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Waking up to Roy Ayres singing "You Send Me" with Carla Vaughn and Mozarts Piano Concerto No 20 in D Minor (I know not strictly a song)

Gosh so many but most recently Alan Dale. May just have to paddle my canoe to Zipolite!

"when I drove with my kids to the south of Spain and back" In a hybrid? Spain and Portugal especially probably have the most dangeous roads in Europe

Thanks Gerry you've been really helpful.

Nice first post

Gerry, you've hit the nail on the head. Can you PM me a recommendation to forward onto them. Would they have to wait long to get an appointment? I've never tried to tell them whether they should split or make-up but simply to recognise and face their problems and then decide what to do after that. Currently he has temporarily moved out of the house but is negotiating his way back into the spare room. My hunch tells me that it might be too early to do this until they've started getting some proper help. What do you think?

Wish we had a Fresh and Wild here in place of Cafe Nero

I'm very close to both of them (known them since they first met) and they both have a dependency. The husband says he's prepared to get counseling for it but his wife doesn't think she has a problem even.

Yes very interesting how they solve the problem in other countries. This is how they do it in Iraq warning contains bad language

It's that Alan and *Bob*

Thanks Gerry. Part of the problem is that the wife feels she doesn't want to participate in marriage counseling because she doesn't feel that she wants to rebuild the relationship. Naturally a lot of this is anger speaking. She's also being encouraged by her family not to take him back, even though they've been together for 14 years, this has never happened before and he is (with the exception of this indiscretion) a very decent guy. The other complication is that there appears to be a level of dependency on Cocaine. Would they need two counsellors (relationship/addiction) or can one deal with it all?

White Lines (Don't do it)

I usually tip the deliverer between ?1 and ?2 depending on what change I have in my pocket as I normally pay for the food by cc. Out of curiosity reidos which Chinese did you order from?

Clapham is probably what ED will look like in 10 years time, like it or loathe it.

Maurice have you started smokin' Crack?

Is that invite *Bob* specific? Several years ago a friend of mine living in Camden was expecting her elderly mother to join her and her husband on Christmas Day. When the doorbell rang it was a rather distraught mini cab driver. Her mother had died during the journey.

I worked in Africa for a couple of years and was really saddened at the number of people I met that suffered AIDS related tragedies on a regular basis. At monthly office meetings it was normal to say a prayer for a previous member of staff that had either contracted the disease or died from related complications. The amount of effort, aid, education and resources being poured into Africa is evident all around everyday yet the biggest problem appears to be at the top levels of society and government. Although in some countries it is slowly changing, the denial or stigma attached means that very little changes at grass roots level in terms of sexual practice and the use of protection. Unfortunately it's usually women that suffer the most as there is a very high level of promiscuity and in some cases the belief that sex with a virgin will cure any disease. As a result there is also a high incidence of rape. In the developed world we are more complacent and tend to assume that with our knowledge and easy access to retroviral drugs etc that it is easily contained and a problem that only relates to certain groups. I'm so glad to see Mandela getting behind the campaign despite Mbekis reluctance and I hope for the sake of the continent more people take notice and start to act.

Undercover SLP journo exposed?

You don't have to deny shopping in Iceland. You can get help you know.

This sign might make drivers slow down and think

As you say, infidelity is invariably a symptom of much bigger problems in the relationship which generally revolve around poor communication, being open and honest with your feelings and mutual respect. Having joint children certainly provides some motivation to stay together but I suspect that the thought of selling a heavily mortgaged home, expensive car etc is just as strong an incentive these days! I guess the central issue though is TRUST. When it's broken it is almost impossible for some people to forgive. If you can't get to a point where you're willing to trust again without setting restrictive conditions then I can't see how it is possible to move forward in a relationship.

Just spent the last four days mediating between a couple of close friends whose marriage is on the rocks because the husband was caught being unfaithful for the last 6 months. If it happened to you would you consider having your partner back or do you believe in one strike and out? What would be the terms and how would you go about putting the relationship back on track? Would it make a difference if there are kids from the relationship?

>:D

Does chips with curry sauce count? More time for drinking then!

I love living in East Dulwich and the EDF is the icing on the cake. Where else can you learn some fascinating historical facts about the area, be informed of current social issues and talk with some interesting people? It's a great resource if I need something locally and it's nice to know you can also do your bit to help others out, inform and amuse them. Working from home it's a great companion and an awful distraction. For example as a result of a recent post I will now start shopping in Iceland and buy a drink at The Vale with a plastic bag on my head.