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I do hope TedMax isn't bringing content to this thread, that would be quite against the spirit.

Ah yes, some of my finest work. :-$

Well, I want no part in an argument so I won't join in, though I must admit I've always liked PGC and find her good mannered and kind. Wishing you all a peaceful resolution.

thexwinglessxbird Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Excuse me??? > > I think you're downright rude. Aslong as you don't > PM me telling me you'r sorry & that you've 'had a > bad day' because I didn't even buy it the first > time round. > > You do realise that when people complain about > rude forum members, they are referring to you. > > I'm not looking for attention - obviously. With a > couple of posts making out that Peckham Rye is a > lovely place to be, I think it's only right that I > spread a little caution. > > Before insulting me, perhaps you should have asked > me why I avoid this area. > > Get over yourself, Peckhamgatecrasher. You're a > nasty piece of work. Are you sure you meant to say all this, winglessbird? I thought PGC's comment was relatively mild, your response on the other hand seems disproportionately upset.

Silverfox, I too know Jaws and she is absolutely straight up. I don't know anything about what happened, but she would not have made it up.

A 'W' hotel in Camberwell?! Blimey.

... this isn't just a sandwich. It's an M&S sandwich, *Bob*.

A very belated and hangdog Happy Birthday to lovely PGC, and a more timely one to the beautiful Hibbs.

mockney piers Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > The family room works well; just despite becoming > newly fathered I can't actually get excited about > cot mattresses or baby nasal sprays enough to want > to talk about them, though I'll admit to having > lurked there quite a bit gleaning nuggets of good > advice from the community...keep up the good work > :D Tiny bit unfair and uncharacteristically snide, Mockers. Most of the very practical conversations about topics such as cot mattresses are started by people who are primary carers in the throes of making practical decisions. Wait till you become one (not long to go...) before you judge. There are more general conversations in the family room, but I get the impression that most of the regulars dip in and out in between their other commitments, especially since many are not desk-based, which makes them rarer than in the lounge. Actually, although I think most of the regulars are great and I like the friendly and supportive atmosphere the room has, I would really like to see more people who are not primary carers of small children in the family room chatting about family things, and having family-related discussions, to give it a broader reach. It's also nice to have seen more dads in there of late.

My toddler son is really into playing pretend at the moment. I get commanded to be certain characters, and then I have to do the voice and act the part. It has occasionally got to the stage when he refuses to do as he's told unless it's done in character, and then he is saintishly obliging in a way that is never forthcoming for mere Mummy. (Needless to say I never get to be anyone cool, but such unflattering alternative personae as Big Chris from Roary the Racing Car, Mrs Large the elephant from the book A Quiet Night In, the Fat Controller, Gloria the hippo from Madagascar and so on. It's enough to give a girl a complex..) Anyway, it's quite funny and I usually enjoy it, but I was just curious whether other people's kids do it, and if so who you have to be?!

Happy birthday to the lovely and charming TT - how awful of us to forget. You are not old!!

You could borrow ours if you like - it's dog-shaped with the lead being the tail, and quite sweet. We ended up not needing it as much as I thought we would it's not being used.

Fuschia Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- so I > don't think there's any role for martyrdom!! :-) No, absolutely - wasn't implying you were a martyr - rather the opposite, you've obviously made co-sleeping work really well for you and your babies, and your sleep rhythms have tuned in together. Was just trying in my clumsy way to say to SB that she shouldn't feel bad for feeling exhausted and as though she 'ought to be coping better' - a guilt reflex I remember very well from my little non-sleeper. I too was a mum who did a lot of night-time bfing in baby's room, nodding off in an armchair or (oh dear) forlornly playing 3am solitaire on my phone. If it helps at all, Moosling now aged 2 is a great sleeper and loves to be in bed. If you can afford it, I do agree that a night nanny as a temporary measure to help you if you do decide to wean snowboarderlet off night feeding would be a great idea - or anyone kind and supportive who's willing to muck in and obey your every instruction... You'll need a store of energy and determination to do it so help sounds like a good idea. Hope it gets better soon, as you say there are lots of supportive vibes coming from this board!

Just want to add that it's so, so important not to blame yourself for either your baby not sleeping, or how tired you feel. Some mothers and babies (and Fuschia is amazing and inspirational) manage to thrive on the night-feeding and others don't. You aren't "not coping" because you are sleeping badly and exhausted, and someone else is not. It's wonderful if you can keep up the night feeding (if your baby doesn't wake you much and settles quickly) but if that's not working out, don't blame yourself and don't put yourself last. You are so clearly not a rubbish mum, but a dedicated and loving mum who's trying to do the best for her baby, even though it's really hard for her. You're fantastic!

Horsebox, loving your work!

Thought I'd resurrect this thread... I've really enjoyed the thriving discussions in the Drawing Room recently. It took a while to find its feet, but I'd vote it a success. What does everyone think?

Having done lots of bar work, waitressing and admin jobs when in a similar position to Erika, I'd choose the admin office stuff any time. It's cleaner, easier, better paid and means you can spend your evenings socialising rather than serving other people while they socialising. It is really, really dull, but there are generally people around to chat to. hope you find something soon, erika!

Horsebox Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > At work we tend towards 'Doris' for the office > juniors. Even the boys?

Andystar Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I find menopause & menstruation offensive, why > have the bloody (no pun intended) PC brigade not > caused a fuss about those 2 words?? It always > sounds like you are blaming it on us men :'( > > Why can't we call it womenopause & > womenstruation?? > > Ps- before anyone writes in to correct me, I know > that the 'meno' prefix refers to the word 'month' > NOT 'men' Andystar, actually there is a school of thought that believes it should be termed 'femstruation' for that very reason of disliking the supposedly male prefix. Not a school of thought to which I subscribe, as it is ill-informed and in my view misses the point. If I may use the word misses when not referring to young ladies who have not yet found the right man to look after them.

Snowboarder, afraid I haven't any good advice, but I'm sure someone will be along with something useful. Just wanted to say I really sympathise and remember so well the frustration and helplessness, and it's so so hard. I really hope you get a breakthrough soon!

They got eaten by a mythical monster of some kind, I forget the name. Lurks under bridges, winds people up on Internet fora. A really good one though, I like it!

I'm all for it, but then I'm starting to detect billy goats gruff. Sorry Lisby.

My view is that moderators should moderate impartially but should be allowed to opine - after all they too are members of the forum community and it seems a little unfair to expect them not to express their views. It's not an easy balance, though, and not always done correctly. In this instance, CrystalClear's thread was pulled, so Mockney's friendship for him didn't stop the appropriate action being taken. It would be underhand of me not to out myself following that comment

I've met HAL in person, and he's not meek, but he seems perfectly pleasant. I do think he has an issue with the forum moderation, and would like to understand why.

Fuck this bullshit. I'm off. I don't know why I thought I could come back.