about this, but I think breastmilk can go off rather quickly. If you do want to keep it, make sure its kept cool. Maybe suss out for yourself what it tastes like when its off. I know trying your own milk might seem a bit weird, but trying it yourself beforehand I think is a good safety mechanism. I remember once expressing milk before taking a plane. It was in the fridge for half an hour then I put it in a compartment that should have kept it cold. Less than 2 hours later when i was going through security they asked me to try it and it was most definitely off.