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The letters are on their way for Sept are they? Fingers crossed we get one....

Hi Molly, thanks for the offer but I haven't got a dryer and now the radiators are off and it's not warm enough outside, it's too difficult to dry them. This is the reason why I eventually gave up on real nappies in the first place. Wish I'd perservered however as I wouldn't be having the problem that I have now! Yup, she's with-holding, but it's not just because of potty training (although that's made it much worse), seems she's been doing it for most of her life, poor kid, I didn't realise that it has been so uncomfortable for her to poo until recently. Good idea about the flannels, hadn't thought of that, thanks. Bumpkin - she's been in pull-ups (pampers and sainsburys) since August. I assumed they would be a step in that direction but they don't seem to be. Is there a particular make you were thinking of?

We've had to stop potty training for about 6 weeks while we resolve a problem with my daughters constipation (long story). I really don't want to go back to everyday nappies as they take all the moisture away and I'm worried that she will regress again (it's been a long, long struggle so far). It's too late in the day to invest in real nappies and the ones I have are now too small. I would like to find some pull-ups that stay wet when they are wet, at least a little bit - do they exist? I've started putting a liner in the nappy but this isn't ideal and whilst I have a few left, I can't find anywhere locally that sell them (tried Sains and Co-op). Thanks for any tips.

3 years down the line and I'm still bloody angry about my C. It was a decision that I was forced to make due to so many mistakes made by the hospital staff. They even had to put me out with a general so my partner wasn't able to be there when she came out and I only saw her when I came round about half hour later. My one and only child and I missed "the" moment. The cut is really wobbly, is much longer than others that I've seen and it looks like they sewed me up crooked too so one side of my belly will never lie flat again. That C was the worst worst moment of my life and I have never been so scared. How anyone can say it's an easy decision is beyond me. Thanks for the link, it helps a bit (and sorry for venting but I think I needed it!)

It was funny, my watch was slow so wasn't in position when I heard it start. I rushed down, behind a concerned security guard and overheard people saying "there's people dancing down there!" I got to the fruit aisle in time to get my kiddie out of the trolley and pop on our noses and have a bit of a dance but there was so many people trying to get a look (with lots also joining in!) that it was difficult to get in the aisle! I assume this was the furthest aisle away from the main action as you could hardly hear the music, but everyone in the know was singing. Good effort! I took a very short video of the end which I'll email you now.

When my daughter started having major tantrums about bathtime a few months ago, we got caught in the same loop as you and it was awful. However, I did finally break through when I stopped saying it's bathtime and starting asking her about half hour before, what she thinks she might like to play with in the bath later. On the first day of trying this, I blew up some balloons and said hey, won't these be fun to play with in the bath later. It was still 20 minutes before bathtime when she grabbed the balloons and took her and them up for a bath! Run the bath mum! From that point it's been easy. She's now started having tantrums about all sorts of things (just her age I think) and I always try and take the same approach, rather than dealing with the actual issue, think past the issue and try to get her to think about the toys she can play with when we get downstairs (after dressing) or the books that are in the car, etc. etc. without actually making a deal about the problem in hand. I hope this gives you some ideas, sometimes just a change of tact can make all the difference. Good luck x

My kiddie's hardly in a buggy these days but I wish I'd known about these before - seems so obvious!

Thanks taper - I will follow up with a phonecall.

Waiting list? Here's me waiting until my daughter has ditched the nappies before signing up, but didn't think about waiting lists! That explains why Dulwich Ballet School haven't bothered to reply to my email of 2 weeks ago. Fidgetsmum - good luck with finding the right school - I'd be really interested in anything you find out about either of them as I have been wondering about which one to approach myself. McAlpine is too far away for us though (assuming it's this one http://www.mcalpinedance.com/)

We've got one in our garden on Landells Road. It's half under ground and half above, concrete with arched roof. Small steel door and a metal rung ladder to get in it. I've always been too much of a coward to get in but my niece and nephew love it when they come over. The previous owners built a brick out-house on top and pebble dashed it - hilarious. Still trying to think of something we could use the shelter for.

