Its just not there. Anywhere . I have five single girl friends ages 38-44, all different, attractive, aproachable, interesting, not too annoying or irritating. There is nothing wrong with any of them. They try everything they can to meet decent men, they are always out and joined to all kinds of clubs. They are not too picky nor will they just settle for anything to avoid being on their own. In my opinion, meeting the right one is more down to luck than judgement .