Single parents in ED

[SteveT]

Yeah, but other than that Chav, how do you get on with maximay(?)

[bluecanary]

*treads carefully round the hornet's nest*

I'm a single parent Cherry.

[ChavWivaLawDegree]

I try not to have to, Steve!

[SteveT]

A wise move say I

[lozzyloz]

I think I know what Maximay's problem is. There's groups for gay and single parents, black/asian mothers, disabled parents and parents of parents. However the group for single parents not getting a shag has suddenly seen a 50% drop in membership. Nice one CWALD ;-)

[ChavWivaLawDegree]

Lol - haha it's not that ex I've been shagging, I reckon Maximay would have been even more poisonous if it were!! It's my cute young ex-bf I've been liaising with again.

[Keef]

Well isn't this nice, a group of people ganging up on someone. You guys are hard as nails man.

[annaj]

A quick look back throuh Maximay's post does show that he/she never misses an opportunity to have a go at CWALD and does seem to have inconsistent gender (couple sharing a username?) which is odd. But on the other hand Keef's right, to go from that to thinking you know who he/she is, does seem like a bit of a leap and ganging up isn't very nice.

Also, it's completely hijacked poor Cherry's thread - presumably she's still out there waiting to hear from other single parents. I'm not one, sorry, but good luck!

[Keef]

Maximay is a bloke. It's not my place to say anything else about him though.

[EDmummy]

This is all so off thread. Give Cherry a go at some on thread responses!!

[annaj]

Fair enough Keef, I was mostly supporting you, sorry if it sounded like I wasn't.

I respect you standing up for him and I think you're right that it's out of order to gang up and get personal.

[SeanMacGabhann]

well - if I was a single parent in ED I would consider the following

The baby group days in the Plough and EDT have, the 2 times I've encountered them, appeared really really friendly and approachable

The Park appears to be full of people with kids who end up interracting - esp near the cafe

Arrange a sitter and come along to next forum drinks and meet several other people with kids who would be only to happy to buy you a drink and give some advice (ya won't get the chaotic off-topic chip-ins you see on the threads)

are all those really predictable?

[Maximay]

Well, sorry to say you are wrong on that score Chav, but whatever floats your boat....I do have to admit though I have since taken a very honest look through my posts and I have kind of waged a very unfair one man war against a lot of what you have said, posted and stood for, I think a lot of it is to do with your involvement in the drugs industry, (which my son was fatally involved with) and things relating to that way of life, and even though you did say you were sorry and regretted your involvement in it all, it didn't feel sincere somehow and I felt that you were basically sticking your fingers up at society in general by minimalising it all and whilst I do not blame you personally for anything or everything that goes on to do with drugs, I kind of homed in on it, I have a lot of the anger and nowhere to vent it. I do not know you personally, though many people on here have said, through knowing you personally, that you are in fact a nice person, if I am being honest, the annonymity of this internet forum has allowed me to an extent, (not necessarily correctly), take out my anger and frustrations on possibly underserving people, and whilst I am not condoning my behaviour, picture that painting by Munch, "the scream" and thats exactly how I feel sometimes, maybe its best if when I am feeling like that and I am feeling that low, its not a good idea to come onto the forum.

[Keef]

*Applauds*

Takes a big person to write a post like that!

Aaaanyway, single parent groups anyone???

[pepperkinski]

I'm a single parent (though I do share care of my son with my ex).

[LizzygotDizzy]

Am single!!!(ish) hehe! ;-)though do have a few FBs that I can call on in times of dire need. >:D<

(In relation to Maximay - fair dinkum mate, respect your honesty and ability to put your hands up and publicly take responsibility for being mean to Chav! - (Chav bashing! hopefully that will be the last of it now)

[snorky]

So has thick forum become a pick up spot for single parents who have got lost in a sexual desert ?

tut tut tut

[maxbabe]

what a good idea.......single dads where are y'all

[ChavWivaLawDegree]

Maximay said ".I do have to admit though I have since taken a very honest look through my posts and I have kind of waged a very unfair one man war against a lot of what you have said, posted and stood for" -

appology accepted but you still didn't answer you how you were female in your first post and male in your last two.

[Maximay]

What? because I said kids instead of saying grandkids never getting anything off their dad for xmas eva? Ok, make of it what you will. If that does indeed make me a woman, you'd better send round a frock then for me!

[ChavWivaLawDegree]

Any particular style you'd prefer?

I have a nice little leopard skin number I can't fit into anymore.

[Maximay]

Thank you for being so understanding, I don't think I actually deserve it, (the understanding-ness not the leopard skin frock I might add! you can send that to me in the post)

[KalamityKel]

Can we get back to the topic of the thread plz? As much as this is reading at ur digs go take it elsewhere and stop hogging this space! :P

[Maximay]

...I was being nice, actually making progress at it, but point taken kalamity

[ChavWivaLawDegree]

I think life as a single parent can get hard becuase sometimes you need someone to take over from running everything for a bit so you can just chill and recharge.

I find it wierd that I've been a mum for 22 years and am only now working out how to do it with the help of feedback from my older kids.

There doesn't seem to be a lot of single parents in East Dulwich and I did find it a strange sight seeing so many couples with granny in tow pushing their precious little sprogs on the swings in Dulwich Park on Saturdays.

I think you may need to frequent Peckham Pulse ball room to find local-ish single parents.