My husband is much tidier and more organised than me. I hope he thinks we have the balance right, but our agreement is that we both work Fulltime - him at work and me on maternity leave looking after the baby. When he gets home try to split the work fairly so we both get time with the baby and time away from the baby. We aren't militant about it though, eg on the weekend I was finding things really hard for example and I just went and had a nap while he looked after the baby. Then on Sunday he had someone over to do some stuff and I took the baby. He does all the cooking and finances. I do laundry, baking, nighttimes with the baby, and try to keep the house tidy and on top of chores during the day which is hard as I am naturally messy and have a high tolerance for it! We have a cleaner once a fortnight so worst case scenario everything gets cleaned then. I'd like to do more cooking I think, I'm not very good at it though. We both have our faults. Its easy to get bogged down in who does what, but as I'm generally happy with the split I tend to let most stuff slide when I'm annoyed and I know he tries to do the same. Also on those days when the baby is super high maintenance and the house is a bomb site he has yet to comment! Also we don't hold each other up to doing it like we would. So if he does something and i think it's not right, I don't say anything (unless its REALLY not right.... Like he's shrunk my brand new silk top, for example... But that was years ago.....!)