Fuschia

coopercat Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I can't help but laugh! They're always so good > for me, I never had any problems when I take them > shopping...Love from The Twins nanny xx Lol. You don't have MrF and child no 1 also with you!!

Saila Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > a lot of babies don't ask to be fed. Sometimes for > very long periods. I had no problem with my milk > 'flow' just that the baby was latching on properly > and not taking in enough milk, Plus he slept for > long periods of time. > > i did exactly what i was told which was to 'feed > on demand'. > > i had no idea that he was getting more and more > dehydrated and his deterioration in health was > alarming > he ended up in special care for 7 days > > the nurse in special care told me HALF the babies > in special care were in there for dehydration Yes, feeding on demand is a misnomer... again, if we had mothers, sisters, aunts who had bf, or more accurate info about the realities of the early days, or better hands on support, we would know that a sleepy baby needs to be made to feed... i had one of these babies (twin II) and I am sure she would have been readmitted to hospital if she had been my first child... we had to feed her by syringe for the first couple of weeks. Quite a few women on here have had similar experiences. i think in their eagerness to encourage bf take up, the official advice misses out a lot of key info... sleepy babies... need to feed every 2-3h.... breasts can get hugely engorged when milk comes in.. all that sort of stuff

Interesting, study of 1678 children in Africa and length of bf http://ije.oxfordjournals.org/cgi/reprint/25/1/115.pdf "only five of the children in the study never breastfed. One did not breastfeed because the mother died while giving birth, one mother became paretic after birth, one child was born with cleft lip/palate and two did not start because the mothers believed their milk was bad and would harm the child... These results concur with previous studies .....only one child in a cohort of 1148 healthy, singleton children failed to breastfeed at all." This is interesting, because if the number of babies who couldn't successfully bf in a poor country such as Guinea Bissau is so low, why are so many women in a country like ours, with much better nutrition and healthcare, convinced that they have no milk?

new mother Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Digression but, why oh why does Mother Nature make > bf so hard that so many women need bf counsellors? > So many women do need them. Babies elsewhere in > the world depend totally on bf, so it's an awful > thought that they might fail to thrive. > > not so clever Mother Nature! I am not sure that's quite the case. I think we just find ourselves isolated without support from other women, mothers, aunts etc who have breastfed... and the media/society has unrealistic expectations about what bf/life with a newborn is like (expecting to feed every 4h, that sort of thing) I think also because formula is portayed via advertising etc as "as good as breast milk" there isn't much incentive for women to persist when they face difficulties... I wonder how many women in countries where there is no ready alternative, find they can't produce enough milk?

Me; have you done a poo? T: no Me: You have! T: i don't! I look in nappy Me: What's that? T: is poo! Me: Whose poo? T: Is Laid's poo! (His name for twin sister) lol

Fi from West Dulwich Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Hmmm, hard to say, maybe 50p piece but a bit more > oval shaped, and flattish. Can't believe something > that big wouldn't have caused more distress or > disturbance though, but can't find the wretched > thing on floor so stomach seems the likely > location. Don't think in lungs but yes, shall > monitor nappy filling and hope for the best! Thank > you for the reply, always reassuring. Hmm.. if that's big maybe you should get him checked out!

DS1 swallowed a coin, they xrayed him to check it was in stomach not lungs and said it would turn up by itself (we never spotted it though) I'd watch out for any signs it is affecting breathing or blocking intestines, otherwise probably don't worry too much!!! How big was it?

THis http://www.hireananny.co.uk/Nannytax%20brochure_hireananny.pdf seems to state that it's only considered a benefit in kind if itb has its own front door etc

A nanny tax agency will know whether the accomodation can be considered a necessary part of the role and hence tax exempt..

It doesn't look to me like you have the correct tax for the room rental... if you exceed the 4250 allwed tax free under the rent aroom scheme, then you pay tax on the whole profit (ie income less any expenses) I don't quite follow your calcs re the live in nanny... 500 gross pay 350 + 150 tax? I suspect tax is chargeable on the benefit in kind (accmomodation) http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/paye/exb/a-z/l/accommodation.htm

Might try again in Sept when school and creche etc have resumed!!

Saila Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > But there's no synergies. I.e. you could just as > easily rent the room out and they'd be no > financial difference. Except you'd pay tax on the income Though if a nanny gets accommodation, is that taxed anyway?

Well, we ventured out to Bromley yesterday. I must say my shopping experience wasn't entirely pleasurable.. M was having a buggy refusenik day so MrF took the boys while I had her on reins... irst stop H&M where she lay on the ground scresming in the maternity aisle (I made a swift exit) M&S, new look, primark I couldn't spot any maternity (quick dash in and out) Mothercare - all horrible Finally managed to buy soem tops in Next. Twins then covered themselves in icing at a nearby patisserie and tried to run off....

Vik Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I'm due October and am in the same position!# Which one? Working ft, or needing to take toddler along to any meet up? We could do a weekend with toddlers, maybe?

I'm so pleased! Well done for sticking with it.. and well done you for going to look for some advice and help when it was needed...

Most of those... Though we have had "Why is there a mobile phone in the toilet?"

http://www.mothercare.com/Moda-Support-yoga-pants/dp/B000M8GJK0?_encoding=UTF8& http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/Mothercare-M2b-Maternity-Yoga-Pants-Size-12-Cost-/260641428296

By the end with the twins I lived in a pair of yoga style pants (size 20 and I am usually 12/14!) from mothercare, a stretchy long skirt I had from DS1, and my trusty pjs!

Some ideaS HERE http://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/forum/read.php?5,346369,346729#msg-346729

Is anyone else in this category? Would like to get together but for me it's best to do when I DO have my toddlers... rather than weekends

I am due end of Nov (prob will be born early DEc) and am not sure if I am autumn or winter!?

fmay Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > thanks Fuschia, that makes it much clearer. So if > your child goes for half days before 3 you would > pay full fees? Yes

The Forest Hill twins group will be meeting in the main hall at Kilmorie Primary School, Kilmorie Road on Friday 30 July from 9.30am to 11.30am. Jessica, the organiser says: You need to use the school's main entrance off Kilmorie Road and the hall is to the right of main reception. If the school car park is open then please use it, if not there is usually lots of parking in the road right outside. We shall have a bit more space and hopefully room for a few more toys, but please be prepared for a little bit of chaos as we try to work out how best to accommodate everyone in our new, temporary, space. We will be running on Fridays, 6, 13 and 20 of August, but please note that the school is closed on Friday 27 August and therefore the group will not be running on that day. We shall then be back in the Children's Centre next door on Friday 3 September. As most of you know, we are a free group, but we do ask for a small contribution towards the cost of refreshments and craft materials.

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Preschooldevelopmentandlearning/NurseriesPlaygroupsReceptionClasses/DG_10016103 Getting a place in a school nursery has no bearing at all on reception admissions. You can be in nursery but not get a reception place, and you can get in to reception without having been in nursery.

The government pays for 15 p/w free nursery education for every child from the term after their third birthday. This is usually in the form of 5 x 3h sessions (am or pm) if in the nusery class of a school... private nurseries may offer more flexibility, I believe the 15h must be spread across a minimum of 3 days though. Nurseries who wish to gain the govt funding are supposed to offer this 15h totally free (no top up fees) though it looks many flout the law (and the tories seem minded to allow top up fees) Nurseries that offer the 15h locally include Buds, Puddleduck... and many schools have nursery classes. You should probably apply about a year in advance. I think for Sept 2011 school nusery admissions, places may be allocated from Spring 2011, for eg. Some nurseries may charge a fee to go on the waiting list.