Thanks, that's a little reassuring! I haven't seen that website before, I'll take a look, thanks Fuschia

No joy here either. My childminder and I gave it a good shot in January - 4 weeks of constant accidents with no obvious progress and all 3 of us ended up getting stressed about it. In particular my daughter was becoming very upset by the whole thing so we decided that we'd revert to nappies and just put "big girl pants" on when she chooses to wear them. She's happy to wear them quite often but she will now only ever wees and poos in her nappy. She sits on the toilet often but never has a result. I don't think she's worked out a) how to let it out on demand; b) to recognise the feeling of when it is about to come out. I've had her in pants since last Thursday and she is now constipated. I don't think it's a coincidence. My latest shot is that she's desperate for ballet lessons so I've explained to her that she can't wear a nappy with a leotard and ballet skirt so she won't be able to start until she's using the toilet during the day. Fingers crossed. Pebbles - she will not sit on the potty at all anymore. She'll sit on the toilet with the child seat but only when SHE wants to. I can no longer persuade her to sit on it at regular intervals. I also can't go cold turkey as she really doesn't seem to care about weeing anywhere and everywhere. She's going to be 3 next week... Is she the oldest kid around in nappies?

architectsimon Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Atticus, > > As your architect on this matter, I think it could > be time to set a few things straight here! > Southwark Council's view on this has been formed > by the following appeal decision against a > property in the area: > > "In my opinion this advice is clearly relevant to > the matter before me in the > appeal. It is common ground that the scheme > satisfies Class B. However, > criterion (g) of Class A cannot be satisfied since > the enlarged part of the > dwellinghouse is within two metres of the boundary > and is greater than three > metres in height. Page 21 of the document states > that "where any part of an > extension to a house is within two metres of the > boundary of the land > surrounding the property, then the maximum height > of the eaves that is > allowed for all parts of the proposal is three > metres". I therefore conclude > that the proposed development is not permitted by > the Order and requires > planning permission. The appeal must accordingly > fail." > > We have questioned this every step of the way. As > a local resident of East Dulwich, there are lots > of people having this work done by building > companies as they are not fully up to speed on the > regualations. A friend of my wife's, 6 doors > down, has fallen for it through a local loft > comapany. > > I have spoken with the case officer at Southwark > Council and this is their stance. The head of > planning would not take my call..... I've read and re-read this and I can't quite get my head around it: "Class A cannot be satisfied since the enlarged part of the dwellinghouse is within two metres of the boundary and is greater than three metres in height" - 1) is the difference between the current height of the existing eaves and the height of the eaves after the renovation? "where any part of an extension to a house is within two metres of the boundary of the land surrounding the property, then the maximum height of the eaves that is allowed for all parts of the proposal is three metres" - 2) is this referring to the eaves on the original roof as well as the eaves on the outrigger? 3) "max height... is three metres" 3 metres from what?? Atticus - you suggested on a later post that your outrigger would only be raised by 1 metre. I don't understand how you could gain another bathroom on top of your existing bathroom (I assume they are both bathrooms) if you are only increasing the height of the existing eaves on the outrigger by 1 metre? Clearly I'm missing something here but would love to understand as we are looking to doing something similar. A number of my neighbours have completed the same extentions recently and after reading this post, I checked the Southwark planning site and they are listed and were approved. One even quotes the above criteria and states that it passes.

Same same same. Although I think my little girl has inherited some of it too as she likes tidy lines and spends ages getting those Inocent magnets lined up perfectly. My OH can't understand why I want one toy cleared away before we get another one out. I leave him and her alone for half a day and my brain can't cope with all the disorganisation when I get back. I play snap with my little girl and she never puts the card on top of the pile, I find that I have to move it on top before I can play mine. It shouldn't matter!

My cleaner charges ?9ph but I round it up to ?10ph as my mother who is retired does a bit of cleaning for a bit of extra cash and says that as it's such hard work, she doesn't think anyone should do it for less than a tenner an hour. Fair enough mum, I said!

