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So what do we all want for Christmas?
snowboarder replied to Mellors's topic in The Family Room Discussion
I'd like: Sleep please (baby) Trip to the snowy mountains (not gonna happen) A nice well fitting warm not too bulky stylish coat with a hood (for buggy pushing) A Terrys chocolate orange tree And yeah - instant slimming aid would be nice too. -
randomv Wrote: > I'm no advocate of leaving young babies to "cry it > out" but some babies do cry because they are > overtired and they want to be asleep, not because > they want or need to be held or fed or have a > comforter. I'm pretty sure this is why my baby cries - especially when he wakes up from a nap (30 mins!!) he knows he doesn't want to be awake - but he CAN'T get back to sleep...so I end up doing whatever to get back to sleep. And so we continue!! It is dispiriting when you hear that all your nct mates are celebrating their 7-7 sleeping babies. I don't even want to talk about it with them as I feel embarrassed (clearly not so on here!) and actually a bit ashamed - like I'm failing. Thanks hh and alieh for support. x
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Fuschia - am too impatient (stupid?) to read the quotes - can you paraphase for me?!?:) I was just kind of saying that you think right, ok, in order for sleep to be good for me and baby, he has to learn to get himself to sleep. Methods for this are bit hardcore and involve effort and upset, but pay off. Naps are important. Right - psyche self up. Then I read fuschias link and think OH NO - it's all about sleeping together and it's mean to leave him in the cot on his own and OH NO he's on his tummy in the cot. So it's hard to know what to do - because they all make sense!! 4hrs - yeah - pretty good night if you get that!! Not interested in teddy/comforters. Can't even find his THUMB at night - and it's in his mouth most of the day! I put a little sophie giraffe pram toy on the cot ages ago - and now he just gets obsessed by it and it distracts him - but when I took it away he spent the whole night exploring the cot looking for sophie!! Don't know where thread going either...I'm just rambling/putting forward the comments of a confused (tired) mummy!
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I'm in a big old STRESS about sleep again now. I'd kind of convinced myself we were managing - just - but with talk of 2 hr lunchtime naps in cots etc (other post) and a weekend where sleep was v bad - well last night I couldn't sleep (yep the irony is not lost on me) as too stressed. And today's weather blows my sleep in buggy routine - so emphasises my problem. And this article - baby is (finally) upstairs alone on his tummy with a teddy in the cot. So not only do we have bad sleep (some say my fault for being softie/cuddling/singing/rocking) but am damaging him in different ways and bad things could happen. There's just too much to read and too many conflicting philosophies. I can't deal with any of this until after christmas as too much going on but I'm in SERIOUS get sleep sorted in the new year....sob....watch this space.
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first babies, and due dates
snowboarder replied to SianandTony's topic in The Family Room Discussion
Yes - actually - as soon as you relax and think the baby is nice and cosy and NOT coming out - they come along!! I was booked for a c-section at the last minute and told cervix was tightly shut etc so finally relaxed, no bag packed etc - then 3 days before supposed to babySB decided the time was NOW. Annoying - not organised/no bag etc....! -
first babies, and due dates
snowboarder replied to SianandTony's topic in The Family Room Discussion
Put your feet up...seriously! -
2 hr wakes is horrendous. I know that the pick up put down just wont work with my baby - it's all up and no down...and if he is put down awake (like tried to tonight) he just seems totally unable to calm down and settle. The only thing...as you know Belle - we found Z woke less when we put him carefully down on his tummy rather than on back, when he immediately startles awake. Will think of you tonight - we'll be there too but thankfully not in 2 hr stretches!!
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One of those parenting 'moments'.....
snowboarder replied to The Nappy Lady's topic in The Family Room Discussion
I think we mostly made our own at school - badly - supplemented by school dressing up store. I feel sick at the thought of having to make costumes..too much pressure...and actually I do remember having to be the narrator in the nativity play once as my mum didn't make me a costume one year when very little!! -
Oh no - since this thread began babySB seems only to want to eat toast, pasta with tomato sauce and organix fruit puree. Is refusing everything else that has previously eaten - even yoghurt. Is fussiness/binging (?!?)a symptom of the first few months of weaning? And should I pander to it or just keep offering (and throwing away) other stuff. Have a freezer full of previously gulped down cheesy sauce dishes... (cod/veg thing not accepted again...sob...)
