As hard as it is with some individuals, try not to feel invalidated by them. You don't need to be told how to communicate. They're the ones with that particular failure (If anyone is offended or about to bristle in response then you already know it's you I mean).
Jazzer, your original snippet is helpful for those who may not be in the know and thank you for posting. However, as is the nature of the beast, by adding it here you are inviting discussion which will inevitably go in directions you might not have intended.
Don't give up 🙃