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jimmyay Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > i could rant all day about this topic........ > >*yawn* don't bother.

thanks Saffron, that's great

Yes Belle, the medication can cause an upset tummy / diarrhea, that's what the specialist at Kings told us. Not ideal I know. :(

My 8 month old baby has a temp (not too drastic I don't think, 38.8) and is pretty hot to the touch. Plus sneezing, lots of mucus etc, so think just a heavy cold coming on. Am I right in thinking that I should have her in less covers tonight, i.e not a 2.5 grobag but maybe 1.5? thanks in advance for advice.. p.s Re: the post from the GP about getting medical advice on the forum, I would of course take her to doc if symptoms worsen or her temp increases, am just wanting to check what others do about bedding when their babies have temps..x

yes, in our case when she got to 6 months, reducing milk and solids banished the effects of reflux :)

Marion OHalloran Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I think if yummy mummies or yummy daddies want to > take the children to the pub... God this phrase is getting tired. yawn. just Yaaaaaawn.

large7 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Children in pubs in the ED/Peckham area are > particularly irritating as they're smug media > parents let their brats get away with way too > much. > > I've been to pubs in other areas where kids are > polite and well behaved. So, it's not children > that are the problem, it's their smug, moneyed, > horrible middle class parents that are. Ah, Troll O'clock I see. yawn. maybe 1/10 for effort.

Strawbs it sounds as if you and Jaws are doing brilliantly, working in shifts is a good idea, and don't worry, shift work doesn't continue forever (vividly remember missing my partner acutely the first few weeks and wondering if we were ever going to be 'on the same shift' as each other again!) Ty not to worry about your partner going back to work as Fuschia and Belle say..I remember a while ago there was a thread on here talking about how, instead of people having baby showers etc before the baby, that a better twist on that idea would be if people actually came to your house in a group on the day your partner went back to work, as that is when you really appreciate it! Some people like to know that they've arranged a visitor or something to do for practically every day in the period immediately after their partner goes back to work, while I would have found that too much pressure to be up and dressed and preferred to see how I felt on the day, whether I wanted to see people etc, But as you know there are lots of us on here that are out and about every day with babies, so you needn't feel like you're on your own when your partner goes back, I'm sure you've already made local mum friends is ante natal classes or one of the meet up thread on here, and you will soon meet lots of others too so it is much less daunting when you're doing the days at home without partner, than you worry it will be before it happens. Lots and lots of people have it that their baby might spend part of the night in their moses basket, but at a certain point, maybe after one of the feeds, the baby is happier not going back into the basket so switches into your bed for the rest of the night. Most mums I know had this sort of set up for the first few weeks, while the baby got more used to spending longer periods in the basket. Hope you're enjoying those snuggles!

the independent midwife Verona Hall who is based locally does a weaning class I think google her name and her website comes up.

If you're not particularly interested in a thread or you don't feel it's relevant to you don't have to click on it, after all? I don't think we really need different sections for different ages, we can all exercise our own choice over which threads we open surely? I don't often open ones about secondary school admissions, for example, (apart from to scare myself) as my little one is still a baby, but I'm glad they're there, so I can dip in when I want to. And as Otta says, sometimes it's incredibly useful for people with younger babies to have advice and hear the stories of those with older children, that's part of the joy of the family room!

Our doc at dmc was keen for us to be referred to paeds gastro clinic at Kings rather than her prescribe anything stronger than infant gaviscon herself, so that is the route we went down and got both domperidone and ranatidine prescribed at Kings. But I do know people who were prescribed one of these directly by their doctor as the reflux was getting worse and the waiting list for Gastro clinic at Kings can be long. So it is possible to get direct from doc at their discretion ,and I suppose, depending on which doc! Initially we were given an appointment at Kings 2 months in the future, but after phoning the clinic several times to plead our case - on the advice of another specialist at Kings who was concerned that our daughter was not getting enough sustenance - it got brought forward, so it is possible for this to happen if circs are seen as more urgent. (Our case for having a more urgent appt was that our daughter had dropped 3 centiles, also had tongue tie that was never treated as wasn't spotted till 6 months, so that combined with the reflux it meant she really wasn't taking much milk at all, and wasn't really thriving.) Perhaps the waiting list was just especially long at that time though, and even with a 'non urgent' apt perhaps you don't always have to wait 2 months for referral.

How did Lex get on at her first formal dinner party Ruth?? Or did she start snaffling EBM in time to leave her?

