I'm probably not the best person to ask, having "dumped" my last two boyfriends for exactly the same reason. Sorry Xanthe, but I would assume that the cliche "It's not you - it's me" was probably mentioned at the end? Some of us girls are (admittedly feckin' stoopid) not in to all that romance and schmalz and would prefer a bloke to be a bit more, well blokey. It does my head in when I know more about football than the fella I'm seeing and could probably drink him under the table. For some reason, some of us prefer the bar stewards and aren't prepared to settle for what we might view as second best. A lot of my mates are happily loved up, but I'm not so sure that happy is the correct word. I sincerely believe that some people have a life plan, whereby they feel that certain goals/ambitions should be achieved by a certain time in their life. I reckon some people "settle" down because they are doing exactly that. Settling..... I'm not prepared to settle for anyone who I don't feel is right for me. Will probably be single forever but I'll more than likely be happier that way! Probably not been very helpful - sorry about that! Get down the pub and have a few beers. :)-D P.S Ladygooner - that is soooo Sex and the City. I like it. ;-)