Asset Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 I object to being referred to as a lady. The more I hear lady/ladies being used the more it grates on my sensibilities. I know it's scary and intimidating for some but seriously, get in the 21st century. I'm a WOMAN. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Minkey Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Not something I'd stress about personally. Been called worse ;-) Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586960 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Asset Posted October 24, 2012 Author Share Posted October 24, 2012 Not particularly stressing just opening up a discussion. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586961 Share on other sites More sharing options...
zeban Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 It doesn't bother me at all! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586962 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annette Curtain Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 It doesn't bother me, I am a lady! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586967 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Salsaboy Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 I've never been affected by it. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586968 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Otta Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 At least you're not being called bird.My favourite was when an old bloke I was friendly with in Liverpool asked me "how's your tart?". Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586969 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voyageur Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Absolutely happy with either - in fact I am delighted to be called a lady. Life's too short too get het up over such things .... it really, really is. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586974 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Asset Posted October 24, 2012 Author Share Posted October 24, 2012 I'm not sure you're right about that. People have been getting 'het up' over labels for quite a while and for good reason. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586976 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 My mother a v strong feminist always objected to lady, I always followed suit. Am thawing now to lady/ies. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586978 Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheArtfulDogger Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 My father used to call women he didn't know sweetheart or darlingThankfully that sort of behaviour is dying out these days Thankfully and soon, love, there will be no more talk like that ;-) Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586985 Share on other sites More sharing options...
bonniebird Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 I hate being called madam :/ Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586986 Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrBen Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Let's say I'm a head waiter at the Savoy, and I'm trying to get two women from a mixed group to show them to their table. "Women, if you'd kindly follow me..". Sounds weird. If they were men you'd say "Gentlemen". I'd hate to offen women like Asset so what's the correct (as in PC) form? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586995 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voyageur Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Asset Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> I'm not sure you're right about that. People have> been getting 'het up' over labels for quite a> while and for good reason.Some have - some haven't. Some women/ladies/birds have got other things in life to fill their minds :) Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586996 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voyageur Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 TheArtfulDogger Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> My father used to call women he didn't know> sweetheart or darling> > Thankfully that sort of behaviour is dying out> these days > > Thankfully and soon, love, there will be no more> talk like that ;-)Happy with any of the above - they make me smile.Not too keen on 'dear' though, although it doesn't keep me awake at night. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586997 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Asset Posted October 24, 2012 Author Share Posted October 24, 2012 You seem to be getting quite worked up about the discussion dear! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-586998 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voyageur Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 . Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-587000 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voyageur Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 TheArtfulDogger Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> My father used to call women he didn't know> sweetheart or darling> > Thankfully that sort of behaviour is dying out> these days > > Thankfully and soon, love, there will be no more> talk like that ;-)I suppose 'all'? Happy with 'ladies and gentlemen' though [snort!]My workplace is very PC. I remember a few years ago I was in a small team of women and when we emailed the group we prefaced the content with 'Ladies'. My boss was cc'd into one or two of the emails and told us to stop starting the group emails with the word 'Ladies' - even though we were all female and happy with the term - as he thought it was sexist to refer to gender. he insisted we start the group emails with 'All'.We took no notice... Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-587001 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voyageur Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Asset Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> You seem to be getting quite worked up about the> discussion dear!No love :) Just amused at the subject matter. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-587002 Share on other sites More sharing options...
RosieH Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 To my mind, it's about the signifier and the signified. The word "lady" has connotations that "woman" simply does not. In fact, it has a definition in the OED as such - genteel or refined woman.I don't like it because of the implications / expectations of an acceptable mode of behaviour it conveys.That said, where it's the female equivalent of gentleman, I have no problem. Ladies and gentlemen is fine. 'Cup of tea for my lady' at the hairdressers, no problem. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-587003 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voyageur Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Night night loves! Will leave you wimmin to continue the debate :D Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-587007 Share on other sites More sharing options...
katie1997 Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 couldn't agree more Asset - the term really grates on me too. Saying that tho, I am rather more forgiving depending on context/who is using it. Eg. recently didn't mind when a grandmother at my local library instructed her granddaughter to say 'thank you to the lady' (she meant ME - eeks!) for picking up the book she'd dropped...but otherwise, it usually drives me nuts.but mostly, it depends on context and intention, I think.edited: for rubbish grammar etc. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-587017 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mick Mac Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Jessie Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> My mother a v strong feminist always objected to> lady, I always followed suit. Am thawing now to> lady/ies.Chips with that jessie ? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-587024 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peckhamgatecrasher Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Haven't we covered this before in the Miranda Hart thread? I stand by 'lady' as being much more courteous than 'woman'. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-587026 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 Chip free mick mac Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/26354-ladies-or-women/#findComment-587027 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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