dulwichgirl2

I see. Surely a question then of referring differently to the annexe in order to capture any other nomenclature potential purchasers might use eg basement flat, selfcontained, nanny flat, extended family etc. I dug out the information for you but I think it might be more useful to someone else. Paul at Photoplan and their fees were even more reasonable than I remembered them: 8 Photos and floorplan = ?150 ex vat Videoette = ?85 ex vat Microsite from ?650 ex vat 30 Brochures = ?150 ex vat HTH

No doubt they are cheaper. Women should choose the safest not the cheapest option though, surely?

Assuming you don't want to use an agent, have you set up a website for the house? I have just tried to find the details of an excellent prop website co that we spoke to some time ago. They had various cheap packages eg 300 plus vat for a website, floor plan and photos. I thought that vg and it would act as an adjunct to your various fora, gumtree, se22 (haven't seen it for ages) etc adverts. I wish I could find the name of the guy I spoke to. If I do, I will post it as he was so switched on and helpful, I'd like him to get more business. A long shot but what about "older people" magazines or sites? Saga or similar? I also wonder how much the personal websites (equivalent of prime location) charge. Has anyone used those? Anything has to be better than 2pc plus vat, surely?

Funerals are about supporting and comforting the living as well as remembering the dead. The dead person has appointed the organiser to act in his or her behalf and has placed his or her trust in the organsier to arrrange things as he or she would have wanted. Hence why you go with the organiser's honest and genuinely expressed wishes and preferences. The views of the rest of the family are in this instance irrelevant unless of course someone had a specific conversation with the deceased that would change the organiser's mind. In this case, it should be brought to the attention of the organiser. the other family members are therefore welcome to do this. Lastly, if you think the organiser is trying to accommodate you as opposed to carry out the deceased's wishes, then obviously you do not take the baby. As I said above, I hope it goes as smoothly as these things can and that the bereaved family is comforted in their pain.

Could you ask them for a lift home? (Most people will be yawning and choose to give you some money for the taxi I imagine!) Otherwise, I don't think it's at all unreasonable to ask direct for the money either tbh. You have to put your safety first over all other considerations. I know the extra money from bbsitting is a temptation and it is nice to be able to go on nights out with friends etc - I was young once and looking for jobs too! - but, please, you must be safe. Ask them for 10 quid more.

Mattress plus also length. Ours is very old now but big according to our friends. THere wasn't much choice in those days...so it is accidentally big in fact. The other thing is that there seems to be a knack to putting them up and I have never had it!

Sorry to hear. :-( However, it is more straightforward than the wedding dilemma of yesterday. One and only answer- you ask the organiser and go with whatever he or she states as his or her preference, whether you agree with it, think it right or not. Hope it goes as smoothly as these events can and that people are comforted by the day.

Have not had it done but I wonder if the following is worth mentioning. A number of (female) friends in their early 40s have noticed that their previous myopia changed significantly - they've become long sighted in some cases - at around 42 (which is quite close to your 38, hence the relevance). Somethign seems to happen in the female body (at least) around that time. You might want to factor that in, plus the fact that natural eyesight changes again when expecting a baby (if you are having more children). (How does the surgeon factor this in? Maybe the surgerye makes the eyes change proof in some way? I really don't know but would be interested to find out.)

It is obviously the height of bad manners to behave in a way that makes others feel uncomfortable and that goes for a number of situations and comments on this thread. Think about it. Thinking back to our wedding may I suggest that, if you don't like the scenario being offered, don't go. Don't attend and think you are so special you can act differently from what has been provided. (I am particularly thinking of guests asking for special food, as some fool dared to demand at my wedding!)

Err thanks maxxi.

I never understand the inception that working from home saves onchildcare. There is no obligation on employers to allow people to work from home while looking after children so how can anyone save? In your case, I don't follow why your friend cannot look after the babies while you are at work.

