Dulwich tandoori police raid

[Jeremy]

Yeah I guess UB has made his bed to a certain extent, as he clearly has a rather 'confrontational' forum persona.

Clearly the joke CAN be (presumably) misinterpreted, as about 50% of the posters here have demonstrated. But I'm still struggling to see why, out of the many meanings you could infer, so many people automatically jump to the worst case scenario.

[StraferJack]

On the vague subject of Indian restaurant staff, I was mildly surprised to learn that Dita at Tandoori Nights has transferred to the Fulham branch

She was outside LL last week and I mentioned I hadn't seen her for a while (mostly because I haven't been there for a long time) when she said. Feels like end of an era...

[DJKillaQueen]

'I do not need to pigeon hole people to form an opinion'

Oh really UncleBen? Most of your attacks on various people on this forum do exactly just that!!!! You are the worst person for it! Not only that, you clearly have been around way longer than the registered start date of you current alias. That in itself says something.

SJ is spot on in his reasoning imo.

[*Bob*]

How that other thread going, fl0wer..? The one where we all try to live together in peace and harmony?

QED

[KidKruger]

Very cheap comments on here branding UB a racist though, or 'implying' such.

So easy to hurl that one isn't it, even when totally unsubstantiated.

Pure slander.

[Mick Mac]

UncleBen Wrote:

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Am v disappointed SJ, you used to

> be level headed.

When was that exactly :)

[Mick Mac]

StraferJack Wrote:

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> On the vague subject of Indian restaurant staff, I

> was mildly surprised to learn that Dita at

> Tandoori Nights has transferred to the Fulham

> branch

>

> She was outside LL last week and I mentioned I

> hadn't seen her for a while (mostly because I

> haven't been there for a long time) when she said.

> Feels like end of an era...

She's been "promoted", in the words of the owner.

[LadyDeliah]

I was asked why I was offended and I explained why. If you don't agree with me fair enough.

I judged his post on past posts and I would bet anyone ?50 he is a 'working class' white male in his 50-60's.

I evaluated in the context of the contents of his posts and from this conclude he is probably in that demographic. The unpleasant views he espouses fit with a certain section of that demographic.

If I'm wrong, shoot me.

[fl0wer]

*Bob* Wrote:

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> How that other thread going, fl0wer..? The one

> where we all try to live together in peace and

> harmony?

>

> QED

No *Bob*, that was not what it was about. The topic I posted, if you would do me the favour of reading it, was about reducing unnecessary aggression by each person identifying honestly their own need.

In the context of the forum it often looks as though the only requirement for some people is to bait others and create maximum spotlight on their 'naughtiness' = tactic of severely neglected children. Also it's a truism, but bullied children soon grow to be bullies themselves, this is as old as Time & zoologists observe it in troupes of primates & call it 'bicycling', because the subordinated creature then goes off and scrabbles over something else, weaker & smaller than itself.

Given how humans are in such a mess, facilities of online communication offer 1,000 ways for aggression to get worse or better.

But 3 things a computer won't ever do on its own,

1) substitute for real friends,

2) do the work of self-awareness or

3) make societies break the default position of bullying happening whilst kindly people are absent.

['bout now]

> Otta, I have worked with Stephen Fry. He would

> absolutely not find the suggestion that indian

> restaurants need illegal immigrants for their

> underpants as the secret ingrediant to a korma

> recipe funny.

DJKQ GOLD!

[Dopamine1979]

Clearly what we have here is a breakdown in communication. There will be no winners or losers in this debate.

http://gifsoup.com/view1/1297473/not-listening-dumb-and-dumber-o.gif

[*Bob*]

Most people come on here as a diversion from everyday life*, not to make themselves a better person. Threads with extended repeat viewings are almost always the ones with childish scrapping and confrontation. Like this one.

It's the same reason why people watch Eastenders.

*or find a plumber

[Jeremy]

I don't think it's a breakdown in communication. It's about whether a statement which has several possible connotations - one of which is offensive - is OK.

Some people think it's not OK to leave yourself open to interpretation in that way. Others don't see a problem. I'm fine with either of those opinions. But a couple of people are effectively saying "I think you meant that, therefore you're racist"... which just doesn't make sense.

[Mick Mac]

*Bob* Wrote:

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> Most people come on here as a diversion from

> everyday life*, not to make themselves a better

> person.

Exactly. Although some fund their online persona a great reassurance and something to cling to.

[fl0wer]

Well is it OK then, to use the EDF and a question about a tandoori restaurant, for unleashing the 'online troublemaker' or 'jungle bully' persona?

What's the motivation for constant return to it here?

Why not keep it for a less multicultural forum, eg private writings, or own blog / facebook?

[*Bob*]

fl0wer Wrote:

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> What's the motivation for constant return to it

In a word - "bunfight"

[Jeremy]

Is it OK for someone to join (and re-join) the EDF specifically to piss off other users and start arguments? Clearly not. I don't see anyone saying that it is.

[Dog duck]

Perhaps you should all agree to disagree. This thread is 'Pants'

[DulwichFox]

Look... Dulwich Tandoori is still open..

I had a take-away Monday night. which was excellent..

Had a good chat with the owner... all is fine..

Restaurant busy..

Nothing has changed..

Everyone needs to get over it.

DulwichFox.