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From experience, it doesn't matter which nursery your child attends re: getting into JAPS. It's all based on an assessment - which is about the child, rather than where they have come from. It really makes very little difference. As far as I'm aware these nurseries don't 'prepare' a child for assessment.


I'd simply find a nursery where your child will be happy, have heaps of fun, and where they encourage confidence. That will count for a lot - whether aiming for the JAPS assessment, or entrance elsewhere (state or private).

Well said Moos


Blimey anna75, the tone and content of your posts on this thread made me think this was a joke. However having seen that you have posted on other threads, sadly it appears not.


I read R & C's post as helpful constructive advice (based on experience) in response to your question re JAPPS. Whether or not you considered it as such, it did not justify the rather spiteful response to both R & C and Vicki08.


Ciao

What I like about the family section of the EDF is how everyone shares advice / tips etc openly - with the best and kindest intentions in mind. Having exposure to both the nursery and the assessment procedure I simply thought my experience might help. Absolutely no offence was intended.


Anna75 - I wish you all the luck in the world getting your daughter into the nursery / school of your dreams.

I have heard playground rumours that not many girls from dcps were accepted in JAPS this year. Last year however at least 6 got in. I have no direct experience of the numbers coming from Ducks. My experience of DCPS is that they prepared girls for the JAPS assessment in the past but no longer to the same extent.


Japps is the pre-prep of the prep school - reception to Y2, Japs is the prep school ie y3 to y6.


Although the main consideration for a nursery environment is one where you child will be happy it makes sense to look for this in a place that also knows the assessment procedures of the school you would like your child to go to in the future.

Wow, private education is so stressful from the start - I had no idea. You poor, poor things. All I had to do was find a nursery where I felt my child could be happy, and that was hard enough (took 4 goes to find the 'perfect' nursery), but it wouldn't have met Anna75's criteria.

Not sure how exactly to interpret your comments, sillywoman, but they come across as a bit snarky (I apologise in advance if I have misinterpreted).


Many parents who choose private school do so at the sacrifice of other things they might desire (including bigger houses, more children, and nicer more frequent holidays etc etc) that others choose not to (comparing those of similar financial status here obviously - I'm not suggesting everyone can afford private school even if they forgo these things).


It's perfectly reasonable for people to reflect whatever values they may have in such a way and to want to get it right from the start. As we all know, the option of a quality primary school for all children in East Dulwich is far from a 'given', and I imagine many parents, who might otherwise have been quite comfortable with a state school are being 'forced' into private schooling their child(ren) and making whatever sacrifices are needed to do so.

No, no not meant to be sarky or facetious. Sorry if my post came across that way. And can see how it could be interpreted like that. I really did just mean that it all sounded so stressful from so early on that it made me appreciate how straightforward & unpressured my options were.

anna75 Wrote:

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I was looking for specific nurseries

> rather than unsolicited thoughts on how to bring

> up my child, thanks.


Well with respect, Anna, you did pop up on the homebirth group thread saying you'd decided not to have a homebirth as it was too dangerous (I paraphrase) which seems even less ontopic than Rhubarb's response here which I read as perfectly sensible advice!

sillywoman Wrote:

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> No, no not meant to be sarky or facetious. Sorry

> if my post came across that way. And can see how

> it could be interpreted like that. I really did

> just mean that it all sounded so stressful from so

> early on that it made me appreciate how

> straightforward & unpressured my options were.


I'm probably a bit over-sensitive.....just felt like standing up for private school parents who sometimes get vilified (along with their kids!). Some of us are nice and down to earth, really! Everything to do with childcare and education seems so pressured nowadays, what with being unable to even get a place in local nurseries until your child is about to start driving, or your first choice of state primary school unless you live in the school grounds, it seems a bit of a drama for everyone......

even worse if you know its the best option and you just cannot afford it!!! (no big house or fancy holidays thank you just flipping utilty bills to pay)


that is why it is so contentious - some are lucky enough to afford it and some are not. That's life. Those of us who can't feel cheesed off as we are letting our children down and are powerless to do anything about it especially at secondary level. If you have a superstar bright kid then they may get a scholarship and jolly well done. If you have a normal bright bookish child then not much you can do except know that they would have done better in the private sector.


I am not blaming anyone or taking sides, but please remember there are alot of us out there who know what we would like but just cannot do it.

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