Jump to content

LOST!

damzel

By damzel
in The Family Room Discussion

 Share

Recommended Posts

damzel

damzel

Posted
Posted

LOST! 1 x calm, laid back, easy going, smiley toddler


FOUND! 1 x head stong, stubborn, "no no NO!" shouting rebellious nearly 3 year old.


I am completely in shock by this sudden change (thought we'd got away with it) and am going completely insane. I have no idea how to handle it so am probably doing the worst "calming" job ever.


Deep breath

Link to comment
https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/15244-lost/
Share on other sites
littleEDfamily

littleEDfamily

Posted
Posted

Apparently the fours are the golden time, Pickle, and just in the nick of time, my 3 year old seems to leaving the irrationality of late toddlerhood behind.


OP - count yourself lucky, mine started being headstrong and rebellious around 15 months. It has taken all my energy to get through the last 2 years and not be bulldozed into submission. Try to remember to be kind but firm (although I have frequently resorted to fishwife like screeching, which I fear is unavoidable.)


Bon courage!

Link to comment
https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/15244-lost/#findComment-400599
Share on other sites
redjam

redjam

Posted
Posted

Not only do I get the 'NO! NO! NO!', my three-year-old also specialises in the 'GET MY DRINK! NOW! NO, NOT THAT CUP! THE OTHER ONE! NO I DON'T MEAN THAT ONE! THAT ONE!' while I scurry around apologising like a nineteenth-century slave.


I think I'm going to have to move house at the end of this year as my neighbours must be about to report me to the police for all the yelling/screaming they must hear every day (mine and hers).

Link to comment
https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/15244-lost/#findComment-400835
Share on other sites
damzel

damzel

Posted
  • Author
Posted

Yes redjam - that sums up my household completely! So glad I'm not alone fellow parents of 3yo's but wish I'd had some warning.


My sister in law gave some advice last night - she said to make my daughter feel she's in control, so rather than tell her it's time to get dressed/bath/bed time etc. let her "decide" that it's time by making the option seem attractive but without suggesting that it's time. Amazingly, my OH says it worked this morning to get her dressed. I've been at work all day so I've just tried it with dinner - also a success. So far so good - will report back on bath time, typically the hardest thing to persuade her it's time for...


and don't get me started on cleaning her teeth - anyone got any tips for that?

Link to comment
https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/15244-lost/#findComment-400846
Share on other sites
kristymac1

kristymac1

Posted
Posted
someone mentioned the term 'threenager' to me when I said we'd seemed to have had an easy(ish) ride through the terrible twos......... Having survived the 'threenagers' (just and only just) I am looking forward to having a lovely polite, compliant and affable four year old in a few weeks time - cloud cuckoo land? me?
Link to comment
https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/15244-lost/#findComment-400862
Share on other sites
damzel

damzel

Posted
  • Author
Posted

Threenager - love it. Makes it easier if you can put a name to it. Okay, so bath time was so easy tonight, I can hardly believe it - she actually took herself up the stairs and told me to wait until she was there before I come and run her a bath! Recently, I've have to drag her up virtually kicking and screaming! Giving her "control" is working wonders, thanks sis in law. Although it probably helped as I feel a lot calmer today after reading your posts, so thanks all. x


Still didn't get many teeth brushed though, she brushes the front ones to make the brush frothy and then sucks it in and swallows it. hmmm

Link to comment
https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/15244-lost/#findComment-400865
Share on other sites
damzel

damzel

Posted
  • Author
Posted
Well tonight, about half an hour before it was actually bath time I told her "it'll be bath time soon, you tell me when you're ready to go". Then a little later when she was playing with a plastic monkey, I asked her if she thought the monkey would like a bath with her. She said "NO BATH!!" So I replied, it's okay, it's not bath time yet, but later when you're ready for your bath, maybe monkey wants to go too. About 5 mins later, she took herself (and the monkey) up for a bath! I tell you, it was that easy...
Link to comment
https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/15244-lost/#findComment-400897
Share on other sites
Smiler