Yes, we had the same problem with my tall daughter. On the The Nappy Ladies advice, I went to a shop in Petts Wood to discuss what we should do as I thought she might be too young to move away from the 5 point harness. They were very helpful. They told me that as she was so tall, it was safer for her to be in the next seat up with the normal seat belt rather than the 5 point when her shoulders were over the top belt holes. I have to say, I wish we'd done it sooner as it's so much easier getting her in and out of the car! http://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/forum/read.php?29,566981,566981#msg-566981

Byngo - I hear you! I'm doing exactly the same - 2nd time around for us too after trying in the summer for a solid 10 days and failing miserably. She's not quite 3 yet and still has a long nap in the day (in nappy), also with a child minder for much of the week who sometimes doesn't want to risk taking her out without a nappy as she's so bad at giving any warning. She also holds on for hours and hours (although not all day like yours) amazing bladder control. Usually the naptime nappy is full. She apparently pooed on the carpet at the childrens centre today and told my CM - "I did it over there" pointing to the poo. Yesterday, she was standing right next to the potty and did a massive wee beside it. Now I know she can pee a little and hold it and then get to the potty so I'm sure she did it deliberately, particularly as she was laughing and splashing her feet in it. I gently told her "it's okay to have accidents but it's not funny or something to laugh at" she replied "it is a little funny mummy". Oh dear! If you fancy some moral support or to see whether our girls might find it "fun" to pee together on Friday morning or afternoon for an hour or so, PM me. We're replacing our wood floor when she's topped peeing on it so the accidents aren't a major issue here! x

Ah Pickle, that special way of parenting that only dads get away with. All is now clear! ryedalema - we've only just realised benefit of giving a choice between 2 things rather than a question that requires a yes or no. Amazing what difference it has made! Pebbles - how did you get on? It's still working for us - the last 2 days have been so much better!

And there was me thinking what a lovely family unit you looked this morning Pickle! What a difference half an hour makes :o)

Well tonight, about half an hour before it was actually bath time I told her "it'll be bath time soon, you tell me when you're ready to go". Then a little later when she was playing with a plastic monkey, I asked her if she thought the monkey would like a bath with her. She said "NO BATH!!" So I replied, it's okay, it's not bath time yet, but later when you're ready for your bath, maybe monkey wants to go too. About 5 mins later, she took herself (and the monkey) up for a bath! I tell you, it was that easy...

Threenager - love it. Makes it easier if you can put a name to it. Okay, so bath time was so easy tonight, I can hardly believe it - she actually took herself up the stairs and told me to wait until she was there before I come and run her a bath! Recently, I've have to drag her up virtually kicking and screaming! Giving her "control" is working wonders, thanks sis in law. Although it probably helped as I feel a lot calmer today after reading your posts, so thanks all. x Still didn't get many teeth brushed though, she brushes the front ones to make the brush frothy and then sucks it in and swallows it. hmmm

Fuschia Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Dodo1 Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > Phone BusyBees. they will talk you and even > your > > husbands company on how to set this up. > > Avoid busybees like the plague, they are a bunch > of incompetents! I had to change the provider we > use at work, they were so rubbish (and rude with > it!) I agree - I had a terrible time with Busybees after they were taken over by another company just over a year ago. They couldn't even get the payments right.

Yes redjam - that sums up my household completely! So glad I'm not alone fellow parents of 3yo's but wish I'd had some warning. My sister in law gave some advice last night - she said to make my daughter feel she's in control, so rather than tell her it's time to get dressed/bath/bed time etc. let her "decide" that it's time by making the option seem attractive but without suggesting that it's time. Amazingly, my OH says it worked this morning to get her dressed. I've been at work all day so I've just tried it with dinner - also a success. So far so good - will report back on bath time, typically the hardest thing to persuade her it's time for... and don't get me started on cleaning her teeth - anyone got any tips for that?

TJ Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > if you own an iphone 4 make sure you switch on the > 'find my iphone' feature so you can disable it if > they pinch it. > > http://www.apple.com/iphone/find-my-iphone-setup/ Thanks. didnt know about that. Jess-ED - thanks for passing on your experience - I for one appreciate hearing about these things as I do tend to become complacent "won't happen to me, never been a victim" blah blah and hearing about these things reminds me to err on the side of caution.

Yes, just poured one. It was all I could do to wait until she'd gone to bed! Slippery slope, mothers ruin, it's all starting to make sense now.