Lessons learnt 1st time, don't rehearse and memorise, have a bit of paper in front of you 2nd time, take the piss out of them but be nice, getting pissed helps (but don't overdo it) 3rd time, don't ever ever ever wing it 4th time, don't follow otta and his last supper/mary magdalene speech, but if you do, just be soppy 5th time, relax and enjoy. and above all, keep it short, people love to laugh at a piss take and go awww at a soppy bit, but most of all they want to go to the toilet and quaff another pint/glass of wine. I've the first draft text of my last one around if you want it. And don't worry my last two I wrote on the morning of the wedding, nothing like pressure to get the juices flowing.