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duchessofdulwich Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > Tried to trim her fringe this morning whilst > distracting her with mr tumble! She was having > none of it. That's just sparked a strange memory - when I was little, probably about 7 I think, my mum got so tired of trying to bargain with me about getting my long hair cut / tying it back that I remember one day she came up behind me when my hair was in a ponytail and literally cut my ponytail off! Looking back, especially now being a mum myself, this seems really quite an odd thing to have done!

particularly if the baby came a little early and they may not have got round to doing this for themselves, cooking something like a lasagne to freeze in portions is a nice thing to do. If you were thinking of a specific present more then a baby sheepskin / lambskin is lovely but quite expensive (new they are about 40 quid) or I only discovered the 'miracle blanket' stretchy baby swaddle which you can buy from mothercare or online from amazon and other places, a couple of months in - if someone had given me that as a present at the beginning it would have saved a lot of pacing round blackout rooms trying to get my little one to sleep! They are about 14 quid I think and I found much easier / more effective than when I tried to swaddle with a normal / cellular type blanket, and without the anxiety of overheating etc. Will definitely buy that for new parents in the future x

thanks womanofdulwich - but how do you make the gap any longer? i.e if for instance I gave her tea at 4:00/4:30 (which I think would be pretty early compared to what friends seem to be doing, maybe I'm wrong?) then I don't think she would have an appetite for it as she would only have had her lunchtime milk feed 1.5 - 2 hours earlier, so whichever way I try to tweak it the prob seems to remain the same - she isn't used to having to consume something only a couple of hours apart from having last done so, but that's kind of the requirement of weaning isn't it?! Would be interested to know what sort of timings most people are / were doing at this point (just turning 7 months) and if they vary greatly to what I'm trying 7am milk feed - only wants half of it because she had a dream feed - see below! 7:45/8:00 breakfast (forget it - she has no interest in porridge etc having just had a milk feed) 11:00 lunch - sometimes need to give 3oz ish of milk first as she doesn't seem to want to have that meal as just solids yet, or at least, isn't that keen to have the solids until the edge has been taken off her hunger with a bit of milk first 2:30 milk feed - will only want half of this because she's had lunch earlier! 5:00/5:30- tea 6:45 - milk feed, will only want half of this as she has had tea recently! 10:30 dreamfeed - wanted to be dropping this but tricky as she is going to bed with only half her bedtime milk inside her and when I try not to give it she sometimes wakes up at 5:30am. 7am again - doesn't want breakfast milk feed, let alone breakfast solids, presumably because she had a dream feed, which I had to give her to get her to sleep through because she didn't want bedtime milk, because she'd had tea, repeat to fade, you get the picture!

We are a month into solids and it feels like it'a always a struggle to get milk feeds down now, presumably as she is still full from the last meal / general increased intake of food. Obviously I'm trying to space milk feeds / solids out in such a way that she should have an appetite for both, and constantly tinkering with that equation to try and make it work better, but it also seems to stand to reason to me that if 3 or 4 weeks ago she went 4 hours between milk feeds and was sated just by those, she would logically have a problem incorporating a whole new set of extra 'meals' in addition and having an appetite for them! Does this just get easier over time as their appetites get bigger and bigger and should I cut down on the amount of solids I'm giving her to improve her appaetite for her milk? (i.e an example would be, if she has solids tea at 5 or 5:30, she will only take half her bedtime milk feed at 6:30/45ish, which kind of doesn't surprise me, but aren't those timings roughly what most babies do? Even if I move tea earlier to 5 and move bedtime feed back to 7 (which I don't really want to do as it works better for us to have lights out at 7), she still doesn't want the milk. Same thing earlier in the day, after solids lunch at 11:00/11:30 is she is not that hungry for lunch time milk at 2:00 etc, and may only want half...again, would I cut down on solids? feeling rather fuzzy headed about it all..any advice greatly appreciated! p.s assume it standard procedure that a home made chicken casserole you have lovingly made from Annabel Karmel would be greeted with indifference whereas if you open an Ella's pouch chicken casserole 2 mins later it will be greeted like nectar from the gods??! sigh!