Smiler

Posted
Posted

redjam Wrote:

-------------------------------------------------------

> Not only do I get the 'NO! NO! NO!', my

> three-year-old also specialises in the 'GET MY

> DRINK! NOW! NO, NOT THAT CUP! THE OTHER ONE! NO I

> DON'T MEAN THAT ONE! THAT ONE!' while I scurry

> around apologising like a nineteenth-century

>

:))

Link to comment
https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/15244-lost/#findComment-401194
Share on other sites
Pickle

Pickle

Posted
Posted
Damzel - darling Mr Pickle's solution to grumpy, spoilt brattish behaviour in said son was to produce yet more Christmas presents that haven't yet been opened, leading to half an hour of calm. Then he disappeared off to play hockey, leaving me to deal with children who are now fighting over the fire engine and driving me to drink. Glass of merlot anyone?
Link to comment
https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/15244-lost/#findComment-401272
Share on other sites
Ruth_Baldock

Ruth_Baldock

Posted
Posted

I'll join you, Pickle. A glass of red is FINE during pregnancy surely?

Seb is only 13 months and OH MY GAWD. The tantrums, the looking me in the eye as he throws food off his highchair, the tantrums...did I mention THE TANTRUMS?!


Someone remind me why I thought 2 under 2 was a good idea? Am sending Seb away to the Peace Corps when he's 2-3 if he's still a terror.

Link to comment
https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/15244-lost/#findComment-401277
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
 Share
Go to topic listing
  • Advertise Here

  • Latest Discussions

    • JMK
      Assistance Dogs - Autism: any experiences?

      By JMK · Posted

      https://www.assistancedogs.org.uk/information-hub/assistance-dogs-emotional-support-dogs-and-therapy-dogs/   hello   i’d be interested to understand if anyone.has experience of Assistance Dogs especially for autistic children of different ages for emotional support and therapy   There was a prior thread on this topic on EDF 10 hrs ago but it had limited experiences and there was a (claimed) change in UK legislation in 2019. Whilst the industry appears unregulated/unlicensed, there are several providers (approx 15, perhaps more) who claim to have fully trained dogs or say that they can help families to train a puppy/young dog over the 18-24 months.  The latter obviously comes with a need for strong commitment to the challenge. Costs for a fully trained assistance dog are quoted at £13-15k albeit they claim £23k total cost to train the dog. On the one hand, this could potentially be a useful solution for some families if such a dog was truly trained as their websites claim and such a dog was accepted in public places and schools etc… On the other hand, I don’t think that I’ve ever seen an assistance dog of this type or in this context (only for a blind or partially sighted person) and hence a real risk of fraud or exploitation! The SEN challenge for families coupled with limited resources in schools or from local authorities or the NHS as well as the extremely challenging experience of many families with schools offering little or no support or making the situation worse leaves a big risk of lots of different types of fraud and or exploitation in this area.          
    • jeffersjd
      Missing Cat

      By jeffersjd · Posted

      Hi there  We live on Woodwarde Road backing on to Alleyns Top Field.  Our cat Gigi has gone missing — it’s been about 24 hours now. She is a cream Bengal. Could you please check sheds, garages, or anywhere she might have got stuck please? And if you could keep an eye out or share on any local groups/forums, we’d really appreciate it. Photo attached.   Thanks so much! My name is Jeff on 07956 910068. 
    • ruffers
      Cat Flap

      By ruffers · Posted

      Colin.    One for the old school.   Just saying.
    • Sue
      Fireworks

      By Sue · Posted

      Signed, and I will share it elsewhere, thank you for posting this. It's got nearly 70,000 signatures at present, and apparently runs till February.

East Dulwich Forum

Established in 2006, we are an online community discussion forum for people who live, work in and visit SE22.

Home
Events
Sign In

Sign In



Or sign in with one of these services

Search
×
    Search In
×
×
  • Create New...