Jump to content

Recommended Posts

SB: Ironing?! You're well organised, I haven't ironed since the fifth form (kilt. icks a yicks, to quote S).


I don't have a cleaner, but I do say 'Seb! LOOK! Octonauts!' and give him a biscuit to nom when I want to update my blog/lurk in facebook. So sue me! (We will have a cleaner soon, god help him/her...)


I also spend a lot of time lying on the sofa. I am pregnant and getting 3 hrs sleep a night. It's only fair!

The biggest downside to having a cleaner for me is that she isn't full time. By some strange interference from the universe, my house messes itself up within hours of her leaving. Obviously nothing to do with me or any of my children.


I think (some) people have this misconception that people with cleaners swan around like lady muck in a perfectly kept house, but the reality is most people have one for only 2-3 hours a week or fortnight and that's the domestic equivilent of having a facial (your skin looks glowing for a short time and then reverts back to its previous neglected state - but you do feel good while it lasts).

Moos Wrote:

-------------------------------------------------------

> To be clear, my ranting isn't aimed at any

> particular poster and I think I might be preaching

> to the converted anyway.

>

> I'm just astonished that these questions are being

> asked in the 21st century.

>

> Sorry if this is a major sense of humour bypass

> and I need to take a Valium or something.



I don't think anyone needs to justify anything. To be honest I was pretty stunned by the original question!! You would think after all this time women have the right to choose what they want to do. Having or not having a cleaner is a financial discussion, not whether someone deserves on or not surely. Who really wants to clean??? I mean really, if you can afford a cleaner, of all the interesting things we could be doing rather than cleaning! And the question of whether SAHM's should/shouldn't put their kids in nursery doesn't even justify a discussion. As someone has said, it's not the 1950s! It's all financial. I can't afford a cleaner, so I don't do it. My little 4 year old goes to nursery 2 mornings a week, where I get the baby to sleep, sit down, take a breath, make a tea, eat a chocolate biscuit and possibly go online. If i didn't do this I would probably have a nervous breakdown instead. To experience the 24 hours a day, 7 days a week of childcare that I have done for 3 years straight is incredibly intense. Surely any mum, working or not, would realise that? Or is it perhaps that they don't value the stay-at-home job?

I'm with Moos and Pickle!


Cleaner arrives shortly, daughter at nursery, Mr ClareC and I about to head out for lunch with baby ClareC - almost a child free lunch! Ironing pile will be sorted by the ironing lady on Thursday....... Now where did I put that emery board!!


Seriously though, if I didn't have a cleaner, the house would never get a full clean! Believe me I do plenty of cleaning and tidying between professional cleans! With 2 under 17 mths, ironing doesn't get done! Once both children in bed I generally am ready for bed myself, and am up in the night twice for night feeds! Certainly not up for tackling a mountain of ironing! As for nursery, it's two afternoons a week which is great for all of us on so many levels! Yes im a SAHM and no I don't feel guilty for this help! It's a financial choice of what to spend your money on!

I don't work full time, but do work 5 days a week and have no child free time at home (this is bing posted on my way to pick up from school). The girls are 6 and 4 and the house is too bloody big. I have no cleaner, could afford one at a pinch, but it is in such a state that I'm sure any cleaner would run for the hills at their first visit. So until I have the opportunity to spend several days getting it in a fit state it'll carry on in its downward spiral.


Sob.

Hands up it was me who started the discussion, though it did originate from the SAHM thread. I'm not getting at anyone, honestly.. just thought it would make for a bit of lively discussion (which it has)


Though I must say it's immensely reassuring to know that virtually everybody I know who has a nice clean house also has a cleaner! I was beginning to worry it was just me who is not superwoman.

F, you're not alone. It's my dream to have a cleaner and I keep telling myself 'one day, one day' but it just hasn't come yet - I'm gradually starting to realise that maybe it never will. If you could see my house then you'd know that superwoman is just a cartoon character. It's very easy to compare yourself & what you can achieve in your home with those who are lucky enough to have the luxury of a cleaner/ ironer/ gardner/ whatever, but don't do it -it's a slippery old slope! It's also OK to raise 4 children who know they're well loved and have a not so shiny home for them to live in.


(Goes off muttering "it's also OK to raise 4 children etc.etc. . . . . ." ad infinitum.)

Fuschia Wrote:

-------------------------------------------------------

> Hands up it was me who started the discussion,

> though it did originate from the SAHM thread. I'm

> not getting at anyone, honestly.. just thought it

> would make for a bit of lively discussion (which

> it has)

>

> Though I must say it's immensely reassuring to

> know that virtually everybody I know who has a

> nice clean house also has a cleaner! I was

> beginning to worry it was just me who is not

> superwoman.



I used to get really annoyed at the clean houses with small babies scenario! Then I realised they have cleaners and I'm still a bit annoyed....but it's pure envy! I should post photos of the relative squalid conditions (with no cleaner) that we live in at our house and I think you would all feel better!

Once, when baby number 2 was teeny tiny (a few weeks or less) MrS got a lady to come in and 'help' for a couple of sessions. She asked me where the hoover was kept - I didn't know. Am still not sure whether that's my proudest moment or my most shameful moment? Blamed lack of knowledge on baby brain of course :)).

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Latest Discussions

    • Highly recommend Dulwich Eco Gardening.  When he came to quote Saied said he’d give our garden back so we could decide what we do next.  Under two weeks of hard work from Saied and Mo and we have the garden back and can see paving I’d forgotten about. Not only did Saied remove our very overgrown greenery. Nature had taken over. He also took back to our fence line overgrown ivy, apple and pear trees and and dealt with a neighbours bamboo that had invaded our garden.  We are now going to get quotes for what we do next so those quoting will be able to see the space.  Saied has suggested someone to quote and will be coming back when he does in case he has any questions or they can work together.  I thought Saied would be a good choice and he was. Quotes from others didn’t leave me with confidence for the end result. That was never a concern with Saied.
    • Having a BBQ (fingers crossed) in 2 weeks and need a small BBQ for veggie bits and any spare benches or garden tables and chairs to borrow to add to mine. Any going? Thanks in advance...
    • Oh dear, hope you are OK, I've had it three times and it was worse each time, but not a patch on many of those who got it before they vac' role out. Not commenting on the discussion as I got confused many days ago beyond the reminder that Corbyn would not compromise and the harm that could lead to him, the party and regards Brexit pre and post referendum the country.  Starmer goes too far the other way at times.  
    • I am  ill in bed with Covid. It's not that I "can't be bothered" to read things. I am feeling crap and don't have the mental  energy at the moment. I am not "brushing stuff aside and pleading ignorance." I am truthfully saying when I don't presently know enough about something to be able to comment. I have always been very careful to try to  differentiate between fact and opinion in both  my posts and other people's, and I am not clear what your point is. And I am certainly not trying to wind anybody up. This is a forum. If you don't want to respond to my posts, that's up to you. I'm not sure why you feel the need to announce it.   
Home
Events
Sign In

Sign In



Or sign in with one of these services

Search
×
    Search In
×
×
  • Create New...