Fuschia, I think you're a lucky woman, I salute you. Sillywoman, who is less and less well named with every post she writes, makes a really good point. But I'd take it even further and say that it's to a degree about perception. My (single) birth experience wasn't a textbook one, and was quite long and complicated but for me feeling well-looked-after and taking each decision one at a time meant that I was OK about it. So I'd say that even if you had a non-ideal experience it is possible to see it in a positive light rather than picking out the most negative parts or blowing it out of proportion with the general experience, which sometimes stories of births do. Even when labour is hard, it's very exciting to think that you're about to meet your son or daughter!