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Would cosmetic surgery alter your relationship with a member of your family?


I'm not talking about surgery to treat disfigurement. No, I want to discuss cosmetic alteration along the lines of breast enhancement, liposuction and other equally intrusive treatments.


How, for instance, would you react if your wife decided, for whatever reason (that girl's on the XFactor's are nice?) that she wasn't happy with the size of her breast and wanted a dramatic increase? Would it create a gulf between husband and wife, seeing as you married her for the girl she is/was? Would you feel uncomfortable being seen in public with your transformed spouse? How would you explain to your children that they've got a 'new' mother? Would you be intimidated by her altered body. And, in the presence of her new knockers, would you ever be able to look her in the eye/s again?


But let's not focus too much on the female. No, for the sake of equality, let's discuss the impact of cosmetic surgery would have on the family if it were to be performed on a male 'member'.


Say, for instance, your son comes down to breakfast and says that after alot of thought, and because all of his mates have got 'one', that he wants a nine incher. How would you take-in that kind of bombshell? As a father, would you be intimidated by the new 'man' about the house. Would you imitate his decision to make him feel more comfortable/accepted in the family. Would it drive a wedge between you. Would it cause penis envy?


As parents, or indeed, siblings, how would you feel if a loved one went under the knife?



I look forward to your replies.

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Yes. It's an unneeded and rogue apostrophe. I like to switch up my vocabulary from time to time.

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Oh I see, what folly. I'll leave you to keep your ears pealed for I hate to compound the wretchedness of some poor wretch by thinking so foolishly.




Personally, I find your attitude dull in its own right. In the sense that it betrays a dependance on assurances and a sound footing from which to proceed.


But, perhaps you're right. In the sense that I've employed a machinegun approach to my OP, in the form of hollow, insensitive jibes.


So, since you've taken the time to read and offer constructive criticism, it would be rude to ignore you. So I'll do my best to accomodate what you've listed.


Opinion


My opinion is that if my partner inquired how I would feel about her undergoing cosmetic surgery, I'd fiercely oppose it. I want her for who she is, not a mannequin that can be physically altered. And she has insecurities about her appearance, I would go out of my way to convince her otherwise. I'm sorry I can't expand on that, but I've never been in the position where a loved one has showed interest in cosmetic surgery.


Though for medical reasons i.e scar removal, skin grafts and reconstructive surgery, I fully support it.


Fact


I'm sorry, but I don't have any facts to hand with regards to whether people welcome or reject cosmetic surgery performed on a loved one. Admittedly, I only wrote this thread after reading an interview with the actress Emma Thompson which touched on her opinion of cosmetic surgery.


Experience


My only experience of cosmetic surgery was in the form of scar removal performed on members of my family.



I hope that helps, Moos?






Then I suggest you return to goading people on a discussion where you've resorted to clutching straws to gain ground.



[quote name=How would any such information help you learn' date=' Axeman? What would you do with the information?

Why do you ask?]




It was more of an open-letter, or sorts, PR. I've nothing to gain from the answers, except creating discussion. Which, correct me if I'm wrong, is kind of the point of an online forum, no?






Jamie, I understand that you're trying to conform with the current, fashionable consensus. But I'll kindly ask you not to stain my thread with your dirty words. It betrays an obvious lack of intellect.


You should be ashamed. Deeply ashamed.

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Boy oh boy - seems you really do know how to put a rocket up this place after all. Whoop!

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> family.


Ah! that is clearly a metaphysical speculation, and like most metaphysical speculations has very little reference at all to the actual facts of real life, as we know them.

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