That's so lucky Pickle! You better get all the sleep you can now! It is a small consolation that although she has been up for many hours, she does as we speak look really rather winsome in a beautiful hand knitted cable knit vest...so thank you for that! x

with the clocks going back you can make that 3 o'clock Ratty...::o

That's an interesting question, is there a sort of cut off age? I don't know.. I have wondered in recent years when groups of teenagers have come to my mum's door asking for cash, not sweets, whether their parents are imagining that their teenage boys (not meaning to generalise, just has tended to always be groups of teenage boys at mum's door rather than girls) are asking for penny sweets or do they know they're going out to ask for cash, potentially, like in my mum's case from pensioners, or egging their house etc if the door isn't opened. If so, do the parents of groups like this think it's all part of the fun, or would they be horrified to know that's what their teenagers were doing. I think if I had a 15 year old that was getting dressed up for trick or treating and it wasn't to accompany a little sister or brother door to door, I probably wouldn't think they were going out to do what the 6 year olds were doing...but I don't have a teenager so maybe I'd just trustingly think 'awwww bless, they still want to dress up for sweeties...!'

My first experience of this with a baby. ....gah. zzzzzz....hope they get the hang of it in a few days...!

Congrats! Strawbs do you have a miracle blanket? the stretchy swaddle? Our baby would only sleep on me during the day for the first 2 months and would only sleep in our bed for the first 2 months at night, we literally never got to use the moses basket we bought! But when I started using the miracle blanket it helped make the transition to the bednest for both daytime naps and night time. You can buy the miracle blanket in Mothercare in Peckham I think if you don't have one? Or you could borrow ours for a few days until you get a chance to get one, if you're local I could pop it over? (would lend it to longer but have promised it to another friend about to have a baby!) Let me know if you'd like to try it if you don't have one? x edited to say - realised that my saying my daughter wouldn't sleep except on me for first couple of months might alarm you! It isn't very usual for it to be for that long, and we weren't really making many attempts to change it, I kind of resigned myself to being a human mattress for a few weeks, but your little boy will prob be happily sleeping in his moses basket in a few days! I just meant that I wish I'd swaddled from the beginning as it helped so much, we actually only swaddled for daytime naps, not night time but I should think most people would do both.

Hoping to come along tonight!

that's them mrs f - the link snowboarder has put up. You can get them in soup dragon - you can buy them in a pack with the matching plate, which I didn't bother with, as you can also get them in there in a pack with just the two spoons and no plate which is a few quid cheaper..

think it's usually tuesdays 9:30 -12:30

It might be quite a nice thing if people know there is someone older, or frailer, on their street who might feel intimidated by door knocking / potential for tricks, to invite them round that evening so they're not home alone, whether that's for a Halloween-less evening or to have a slice of pumpkin pie if you're making something fun of it! I know my mum isn't alone in feeling quite anxious that night, my gran used to be scared s*itless when people rang her bell on Halloween, even if it is all harmless fun outside, I think sometimes it's hard for people who feel vulnerable to differentiate between the sounds of high jinks and something that sounds more threatening. And actually, something like egging the windows, or coming up through the bushes in the front garden with masks on and pressing faces against her windows, has really scared my mum before.. don't want to sound like a killjoy! Certainly not saying that people shouldn't have fun on Halloween! Just that trick or treating strangers houses unless they have a pumpkin out, maybe isn't such a great thing..

My mum is frail and lives near us in East D and I have taken to inviting her round to ours on Halloween in recent times as there were way too many groups of teenagers wearing scream masks (prob 13 - 15 ish) trick or treating her and asking for money, not sweets. Trouble is, you only know if it's groups like that, rather than little kids with parents asking for chocs when it's too late and you've gone to the door. And my mum was finding that if she turned back without answering because she was intimidated the teenage groups could see her in the hall cos there are glass panels in her front door, and played 'tricks' because she hadn't come and given them stuff. Tricks being eggs thrown against windows etc. I do worry about vulnerable people living on their own being quite intimidated on Halloween. Definitely seems best to only go to houses that have pumpkins or friends houses, that's what we did when we were little, just went to a couple of friends houses, and we were totally chuffed with that, still got to dress up, eat chocolates etc.

lots of thanks for your advice jollybaby, Fuschia, Cuppa tea and KatsuQueen, will be using these tips and trying to relax about it...while repeating the mantra 'everything's a phase!....'

yes yes jollybaby!!! She has simultaneously just started to resist being put into her buggy!! I think you're onto something! Relieved miss jb was doing similar stuff at 8 months...maybe it'll all come out in the wash, as it were....

Lochie I don't think that's a stupid question at all! I've always wondered the same thing! I didn't take ear plugs because for some reason they have never 'worked' on me and I have always been able to hear everything while wearing them (funny shaped ear canals perhaps?!) but I have heard stories from friends who said that a nurse had to wake them up because their baby was crying! Having said that, I can't imagine with everything going on on William Gilliat ward that there would be a situation where you would be sleeping so soundly that you wouldn't hear your baby! Unless others have had a good sleep there with ear plugs?