and were you offended or pleased sophiechristophy? I have to say I'd be pleased, which is possibly not very 'girl power' of me but there you go :)

MILF: Mother I'd Like To F***...

just had a shower and did massage and already it's reducing, thanks Craigy and Moos! x

Moos I know exactly what you mean about the conflicting feelings, just stopped a week ago, baby will be 7 months in a few days and breast feeding has been, well, a struggle - she has reflux, tongue tie and wouldn't feed in public (got too distressed if I tried) so I've been pretty housebound for the last 7 months as could only ever go out for about 2 hours max - basically only in ED! Plus she always refused a bottle until a month ago so there wasn't the option of someone else giving a bottle when I was in tears of frustration after she refused/cried her way through the third feed of the day because of her various feeding probs, add into that worries about supply due to her falling several centiles and the questions from the hvs about why, and I thought that I would feel just pure relief when we stopped, but instead, spent several days last week bursting into tears at the drop of a hat because we had stopped. I guess the hormones must also go haywire when you stop which must have contributed, but I also felt / feel an overwhelming sense of sadness that it's over, and I think a sense of grief that it didn't 'go better'. I would see friends or strangers feeding their baby in a cafe, or even just on their own sofa, with the little one latched on no probs and just comfortably suckling away and feel such pangs that breast feeding felt such a difficult and stressful thing for us from the beginning,and would say to my partner regularly in the first couple of months that the daily struggle to feed her was inhibiting our bonding, rather than strengthening it, which of course was not what I dreamt of when I was pregnant and looking forward to breast feeding. But She doesn't seem to mind half as much as I do that we've stopped - she barely seems to have registered it! She's probably relieved about the ease with which she can drain a bottle having struggled to feed with her tongue tie for all these months too! But I still feel very wobbly about it...like you we're doing extra cuddles and singing at bedtime though which is lovely :)

thanks so much Craigy, that's good to know, will do the same and hopefully get it moving..

I stopped breast feeding about 10 days ago and it seemed to go okay, I was careful to reduce length of feeds gradually / pump so that I didn't get engorged / mastitis, especially as I'd had mastitis a couple of weeks earlier and didn't want to get it back through the process of stopping. I thought everything had settled down, but one boob has felt increasingly sore since the day I stopped and seems to be getting worse, and now I can feel there is a lump about the size of a ten pence piece which is half under the nipple, half not, if you see what I mean. Of course I will get this checked by a gp as soon as possible but I assume it's a blocked duct - does that seem likely? And what could I do about this to try and relieve the pain a bit tonight given that I can't feed as have given up feeding and I can't see that anything would come out now if I pumped - ten days after stopping - and in fact, by co-incidence, my pump broke at the same time I was giving up feeding so don't have a pump in the house anyway! Can having a hot bath and massaging with flannels do anything if that's not a pre-cursor to actually letting milk out of your boob? i.e is it only possible to use that as a method if you still have an active supply or might it help anyway? thanks for any advice about what I could do

> > And returning now to semantics... I aksed my > husband what his definition of a 'yummy mummy' is, > and would he be insulted if someone said I > was/wasn't one? He said a 'yummy mummy' is a > 'MILF', and then he waggled his eyebrows in a > suggestive manner and went back to watching > football. So here we are ladies, hefting our > metaphorical rocks up and down the hill, while it > seems the blokes may have a completely different > take on it altogether. It's true - the term yummy mummy means different things to different people, when it was first coined by the media about a decade ago, if I remember rightly, it was very tongue in cheek and almost an admiring/appreciative term, and now seems to be used solely in a derogatory way Wikipedia definition yummy mummy Urban Dictionary definition of yummy mummy

> > > Well thank goodness for that... more time for > drinking wine and visiting galleries now ;-) snarf! :)

