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Otta

Otta

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Clique is a word that gets used a fair bit on this forum,but I'm never sure who's meant to be in it, or indeed if there is more than one. Sometimes I think "they're including me in that", other times I think "there's no way I'm in with that lot".


So who is the clique? Is there more than one clique? Or do people just throw "clique" about because they're talking shit and everyone is telling them so?

Louisa

Louisa

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You see I like most people on this forum, until they wind me up. Then I dislike them for a short while, then I like them again. It's never taken to heart for long. But some people know how to press my buttons. Some people within the clique never wind me up ever, others are perceived to be in the clique even if they are not and wind me up leading to me putting them stupidly in the clique. The perception of the clique usually happens when incomprehensible jargon and sarcastic phrases are thrown into the mix and only some people get it, it gives the impression of "we know what we are saying and it's aimed at you haha". Infuriating.


Louisa.

Robert Poste's Child

Robert Poste's Child

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DulwichFox Wrote:

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> It's a bit like the Masons..

>

> Those who are in, know they're in.

>

> Those who are not, know they're not.

>

> ..and if you're not in, then you won't know who

> is. But you can usually guess.

>

> Hope that helps

>

> DulwichFox


I wonder if it's almost the opposite - those who perceive themselves as 'outside' think there is a clique they're not part of, while those who don't feel like outsiders aren't aware that others may be having a different experience from them?

KidKruger

KidKruger

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There's definitely some people been on here longer than others who perhaps through early forum drinks know each other personally / face-to-face, those drinks (as far as I know) are less frequent which possibly prevents the same level of bonding for newer folks ? But so feckin what. There's a bit of banter is all, I think it's all fairly healthy.

I certainly don't take the piss as keenly on this forum as I would face to face, it's easy to cause offence on-line.

Any perception of anything 'organised' IMO is conjecture at best.

DulwichFox

DulwichFox

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Robert Poste's Child Wrote:

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> DulwichFox Wrote:

> --------------------------------------------------

> -----

> > It's a bit like the Masons..

> >

> > Those who are in, know they're in.

> >

> > Those who are not, know they're not.

> >

> > ..and if you're not in, then you won't know

> who

> > is. But you can usually guess.

> >

> > Hope that helps

> >

> > DulwichFox

>

> I wonder if it's almost the opposite - those who

> perceive themselves as 'outside' think there is a

> clique they're not part of, while those who don't

> feel like outsiders aren't aware that others may

> be having a different experience from them?


Yep, I get that..


There may well be a perception of there being a clique that one is not part of or a belief one already is.


Its a question of whether there is any desire to belong to any such Clique.


Like there are people who win the lottery that believe they will be 'Rubbing Shoulders' with the Rich & Famous


DulwichFox

Robert Poste's Child

Robert Poste's Child

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I also sometimes find that people who have been involved in moderating the forum can sometimes bring a bit of that into their personal posts (the phrase I'm avoiding here is 'sound judgmental'), but I'm sure it's not consciously done.
Seabag

Seabag

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Louisa Wrote:

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> You see I like most people on this forum, until

> they wind me up. Then I dislike them for a short

> while, then I like them again. It's never taken to

> heart for long. But some people know how to press

> my buttons. Some people within the clique never

> wind me up ever, others are perceived to be in the

> clique even if they are not and wind me up leading

> to me putting them stupidly in the clique. The

> perception of the clique usually happens when

> incomprehensible jargon and sarcastic phrases are

> thrown into the mix and only some people get it,

> it gives the impression of "we know what we are

> saying and it's aimed at you haha". Infuriating.

>

> Louisa.



Yep, you're definitely in a clique


It's a small one, consisting of 2 members


At the head is you, the other member being the (self appointed) 'sheriff' Foxy


As cliques go on the EDF, it's probably the most impenetrable/weirdly hillarious

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Fooking hell Otta not this again!!!! And which particular clique are we talking about?


The Curry club

The music game

The football fans

The people who used to go to drinks

Dulwich Hamlet fans

The I,ve lived here for years 'you lot' can fack off clique


FFSs the world is cliquey but people who get paranoia about cliques are just projecting their own insecurities.

Alan Medic

Alan Medic

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What about the 100's clique? A notable omission Quids. As for the Curry Club, I once ventured in there to get a score and was told to eff off in no uncertain terms along the lines of your type doesn't add any value to this thread type of thing. Fair point but I was just playing a game (of sorts).
numbers

numbers

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never felt the forum was 'cliquey', so never felt unable to post on here.


obviously realise that with previous drinks meet-ups that some posters had met IRL, which is bound to give some familiarity to their posts with one another (still find that this didn't exclude newbies from joining in).


have no idea who moderates the forum (how do people know this unless they are serial long-time lurkers/posters?)

Robert Poste's Child

Robert Poste's Child

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numbers Wrote:

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> have no idea who moderates the forum (how do

> people know this unless they are serial long-time

> lurkers/posters?)


A few of them have mentioned it from time to time.

RosieH

RosieH

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Jesus wept, Otta, it doesn't matter how many times you ask, you can't be in the clique. You had your chance, and you blew it. It's six years later, move on...


(but if you come round and take my tree down, I'll let you be in my clique - we wear designer headbands and eat ortolan).

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