daughter wants to dye her long blond hair black - any experience ED parents?

[Jules-and-Boo]

We've had tears over it, so it definitely means a lot to her but she is so beautiful and her hair is golden blond, so I'm worried about it ever coming out.

She's just thirteen...

[Daisylets]

Jules, I did the same a couple of years later than her - my opinion is let her, it's not a massive deal, it will grow back, or she can strip the black out.. I went from black to blonde - yes it was bad for my hair, but it was ok if you get the right hairdresser.. she'll hold it against you forever if you don't let her - she wants to express herself - there could be bigger and more dangerous battles than hair colour I think personally xxx

[yeknomyeknom]

Been there, done that. Black is bad for blonde hair so get a hairdresser to do it, I recommend the Inoa range which is conditioning. Willis B do it as do many others. Also look into colour washes or sprays to trial it first. Peckham have lots of wig shops!

[Jules-and-Boo]

Thank you both. I didn't think I'd be able to say no, for reasons stated but she's been given alternatives....

I sent her to her sister's room -she's got an app whet you can play with make up /hair colour etc. She has now opted for a new style and highlights.... I feel I like I've been given a reprieve.

Until the next thing. I guess the need for independence is strong, given she sees her older sister having more freedom.

[hammerman]

Oh dear, your daughter is only 13 and some people are saying it's ok etc.

Personally I would say a firm "no" and hope she can move on!

[Jules-and-Boo]

I did say no, hence the tears. Glad she's made her own choice not to.

[Daisylets]

Glad it's averted! ps if she goes down that train of thought again from blonde to black - when I did it that way around I think I had to dye mine red first before black to put the pigment in otherwise could go green ... definitely needs a professional job - good luck!

[EPB]

What about a wig? You could take her for a walk down Rye Lane, where she?ll be spoilt for choice.

[HJNMNunhead]

It's actually illegal to use dye in your hair until you are 16, have a look at the packets and see what they say. I also talked to a hairdresser about dying hair under 16 and they wouldn't do it.Read this BBC article on the subject

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-41796586

My daughter age 14 wants to dye her hair! I've used this as a way of saying no.

[flocker spotter]

It isn't illegal; salons are just advised against it because the products have not been tested on people under 16 and there is a possibility (as with anyone) of a dermatological reaction. It is a precaution only.

[bli]

Having similar discussions here with my 14 year old. I think I?ve almost agreed to a semi permanent dye as a compromise. Can anyone suggest what to use? Thinking of doing it at home but have no clue... dark brown hair going red.

[Pugwash]

Having Auburn hair, my eldest daughter, when at university dyed her hair black, it did not suit her, went to a hair dresser to get the dye out some time later. Hair never returned to the beautiful auburn colour and went and stayed at non descript brown. Her daughter, a strawberry blond, did the same but did not use a permanent dye, so her hair returned to a pale ginger colour - she now uses mainly red semi permanent dyes of different shades.

Youngest daughter with very dark brown hair had no desire throughout her teenage and university years to change colouring. Now a mum of 2 is currently red, previously aubergine.

I suggest highlights or low lights as a compromise for a full head colouring. Ward of warning - schools can come down heavily on changes in hair colouring.

[Jules-and-Boo]

Thanks mums. I think we'll be going down Rye Lane for a wig as well - just so she realises she can change her hair at whim with no dire consequences.

[nina_maniana]

I tried to do this when I was a teenager. My parents didn't ban me, they just said I'd have to pay to get it done out of my own money. I saved all my wages from babysitting etc and went to see some hairdressers. They all refused to do it. I'm glad now!

[nunheadmum]

It's also worth checking if the school has any rules about dyed hair. I worked in a school which had this to avoid kids making statements with their hair. While highlights and similar changes may go unnoticed (can be debated whether they should!), a major change like blond to black could spark a reaction.