I had three miscarriages between my first and second child, hence there is quite a big gap between them. When people ask why I have such a big gap I tell them. I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable - after all, they asked, but I can tell it does make them feel uncomfortable. I'm all for being fairly open about such things but most people aren't. I recently met someone who had a hole in his throat (covered by a sort of plaster) and I asked him if it was a tracheotomy, turned out it had been throat cancer but he was quite surprised as he said most people don't mention it at all!