jimmy two times Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 Do you think it's right for a single woman to invite a single man over to her place with her kids there after only 3 dates? It seems a bit much to me. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
daizie Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 In case any of you are wondering, it's not me ! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275886 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ladymuck Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 jimmy two times Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> Do you think it's right for a single woman to> invite a single man over to her place with her> kids there after only 3 dates? It seems a bit much> to me.Is your "objection" in respect of the kids or the single man? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275889 Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimmy two times Posted December 13, 2009 Author Share Posted December 13, 2009 Yes. I feel it's somehow inappropriate to introduce a strange new male friend to kids that early. It can't be nice for them. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275891 Share on other sites More sharing options...
daizie Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 I suppose it depends how its done ? If she says 'look children, this is your new daddy/uncle' that is a bit too soon . Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275892 Share on other sites More sharing options...
womanofdulwich Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 thats a lot too soon if it is hi , this is my new friend we are having a meal here and here is the babysitter, see you later that is fine. If the kids see him at breakfast the next morning then I think that is too soon. But I guess it depends what else goes on in the house!! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275893 Share on other sites More sharing options...
HonaloochieB Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 There's no nuance here, it's ill-judged and unfair. The children's age is irrelevant. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275894 Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimmy two times Posted December 13, 2009 Author Share Posted December 13, 2009 I agree. It's put me off her big time if I'm honest. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275895 Share on other sites More sharing options...
daizie Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 I suppose its alright if the kids are in bed asleep ? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275896 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ladymuck Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 jimmy two times Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> Yes. I feel it's somehow inappropriate to> introduce a strange new male friend to kids that> early. It can't be nice for them.Surely whether single mum introduces male friend after 1st, 3rd, 10th, or 100th time of seeing him, will still be a new experience for the the kids when they meet him for the first time? (Sorry jimmy two times, but am I missing something here?). Also, what is single mum supposed to do...just "dump" the kids off somehwere? I am not a single mum...but it can't be easy in that situation...babysitters aren't always that accessible for a variety of reasons.Also, off topic I know, but why are you called "jimmy two times"? - *giggles and legs it* Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275899 Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimmy two times Posted December 13, 2009 Author Share Posted December 13, 2009 yeah maybe..... But I just can't help feeling it aint right. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275902 Share on other sites More sharing options...
daizie Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 Start looking for a babysitter for her then and take her out Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275905 Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimmy two times Posted December 13, 2009 Author Share Posted December 13, 2009 Daizie you know it's you I really fancy. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275907 Share on other sites More sharing options...
daizie Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 well ive got 10 all primary school age looking for a dad Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275910 Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimmy two times Posted December 13, 2009 Author Share Posted December 13, 2009 No problem...I've been CRB checked. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275911 Share on other sites More sharing options...
karter Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 Jimmy, don't let 10 kids put you off, she is a hottie. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275913 Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimmy two times Posted December 13, 2009 Author Share Posted December 13, 2009 It doesn't and I know she is. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275914 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Narnia Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 I have a theory which developed over the years in my family. It concerned my eldest brother who is a gent with a capital G. He married many moons ago and has three children. However two of them are twins. Thus we concluded that he consummated the marriage just two times.Is that it Jimmy? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-275917 Share on other sites More sharing options...
emc Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 jimmy two times Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> Do you think it's right for a single woman to> invite a single man over to her place with her> kids there after only 3 dates? It seems a bit much> to me.As a single mum I think it is highly inappropriate - different if the children are in bed but they're around and being introduced, in whatever way, I just think it's wrong...kids of split up parents have enough do deal with without being introduced to someone who may or may not be around for a while...I'd only introduce if felt relationship was very serious. A single dad did the same to me (I was a single mum too by then, and he got his two little sons out of their beds to introduce me) and it really put me off. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-276059 Share on other sites More sharing options...
daizie Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 Ive got mixed views. It depends on the adults and children involved, and how its done. If a big fuss is made about it all, then that's what is inappropriate. Dropping by for a cup of tea is no big deal. Kids arent that fragile. People come and go all the time, no one expects everyone they've ever been introduced to , to stick around forever . Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-276080 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mick Mac Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 Jimmy - just say to her that you think its a little early, I'm sure she will understand. If she is doing this then she perhaps wants to make sure the fact that she has children does not put you off, and while that might be easy for you to say, she might want you to understand that children are real people. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-276091 Share on other sites More sharing options...
rainbow Posted December 13, 2009 Share Posted December 13, 2009 Maybe she just want to make sure you know what you are putting yourself into before you guys get serious.. I'd have done the same. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-276096 Share on other sites More sharing options...
daizie Posted December 14, 2009 Share Posted December 14, 2009 My kids encourage me to invite a date home, so they can take the p1ss . Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-276115 Share on other sites More sharing options...
LegalEagle-ish Posted December 14, 2009 Share Posted December 14, 2009 daizie Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> My kids encourage me to invite a date home, so> they can take the p1ss .Mine usually take a new date to one side and give new date 'the talk', which usually includes discussions of broken legs and stuff. Very protective of their old ma, my kids. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-276123 Share on other sites More sharing options...
vinceayre Posted December 14, 2009 Share Posted December 14, 2009 Maybe she's not so sure about you and wants her kids view on whether you are worth it. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/9126-meet-the-kids/#findComment-276376 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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