Pickle Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Well said Moos. > > It's very well talking now about what you'll be > like before you've had your baby - you may be > surprised at how your views change once you have a > baby to look after, as even if it's only for a few > months you too may find you suddenly talk about > poo :) Couldn't agree more - was with a friend the other day who held her baby aloft to do the classic sniff of the bum to see if her nappy needed changing and she burst out laughing and said ' I swore I'd never do that when I was pregnant...!' - I think it's just possible you may surprise yourself by finding that you talk about poo as much as the next woman when your baby arrives Josie ;-)

Just as the thread title says really! I would like to buy a second hand tripp trapp (no luck so far please let me know if you have one to sell!) and am wondering if I end up having to get all the different parts separately on ebay or something, if all the bits are useable on both the old style and new style chair - I see the design changed slightly at some point. So can you interchange the old leather strap babyset and the new plastic one on both old and new style highchair? And can you interchange the old style cushion sets with the new style cushion sets on both old and new style highchair? I don't want to buy all the bits and realise they won't work together cos they're a mix of old and new if you see what I mean! Advice from tripp trapp veterans greatly appreciated Edited to say, not being lazy, I would ring customer services but for Great Britain customer services is based in Germany so asking the forum before resorting to phoning abroad! x

I started with the medela swing and then switched to the ameda lactaline because I wasn't convinced by the medela. For me, the ameda was considerably more effective in yielding milk, but I'm sure others would have found it the other way round! Even though it is a double pump, I've never go the hang of pumping both at once, think I'm too malcoordinated. I think you can get special bras designed to hold the pumps in place though, leaving hands free for book or laptop or whatever, maybe I should have invested in one of those! Also like the fact that as Yak says, you can buy spare parts very cheaply online if you need to replace a bit..

I think someone was selling one on the forum in the last few weeks Strawbs, an avent one (the one we have, fits all bottles I think), do a search and see if you can find it. I find it very useful but agree you could do without it.

what was her first word?? x

There is one room with a built in pool - room 12 - ask for it as soon as you get there in the hopes it's available! They have 2 inflatable pools, though one was broken and not in use when we were looking into this a few months ago so there were only two available pools earlier this year if you include the built in one. Maybe they have fixed the 2nd inflatable now. I would say that if water is the main thing you've got your heart set on and your morale would plummet if you were to get there and not have a pool (which I have heard of happening to several friends) then take your own birth pool in a box as a back up, you can always leave it in the boot of your car if you get a pool room. That's the advice I was given! Pools often come up on the forum, and all you need is to get a new liner for 25 quid. Though actually pools that haven't even been used at the birth often come up on here (I sold mine on here after ending up in room 12 anyway and not inflating it!) x

Have you also tried promethazine (phenergan) as well as the two medications you're already on? I think this is the medication that Mrs TP is referring to in her post as well, I had hyperemesis and it was the only thing that helped (did try alternative treatments including acupuncture but to no avail). I really feel for you, it's just awful feeling so sick 24 hours a day, I was able to stop taking the medication and keep food / water down without it at week 20something, I forget exactly when, but it did really help. x

Yes I have to say in my experience they don't get stains out unfortunately..

thanks so much for responses, all very helpful, will look at Rapley and Karmel books and see what I think would suit us. Thanks so much for offer of lend Saffron, just ordered them before I saw it!

Morning, I would like to read up on weaning as we're approaching it (baby is 5 months but will wait until at least 6 months) - and work out whether to do BLW or a combo if that's possible? Is it possible to do BLW and combine with TW? Is anyone doing that? I don't know much about it yet but I have an instinct that I may not want to do just BLW as my baby has fallen 3 centiles and has reflux and tongue tie - latter two hopefully will be sorted soon, but perhaps because feeding has thus far been a difficult journey for us I can't envisage her wolfing down finger foods with gusto (though hope I'm wrong and she'll surprise me!) so hopefully it's possible to combine styles? what are the best books for me to look at on BLW and TW in your opinion? thanks for advice!

Lovely names Ruth! x

Napisan is great, you don't have to add that much to the wash (with fairy non-bio or whatever you're using as detergent) to get the poo stains out!

I think they have nice ones in both postmark the card shop on Northcross rd and Greetings card shop on LL.