I wish I......

[KidKruger]

Hold on. On a packed commuter train where you see the same faces every day there's every chance of embarrassing oneself, so easy on the lecture !

[steveo]

You don't want your balls growing on the train

[Salsaboy]

Alas she wasn't on the train yesterday and I'm back to driving from now on, so that's the end of that. Ho hum.

[yansavx]

risk and reward

embarrassment never killed anyone

do a simple cost benefit analysis

and you'll find you were very silly for keeping quiet.

[Jeremy]

Get back on that train... just for one day... and do what has to be done.

Strike up a pleasant conversation - think of 3 or 4 possible subjects in advance which are fairly natrual, trivial and non-creepy. Don't stare at anything you're not supposed to stare at, or introduce yourself as 'salsaboy'. Slip her a business card - no public humiliation that way if she's not interested.

Never getting a call back is still 10 times better than kicking yourself for doing nothing.

[*Bob*]

yansavx Wrote:

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> risk and reward

> embarrassment never killed anyone

> do a simple cost benefit analysis

> and you'll find you were very silly for keeping

> quiet.

And they say romance is dead

[civilservant]

... or even just say 'hi!'

[Otta]

Just approach and say "hey baby, do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?".

It CAN'T FAIL!!!!!!

[Help-Ma-Boab]

Reminded me of this.....I posted this a couple of times but love it (and shot in Peckham Rye Park, and good sounds as well)

[Jacqui5254]

Perfect, Help-Ma-Boab!

Now Salsaboy..what's going to be on your t-shirt..?

[Robert Poste's Child]

Another possibility is that Salsaboy has now spoken to her and got her phone number (or the spark of love went out the instant she opened her mouth - been there myself, goodness knows) but either way doesn't fancy sharing it with an audience.

If this is the case, I apologise for my own helpful advice, which clearly never worked for me either.

[Salsaboy]

Unfortunately due to the nature of my job I won't be getting that particular train again, so the chances of me getting the chance to say 'Hi' are zero. Should have done something sooner. You live and learn.

[Alan Medic]

Cop out. Get the train anyway, bring flowers and introduce yourself after she gets off. Less pressure than doing it on the train.

[aquarius moon]

So wait til your day off, alight train at same stop, follow from a distance......

And bingo! You know where she works.

You're then a step further. Just come back here for further advice.

Good luck x

[KidKruger]

Yeah I have to say if you're struck with her, not getting the train again should be farthest thing from yer mind !

She might be Alice.

[steveo]

Follow her home and sleep in the hedge outside for a few days

That'll do it

[Robert Poste's Child]

Salsaboy, if it's not your usual route, there's less at stake if it goes wrong. If it were me I'd be tempted to have a 'dentist appointment' early next week and give it a try. Or if you don't want to live in a Richard Curtis movie, you could put a message in that section in the Metro.

[Salsaboy]

She wasn't reading Metro so no point in doing that. Just have to put it down to experience.

[ruffers]

Salsaboy Wrote:

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> She wasn't reading Metro so no point in doing

> that. Just have to put it down to experience.

Really? Grow a pair and get the train for a day. You haven't even got the excuse of seeing the same people again any more.

Say hello.

Having said that if you're not prepared to risk a few seconds of potential embarrassment then sounds like she's not worth it to you so crack on and don't waste everyone's time again ;-)

[maxxi]

It's gone too far now. Let it go.

Then you'll always have a wonderful "what might have been" fantasy to look back on instead of living in a "Why did i ever say 'hello'...?" reality when she turns out to have feet of clay.

[Salsaboy]

What Maxxi said. End of.

[DulwichFox]

aquarius moon Wrote:

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> So wait til your day off, alight train at same

> stop, follow from a distance......

>

> And bingo! You know where she works.

>

> You're then a step further. Just come back here

> for further advice.

>

> Good luck x

Isn't that stalking. ??

Does not sound like a good idea to me.

FFS, women have enough problems feeling safe without

being followed to their place of work.

Have you lost your mind suggesting such a thing.

DulwichFox

[emc]

The same thing has happened to me over the last few years - I.e someone giving me a lovely smile or tried to make small talk, but I've just clammed up or looked away. So stupid and I berate myself afterwards, but it's embarrassment I guess....

[Robert Poste's Child]

Or you blurt something so inane it wouldn't be out of place on the Inbetweeners, then get a forced smile stuck on your face because all potential conversation is now dead.

If it wasn't for alcohol the English would have died out by now.