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Personally, I think the quicker you realise material things are not important( up to a point) the happier you will be.

A lot of unhappiness is to do with wanting things you cannot have/ covet.

Afraid to say it took redundancy and being 50 for me to realise this.

I think you're right WOD. I have a very bad habit of just buying things I want ("oh I must have that guitar pedal, it looks so cool, even though I will probably have little or no use for it, it's only ?150"). But now that my income is not mine alone to waste, I am constantly feeling grumpy about things I can't have, or I'm having them then feeling very worried about the consequences.


Perhaps I'll be good with money by my 40s...

LondonMix Wrote:

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> Hang out with people that make less money than

> you! You'll save loads and want less :)



Annoyingly, up until the last couple of years I did earn more than most of my close friends, but my income seems to have peaked (and it's not that impressive a peak) whilst they're all climbing ladders. Bastards!

When I take a long look at my life, as though from outside, it does not appear particularly happy.


Yet I am even less justified in calling it unhappy, despite all its mistakes.


After all, it is foolish to keep probing for happiness or unhappiness, for it seems to me it would be hard to exchange the unhappiest days of my life for all the happy ones.


If what matters in a person?s existence is to accept the inevitable consciously, to taste the good and bad to the full and to make for oneself a more individual, unaccidental and inward destiny alongside one?s external fate, then my life has been neither empty nor worthless.


Even if, as it is decreed by the gods, fate has inexorably trod over my external existence as it does with everyone, my inner life has been of my own making . I deserve its sweetness and bitterness and accept full responsibility for it.


Herman Hesse : German Poet (1877 ? 1962) who recieved nobel prize for literature.


http://www.philosopherzone.com/hermann-hesse-quotes/

I've started to quite like to potter about my house. For example, a typical Saturday pottering sequence could involve fixing something, talking to some plants in my garden, picking up my guitar, hoovering and cooking cheese on toast before brewing up some gin punch. Is this a middle age man thing? I'm 36 years old.

I keeo putting things down and then forgetting where I put them

And forgetting names

And peeing people off on this chat room with my fantastic self-depricating wit.

The latter is of course a talent and nowt to do with middle age.

And no focus hence too long spent on this site when I have other things to do.

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