My childs bad behaviour is because he/she is so bright. Discuss

[Ondine]

I must admit I hesitated before I posted but glad to see people were interested.

Very much agree with Pecanpie's comment about protecting their childhoods. Interesting thing I've seen with my older one is that she is less independent now halfway through year 7 than she was in year 6 and I've realised that that's fine - has been a hard transition and it's perfectly fine for her to step back and be babied a little bit.

[woofmarkthedog]

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Is a great joy being a parent ( my boys are 5 & 9 ) however, it's also a fairly daunting prospect that we have the responsibility to give our children useful skills & emotional ammunition, so as to thrive as well balanced, useful adults in the future

Our children are in the main a reflection of our sum parts. As parents, the real work starts with us first. It is our responsibility to have an emotional audit all of our own . Consider which of our quirks & nuances we really want to pass on to our children & seek help with those that we can't shift all by ourselves.

After all picking noses at the dinner table in your family & during your childhood may have been okay, your current partner may also have chosen to ignore it too however, when we see our beautiful child sitting as a guest at a Birthday party, finger up their nose again & without a care in the world, we are horrified but know who to blame ( don't we ? )

An MOT of our inter-personal relationship doesn't hurt & I've rarely come across anyone who regretted seeking some qualified guidance

It takes team work to make a family function smoothly,a set of agreed tenants & rules regarding behavior. Discipline & general congeniality all go toward a happy house & a benign atmosphere

" Live in China , speak Chinese " is apt & though our children have characters all of their own, it's not until we see them reflecting our behavior that we stop in out tracks. Good or bad , generally it is mostly down to us.

Though the bright child may make the observations all the more pertinent.

W**F

( This Philip Larkin poem "This be the verse" sums it up http://www.artofeurope.com/larkin/lar2.htm )

[helena handbasket]

I've always loved that poem....... funny enough it's been rattling around in my head a lot these days (is that healthy?)

I'll blame it on my parents. :))

[Moos]

helena handbasket Wrote:

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> I'll blame it on my parents. :))

Now, are you really thinking that one through? :)

[littleEDfamily]

Mr Larkin is a right old ray of sunshine, isn't he?

[Ondine]

lol I was thinking that. Not exactly Supernanny!