Typical NCT "life smells of roses" drivel. My wife has had more issues with my mum, than her own. My mum can be a bit needy, and insecure, and just always tends to push things a bit too far. It does my head in, but I know it's not malicious. My wife isn't so sure, and seems to think that there are womanly games afoot (a thing that I am quite glad I know nothing about, you women are all far too complex). Her relationship with her own mum about parenting is very good, and that is probably because her mum was a hippy, and did everything the "attachment parenting" way, so basically, my wife is doing most of the same things. My mum on the other hand just did things the way that one did things in the late 70s, and that is probably where the conflict comes from. I think you only need to look at threads on here, to see that people are very protective of their personal choices about parenting. To routine, or not routine. Controlled crying great / controlled crying evil, and so on. And I have noticed that a lot of women can get a little bit judgemental about people from the opposite camp to them. I suspect that this is often the reason for strained relations with mum's mums. One would like to think that your mother will be very supportive of you, but they probably think that they're just giving you a bit of friendly advise, because they've been there, and seemed to manage okay, and you're not a mentalist, so they must've done a good enough job. You have my sympathies, as it can't be a good situation.