First time Mrs Keef was pregnant, we told too many people about it, and I did mention names we'd considered, to various friends. Sure enough, baby never made it, which was fecking horrible, but fortunately, we'd never really started associating a name directly with it. Next time, we were much more secretive, until much later on, and like Lorraine, we had a nickname for the unborn baby, which is still used. However, as soon as she was born, and we were told it was a girl, we agreed that she should have the name we'd both always liked... Had things been different, then the first baby may have been given that name (had it been a girl), but I don't feel like we'd already given it, so felt fine using it.