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I'm not feeling broody (yet! - more like shudder at the thought!) but I definitely would like to have another baby at some point - not least to have a sibling for babySB, and also something in me says I would like another go at this newborn baby lark and actually try and enjoy it next time round!! I hear you tend to feel much less anxious second time round (bound to I suppose) and it won't be the complete and utter shock of first baby. What about babies three and four though....!! Timing....hmmm..well..lets see...I need to get me to the mountains again so maybe after winter season 2010/11??!?
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Going back to work...or not!
snowboarder replied to snowboarder's topic in The Family Room Discussion
I totally take my hat off to all of you juggling babies and work - in whatever split (full/part time). I suppose its telling that I have not even really looked into childcare - totally head in sand about the whole issue! I AM lucky in that my salary was a pittance in comparison to my husbands (hey - another lawyer!) so I do have options. MAybe this makes it harder though - if you have no choice you just have to get on with it!! And I do find it hard that it's MY career that is automatically dispensable just because it pays less. But also there's no WAY I'd let hubby bring up baby!! In my head pre pregnancy I was going to use this year as a break and maybe find something that whilst related to my training would be a new start (in manner of womens magazine article!). Well I've been too busy with poo and sick and crying (baby, mostly!), so that hasn't happened! Good stuff. How about flexible childcare? I was wondering whether anyone has nanny shares with another full time family where you commit to say 2 days per week - but they could be any day? -
Going back to work...or not!
snowboarder replied to snowboarder's topic in The Family Room Discussion
My mum didn't work either until I was about 14...but she had actually not worked before having children as had me when she was 20! I've had 10 years of working really hard, (and having loads of fun!) and I just can't decide whether not going back would be throwing all that work and study away or just taking a bit of a break and getting some perspective on what is a really hard, demanding and not very well paid profession! ClareC - Locum work not sthg I think happens - you mean like temping? Only for more basic work I think. -
Going back to work...or not!
snowboarder replied to snowboarder's topic in The Family Room Discussion
It's so tricky isn't it? BabySB is now 8 months so end of March is crunch time. It's more that I don't feel like I can leave him rather than I'm LOVING staying at home - it looks like we might be able to survive on one salary for a bit (if I can curb internet baby shopping addiction!) and they are tiny for such a short time... I also have managed to pick a profession where part time working is really difficult - I'm an architect and work in a fairly niche area anyway - jobs are fairly scarce - So I'm going round in circles thinking if I don't go back I may never be able to, but I only would want to work 2 days, and actually don't think could do my job in 2 days a week! I have not approached employers yet either - and now the redundancy issue has come up - I'll find out if I'm at risk this week. The juggling would be tricky too as it would be me dropping off/picking up - increasing my lack of flexibility and therefore employability. Freelance sounds good in principle - but the flexibility issue again. And in todays climate - well tricky. Thanks all - food for thought as always... -
I know there was a really good long thread about working after babies in the summer - and do not want to repeat - but I now have to make decisions about if/how/when to go back to work. And as usual I'm in a pickle about it! I can't quite believe it after all the trouble he's STILL causing me - but I'm amazed to find I'm thinking I can't leave babySB. I spent a long time training/working to get to the position I was in when I left work - and thought would go back at least part time..but perhaps not. Not least because there may not be a job there as my company has just launched another load of redundancies. But if I don't go back now I wonder whether it will be too hard to catch up in the future and there will never be part time opportunities elsewhere. So - question 1 - Stay at Home Mums (are there many?) - are you happy? Do you wish you had gone back? Do you feel scared about returning to work in the future? My other option I suppose could be some sort of freelance work in the future - but - question 2 - how easy is it to have flexible childcare arrangements (guessing not at all)? Question 3 - any other comments?!? Maybe for my own AND babys sake I actually SHOULD work - then we could both have some time apart - but feel it would kill me...!!
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boo not me! next time.
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crystal7 Wrote: > 2 hours in the kitchen the other day making > Annabel Karmel's chicken and apple balls only to > have them swept of the table- urgh! Huh - yes - I spent ages the other night (night! This has to be done in the evenings!) making some cod/veg/cheese sauce AK dish. Took ages and used every pan in the house and got totally paranoid about fish bones. All the time I had my mother's voice in the back of my head saying...'don't make too much of an effort for them...then you won't be cross when they don't eat it....'. Well....he ate it (YEs!), but he didn't LOVE it....
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