Single or vulnerable people could ask people leaving the station to walk along together... Unfortunately on relfection it would lead to the arrest of the person asking I fear.... Op, hope you are feeling a bit better. Could you and your neighbours install a big movement activated light if the path is a bit dark? Just thinking practically. it is also a reminder to everyone to looks found before opening the front door. Better to be screaming outside than in the hall. Dear god, it makes me shudder to imagine it.

Thank goodness she managed to scream poor lamb. Sometimes people are paralysed with fright.

World atlas? V big one. Maybe a bit boring. I think mallams auctioneers have first edition sales - can find some lovely things at quite reasonable prices if you look at the sale prices - if you have time?

Why do people buy gold. Is it: 1. Its value as jewellery? Partly 2. Its value for industrial purposes? Partly 3. Its ability to generate cash flow? Nope. 4. Its ability to be moved around and to hold value in times of trouble? Mostly but why?! It is totally circular and dependent on everyone thinking this way. Surely the gold bubble is the biggest ever? At least people can live in sw7 candy and candy 10mm flats. They have a rental yield. What does gold have? I think it is the biggest con ever.

Snowboarder, thank you. (a lot basically from post tax income and savings) All of which building information and costs reinforce the view that it is better to be the guy providing tractors than to be the farmer. Husker- now that I know what a "double" is, I know someone who bought with a "single" and made it a "double". Struck me as a lot of hassle at the time for minimal increased space. You also don't want to be the most expensive house on the street according to my parents as people want to say they live ina better street and move into the cheapest house there instead. I just wonder when prices will reflect rents. But then I missed the crazy rush into gold for the same reason.

Also just found a lot of interesting reminiscing going on on the Dulwich site with a lady called beryl and a man called mike posting some really fascinating and personal stories, most of which led me to be thankful for running water and central heating. Oh forumites, never complain your bathroom is out of date again!

good grief....

Hello, have you looked up your ancestors or your house in ED? Has anyone found anything interesting? We looked up the censuses to 1911 and discovered that our house was lived in by a small Edwardian/Victorian family, parents in law and a cook and kitchen maid. Quite astonishing given the size of it. The children were stated to be "scholars" which I now gather means "at school" and the head of the household was the manager in a factory. He had been born in Jamaica - we traced his name backwards - and then came here to SE London. It is quite eerie to walk downstairs holding the bannister, feeling where it has been worn smooth by the touch of the people I'm researching.

havea look at a recent thread on ED General Issues about a terrifying attack on a woman coming home on her own path. Apparently the police said the same thing had happened a few hours beforehand and the woman had broken her own window to get her husband's attention. Be vigilant. Sorry - not really a family issue in particular.

Dear God, this is horrendous. Thank you so much for posting and warning everyone. It is a salutary reminder that very very nasty people exist. THat was not an ordinary burglar. Could you give the police a description of his voice even? Height? Smell? So sorry to ask these things. Very sorry you have had this experience and thank you again.

Yes, as above, check the date on the permission. I wld also get my solicitor to give me a spcific statement on the poermission point so that, wcs, you coudl sue him/her. (sorry to talk this way but it is better to be clear at the outset as opposed to arguing in an expesnive court later over whether the sol thought it was his or her job to comment on planning.) As a digression, how much does one need to set aside for side return and loft development? and how long do these horrendous incursions into building work take? ALso, someone mentioned to me the other day the concept of "double loft" - does that ring a bell with anyone? Is yours "single" Husker?

Annette, Lordy. Few insults are more biting than "estate agent troll", thank you very much. All, Actually we have been watching the market for over two years, waiting to buy on the dip that never really materialised, and getting more and more frustrated as time passes, our deposit grows, admittedly but not nearly as much as the damn asking prices. The guy I spoke to yesterday or the day before was a jolly sort of chap, well informed but also pretty confident. We are now looking outside ED as it is far too dear around LL and suggestions of nice streets are welcome.

Ibilly, what you are doing makes sense. There are many v nice and considersbly cheaper areas around ed. If you time it right you could get the upswing on those too! Now my mouth is frothing, never mind the estate agent's...

Gina, v interesting thanks. We are tesco fans here, partly because the few problems have been sorted out very well.