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Quite Alan, who cares indeed. It doesn't really matter.


But if posters are being 'cornered' as suggested above then that does matter. It might be easy to spew bile and accusations when anonymous, but so too it is easy to keep on at a poster until they cave in. What is often described as bullying on forums is more a case of soemone having to have the last word. If you then have several people having to have the last word, then it gets quite messy. It should be enough to express a view and be ok about others expressing a different view, without a need to keep emphasising the point. Tone also plays a part, as well as written styles of expression. It's so easy to form the wrong impression of someone, and of what they are trying to say.

I can see when long established names take one person to task it can seem cliquey, but it really isn't.


In my experience it's a consensus that someone is wrong and the someone in questioning not knowing when to either say 'whoops my bad' or when to shut the hell up.


If you quack like a duck, the whole world is telling you you're a duck, but you insist through your orange beak and by stamping your cute little webbed feet that you're not a duck, that doesn't make the world cliquey ;)

Robert Poste's Child Wrote:

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> > light hearted post rather than heartfelt debate

> in

> > a largely ridiculous thread maybe RPC?

>

> Ah. And is the dismissive bit in that one also

> light-hearted?


it can be what you want it to be, I'm really not bothered at all in getting involved in a debate in the sort of pointless rubbish (including mine) that this type of thread results in. Tis' all pooterish and laughable in my opinion.

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> Robert Poste's Child Wrote:

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> > ???? Wrote:

> >

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> > -----

> > > light hearted post rather than heartfelt

> debate

> > in

> > > a largely ridiculous thread maybe RPC?

> >

> > Ah. And is the dismissive bit in that one also

> > light-hearted?

>

> it can be what you want it to be, I'm really not

> bothered at all in getting involved in a debate

> in the sort of pointless rubbish (including mine)

> that this type of thread results in. Tis' all

> pooterish and laughable in my opinion.



So you're one of the perceived clique, you're joining in simply to dismiss the discussion, and at the same time you refuse to be called to account.


Oh. Someone fetch Louisa...

Robert Poste's Child Wrote:

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> ???? Wrote:

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> So you're one of the perceived clique, you're

> joining in simply to dismiss the discussion, and

> at the same time you refuse to be called to

> account.

>

> Oh. Someone fetch Louisa...



Called to account for what?! Does it really matter who is in a clique and who isn't?


Why do you feel the need to make such a deal out of something that isn't of major importance?

Blah Blah Wrote:

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> I haven't been around long enough to know all the

> characters but I tend to associate the idea of a

> clique with recurring themes, behaviour. In my own

> case it the accusation of being a troll or another

> poster after a handful of first posts. That is a

> recurring theme of a small group of people, who

> never apologise when shown to be wrong it seems.



Or you've never actually shown anyone to be wrong. To be fair you'd need to be in the same room with a couple of other people at the same time in order to prove it for sure, and that's never gonna happen so we all just have to take your word for it, or not.


For my part I don't really care, but the fact remains that whether by coincidence or not, your posts are similar in style to a previous poster or two. I'm not accusing you of anything, I am just explaining why people jumped to that copnclusion, and saying that I did wonder myself. But I won't lose sleep either way.


I do remain convinced that DJKQ and Pokertime are the same person though, whether you are them or not.



El Pibe Wrote:

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> I can see when long established names take one

> person to task it can seem cliquey, but it really

> isn't.

>

> In my experience it's a consensus that someone is

> wrong and the someone in questioning not knowing

> when to either say 'whoops my bad' or when to shut

> the hell up.

>

> If you quack like a duck, the whole world is

> telling you you're a duck, but you insist through

> your orange beak and by stamping your cute little

> webbed feet that you're not a duck, that doesn't

> make the world cliquey ;)



What Mockney said, 100%!

see, easy to do.


davis strikes me as a persona rather than a person, no offence davis, which usually rings alarm bells, but I've been wrong so often it's almost a habit!


talking of habits, do we have forum catechisms now? someone should write them down!!!


Question 1:

Are you part of the clique?

There is only one Admin, he is the clique, we are all part of his clique.

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