boss from hell - ideas for revenge

[RosieH]

I need your excellent creative brains please

my boss is a witch. never worked with a worse bully - I regularly have to console weeping / ranting junior staff. she's leaving (jumped before she was pushed on account of witchiness) but is on three months' notice. I have to work with her for three more months and she has started spreading scurrilous (and false) rumours about my having an affair with a colleague (who is in a long term relationship) - questioning our integrity and professionalism.

short of punching her repeatedly in her badly-made-up face, I'm wondering whether to tackle head on, rise above it, or wreak a terrible revenge. anyone any suggestions..?

[Asset]

tackle head on, be open and ask her why she is doing it, what it is based on etc. put her on the spot.

[ChavWivaLawDegree]

I agree with Asset.

Stay calm and ask her why she's doing it.

I'd be slightly patronising and ask if she's unhappy at home!

If you can get some evidence to back it up that would be good, but if not, cock your head to the side, smile slightly and sympathetically say, "we both know what you have been doing really don't we?"

If she has the ability to sack you tho, I'd cloak the patronising tone a bit!

[Marmora Man]

Where does your boss stand in the company pecking order. If she's the CEO - your best bet is to find another job. Anything less and you have an avenue for redress.

Not sure tackling her head on - which while it might seem strong, positive and self affirming could also end up with you finding again that her manipulative and scheming political skills put you in the (apparent) wrong. If she's as bad as you say she'll have learnt to defend her behaviour by doing down others.

Keep a diary, record everything and once you have a decent dossier - make your case to HR, to her line manager or someone who will give you a fair hearing. You could even consider a tribunal, though that's a tough route to follow.

If your company has a decent Occcupational Health scheme you might advise colleagues suffering under her to contact Occy Health reporting the stress they are experiencing under her management. While Occy Health usually has to maintain confidences they can, if there is enough evidence of stress, indicate to senior management that there is a problem in a department that appears to be caused by a particular manager.

This happened to me when Occy Health reported a stress and morale problem in a department - without actually fingering any particular manager. On interviewing all members of the department to investigate I discovered a middle manager defrauding the company and bullying staff to keep the fraud under cover.

[Nero]

If you have proof that she is spreading the rumour, such as an email or a taped conversation, then I would confront her. If not, then do what MM says. She sounds peculiar, and to wreak revenge on her would put you nearer to her character-wise than you'd probably like to be. Rising above it might be all that is left to you to do. Nero

[Peckhamgatecrasher]

Senapods in her coffee.

[KalamityKel]

Tell everyone she tried it on wiv ya and is now embarrassed coz you knocked her back... hence y she's so horrible :))

[ChavWivaLawDegree]

I think MM has had the best real advice as he actually seems to have done his time.

I am more of a "stick the job up your @rse" type of person, which is probably why I've never worked for a bully or in an office (before now that is - but my boss is a maverick so I love working where I am now), so my advice is probably not a lot of help!

[RosieH]

Thanks for sage counsel, have calmed down a bit now.

I had actually already told them to stick their job up their arse, but then 2 weeks before my 3 months notice was up, I was asked to stay on, having been told that the witch was in fact leaving. (they knew she was my reason for going, as well as all the problems she has caused with other people as they had to pay someone off who'd been signed off for 6 months with stress last year).

A lot of the problem stems from the fact that my boss now knows that I've been asked to stay on and have agreed to, coincedentally at the same time as it's announced that she's leaving. So she pretty much hates me. Now we have to continue to work together for 3 months until she goes, so although I'm in a position of relative strength within the company, on a day to day level she's my immediate superior and can make my life a misery.

what are senapods?

[*Bob*]

RosieH Wrote:

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> what are senapods?

Aren't they the evil dudes from out of 'Hellraiser'?

[Nero]

Why not just talk to her. Tell her, very calmly, that she is making your life a misery. Look her in the eye and just tell her. Don't raise your voice and stay dead calm. It'll unnerve her as she might be expecting a big row, or you to dissolve into tears. Don't plan it, just do it when she's least expecting it. You really have little to lose and whatever happens, at least you will ahve been in control, you will have initiated the conversation on your terms, rather than her having power over you. Senapods are laxatives. Nero

[Alan Dale]

Can't believe you RosieH you home wrecker.

Still, it takes two to tango and if he's not getting any at home then what does his long term girlfriend expect.

I guess the days fly by flirting around the photocopier and moaning about the boss..

[Cassius]

I think senapods are a laxative............

[Alan Dale]

He might have a long term girlfriend but crash weight loss on laxatives is not the best strategy to win him away..

[ratty]

Poo on her desk!

[RosieH]

Alan Dale Wrote:

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> He might have a long term girlfriend but crash

> weight loss on laxatives is not the best strategy

> to win him away..

Ha, Alan, if I was getting some on the photocopier, I wouldn't mind the rumours. But I'm not. I'm quite crotchety about it in fact. And although I like him very much as a friend, he has a tiny head, so there'd be no future in it.

I like the idea of putting evil dudes in her coffee though

[snorky]

dont do anything traceable or malicious like spiking her food - its assualt should she make an issue of it

find out her email address - home and work if at all possible - and phone numbers - mobile is best

go to your desk and print out lots of thoses little 16 to a page stickers with her phone number on a,nd then liberally stick them in toilets / phone boxes / buses / etc

get a man friend to leave them on toilet doors in stations or suchlike - anywhere with a transient population is best for turnover

ensure the short tantalising message on the sticker offers specalist services 24/7 water sports blah blah blah

Update detials should mobile number change and continue ad nauseum.

sit back & enjoy

[Cassius]

I don't think you should get revenge - she's an unpleasant person but unfortunately we all come across those in life. Any form of revenge is lowering yourself to her standard. Let her know that you know ........ and leave it at that.

[snorky]

Cassius Wrote:

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> I don't think you should get revenge - she's an

> unpleasant person but unfortunately we all come

> across those in life. Any form of revenge is

> lowering yourself to her standard. Let her know

> that you know ........ and leave it at that.

A reasonable and sensible response!

walk away - knowing that you can escape and start again , but she is stuck in her own loathed skin for the rest of her petty joyless life

[Alan Dale]

Yeah forget her and concentrate on getting your wicked way with Pinhead..

[Keef]

Find out where she's heading next, find a contact in that company, and make sure some rumours about her arrive before she does.

[LizzygotDizzy]

Thats a good one Keef! Rosie, her name isn't Sarah by any chance is it? The only thing wrong with that one will be that the rumours could be traceable back to her, and then get her in trouble if her boss wants to do anything about them, and it wouldn't take her long to suss out who's been doing the spreading. Plus hopefully this new firm will suss her out really quickly before her trial period is up and not offer her the place! other than that I'd go with the Sharon Osborne approach and poo on her desk!

[RosieH]

nah, is Amanda.

thank you very much good people - this has cheered me immensely.

[????]

If you've got proof just threaten to sue her for slander, you'd be entirely justified and I think you'd find she'd shut up. If you've got decent senior management take it to them - it's completley outrageous behaviour and any decent company wouldn't tolerate it.

[karter]

lol lizzy,

all too easy though, just grab her by her hair Rosie and throw her out a window. (6)