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For those interested, ITATM launched a personal attack on me on another thread for having the temerity to disagree with his/her views. Rather than carry on an unedifying argument in public, I sent him/her a polite private message defending myself. S/he responded saying s/he refused to read my message, so I answered saying it was a shame that s/he is so arrogant that they can't even bring themselves to read any criticism of their opinion. That's all - for reasons best known to him/herself s/he now wants to appear some hounded martyr. Rather pathetic really.

Always cracks me up when people are happy to get passive aggressive or on their high horse in a public discussion, but as soon as someone tries to discuss something privately ?oh on, I don?t do PM?s?. There?s a few people on here who can dish it out but can?t take it.



Childish...

"I see you've sent a PM .

While I agree that we shouldn't continue on the thread - I've made my points - I will not be reading any Pm's from you .


You are so judgemental and spoiling for a fight on the public thread ,I am not keen to read what you may voice on a PM .

Please leave me alone ."




Fair enough Rendel - you didn't like being told that you were judgemental and spoiling for a fight - I can understand that you'd want to respond .


I prefer ( though it may well be against EDF protocol ) to conduct such exchanges in public as opposed to PM .Though on reflection ,I'd prefer you to leave me alone .

You really can't see the irony in whining about not being left alone because someone sent you a PM and a reply to your response, on the one hand, and starting a whole new thread specifically to attack someone on the other?


Do unto others, etc...

intexasatthe moment Wrote:

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> Entiteled to your view JoeLeg ,but you might want

> to ask yourself why ,if the "unable to take it "

> party says don't send me PMs the "disher out"

> continues ?



Dude, stop digging.


You lost all moral high ground as soon as you started this thread.

I can see the difference Rendel .A public exchange means that all the posters can read what we both say .A private exchange means that they can't .


I started this thread because I'd asked you not to send me PMs and you ignored me .If you see that as a personal attack ,so be it .If the cap fits and all that .

Rendall, i will answer here as do not want to divert from the real issue in other thread. I can understand

when people do not want to continue diffrent opinions

through private messages, for many reasons. We can have different opinions, but I do believe when things become to personal , the real issue is often lost. Nothing is black or white, if people have opinions that are diffrent from your own, this should not invalidate either views. Rights and wrongs become very restrictive.

All that would be fine if people didn?t then continue discussion publicly, or state publicallyvthat they do not wish to receive PM?s etc.


It?s the internet, no one is forcing anyone to respond. It?s hypocritical to try and avoid debate but then continue to talk about it.

intexasatthe moment Wrote:

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> Joeleg - is that why you think people /I post ?

>

> To obtain the moral high ground ?

>

> You can't imagine that there might be other

> reasons - to express their views ,to hear others

> ,to correct an incorrect quote ?



You?ve completely missed the point. And I really can?t be bothered with this any more. Enjoy your cognitive dissonance.

I'm not trying to avoid the debate - I'd I've thought that was obvious - but if there's going to be one I prefer it to be conducted in public and not in private .


And as I've said ,my first choice would be if Rendelharris left me alone .But if he's going to continue criticising me ,I will respond .

intexasatthe moment Wrote:

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> And as I've said ,my first choice would be if

> Rendelharris left me alone .But if he's going to

> continue criticising me ,I will respond .


Passing lightly over the fact that it was you who moved the discussion on the other thread from a debate to personal insults, for future reference I would suggest if you want someone to "leave you alone" (i.e. allow you to state your opinions unchallenged) starting a whole thread about them is not the best way to achieve that aim.

rendelharris Wrote:

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> I really think it's a very slippery slope to allow

> posters to start threads to "call out" others

> personally in public, quite surprised it's

> permitted.


I'd agree with that - not the purpose of the forum and people can block each other surely


Not that I'm on either side of this argument, or even know anything about it

"passing lightly" - please don't .Let's have some examples .


Full quotes this time please ,not leaving out as you've previously done the important bits like "I'm guilty of this " and " for me it's a knee jerk reaction and makes me feel...." although I appreciate that it might undermine your argument that I'm patronising ,judgemental ,negative etc .


I would prefer you to leave me alone and not send me PMs ,you ignored the request which is why I started this thread .As I've said before if there's going to be criticism of me I would prefer it to be conducted openly .


It's got nothing to do with being allowed to state opinions unchallenged . Although you may want to work on your method of challenge - think about the opinion and don't leap to the belief that it constitutes an attack or is patronising .

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