I feel a tad uncomfortable about airing my dirty laundry but no it's not the first time, he does think that his needs should come first. I spent a lot of time trying to explain why I had a problem with it, it's not about the nap, it's about the respecting of my wishes/personal space. I was just really trying to ascertain if I had a right to feel peeved by this behaviour as he still just doesn't seem to get it and then I wondered that maybe I expect too much! His initial response when I very nicely said "darling I do find your behaviour a tad inconsiderate and selfish sometimes" was "oh dear darling, do send me a timetable for when I'm allowed to call"