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Try this: https://courses.fetalmedicine.com/fmf/show/403?locale=en

Any news? Found this (look at page 7/8) https://courses.fetalmedicine.com/fmf/show/372?locale=en

damzel Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > Unexpectedly now got some visitors over tomorrow > afternoon, really didn't want to revert to nappies > for it but looking like I might have to. Can't you stick with it? Sounds like she is trying hard

Def don't give up then, just keep encouraging her and make a fuss when she obliges

are you putting her on regularly? will she sit down and try? any rewards?

ryedalema Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Wow - so I can take our eight month old and three > year old by myself to the Greenwich pool (page 19) > if we stay in the shallow end and have arm bands > etc. Not sure I have the nerve, but great to know. Southwark won't allow that, MrF and I can't take our 7yo and twins :-(

http://www.gll.org/lg/greenwich.pdf p19 seems to say in Greenwich 2 under 8s Ok for one adult

always 1:1 for under 5s I think. At Beckenham etc think you can have an over 5 and an under 5, but not in Southwark (IIRC)

You only take the ferry if going to north of the river.. not to go to woolwich itself

I assume Brierly will attend you in the hospital

http://www.drkutner.com/parenting/articles/develop_empathy.html

Our child no 1 would bite others, once he realised it got him what he wanted. He would draw blood. If there was someone at a playgroup calling "Whose little boy is this?" it was always him. His language was very advanced as well, so couldn't blame that. There is a certain point they develop empathy and realise what they do is HURTING, until then they are totally oblivious and just see it as a way to get what they want. It should improve once they realise what they're doing. Twin II went through a phase of biting twin I, since about 2 yo she has realised it hurts him and does it a lotless. Encoyraging nurturing and gentle play will do no harm.. Sign and sign DVD or class might help him express himself. But mostly, this is a stage and it will pass.

Please get rid of any hanging ones. DoH just issued advice to its facilities after some very sad cases http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/scotland/article6388217.ece

And Christine Neillands is lovely too and really helped me when I was stressing about the whole tiwn birth in hospital scenario. She does hypnobirthing but also general hyonotherapy and something called EFT and I think would be excellent and really help to lift the weight of birth trauma. Let us know how it goes!

I think the senior midwives at Kings are brilliant, and very woman centred... just maybe sometimes "on the day" it doesn't go as they'd like, and also drs have a slightly different (very risk averse) agenda but when I have spoken to them about my worries they have really tried to reassure me.

You do not have to register with us in the following cases. 1 If you care for children who are aged eight and over. 2 If you provide care where a child does not stay with you for more than two hours a day, even if your childcare service is open for longer than two hours. 3 If you only care for a child or children aged under eight who you are related to. A relative means a grandparent, aunt, uncle, brother or sister of a child (or half-brother or sister) or someone you are related to through marriage or civil partnership. 4 If you care for children aged under eight on domestic premises as a childminder without receiving any payment or reward for your services. Domestic premises can be your own home or someone else?s home. 5 If you are a foster carer for the children. 6 If you only care for the children of one or more friends in your own home or someone else?s home and no money changes hands, including money to pay for things like electricity and food. 7 If you provide care for children in their own home. This includes caring for children of up to two sets of parents completely or mainly in one or both sets of parents? homes. However, you need to register as a childminder if you look after the children of three sets of parents in any or all of the parents? homes. 8 If you only provide care between 6pm and 2am on domestic premises (babysitting arrangements). Domestic premises can be your own home or someone else?s home. 9 If you are providing a home-education arrangement where a child of school age receives full-time education outside school, and is partly or completely taught by a person other than a parent of the child. Care provided to the child is incidental to (not the main focus of) the education offered. 10 If you provide no more than two activities from the following list.  School study support or homework support  Sport  Performing arts  Arts and crafts  Religious, cultural or language study This only applies if you care for children who are aged three and over, and you do not care for children aged under five for more than four hours in any one day. Any care provided is incidental (not the main focus of) to the provision. 11 If you provide care as part of your organisation?s activities in any of the following places.  A children?s home  A care home  A hospital in which a child is a patient  A residential family centre  A young offenders institution or secure training centre 12 If you are a school that provides education or care for children aged three and over, where at least one child being cared for is a pupil of the school. Children who are two years old when they start school but are three by the end of their first term at school (known as rising threes), may count as age three when deciding whether you need to register. 13 If you care for children under eight for four hours or less each day and the care is for the convenience of parents who plan to stay on the premises where you are providing care or within the immediate area. This type of provision has no long-term commitment to provide care for children ? for example, a shoppers? cr?che, a cr?che attached to a sports centre or adult learning centre, or an exhibition ? and covers services where children do not necessarily attend every day. 14 If you provide an open access scheme for children. An open access scheme allows children not in the early years age group (see note 1 below) to leave on their own. Childminders are not allowed to provide an open access scheme. 1 The early years age group is children aged from birth until the 31 August following their fifth birthday who go to early years settings that deliver the Early Years Foundation Stage. 15 If you care for children under eight from specific premises for 14 days or less in any year, and you let us know in writing at least 14 days before starting the service. 16 If you care for children between 6pm and 2am in hotels, guest houses or similar places. The care is for children of no more than two different clients, staying at the same place at the same time (babysitting arrangements).

Saila Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > i didn't realise that if it was in your own home > you didn't need to be ofsted registered? > > how confusing > > i always thought that there was this rule (3 hours > or somehting) to do with those who aren't > registered, at home or not. > > but i'm probably wrong Have a look at the exemptions

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Re au pairs http://www.bapaa.org.uk/displaypage.asp?page=5 When registration isn't required http://www.ofsted.gov.uk/Ofsted-home/Forms-and-guidance/Browse-all-by/Other/General/Factsheet-childcare-Registration-not-required

Saila Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > There's government legislation that says you can't > look after a baby without qualifications for more > than 3 hours.. or something like that. someone > else on here will know more than me. I don't think so.. I think someone caring for your children in your home requires no qualifications, but a minder in their own home needs to be registered. There is prob some rule re immigration for non EU aupairs though.

I would try two nurseries in case your preferred one goes bankrupt or something!

I have a hospital phobia and was determined I would have a HB for baby no 2.. until it turned out to be twins! I can't tell you how much i stressed about how things might turn out. But it was fine.. with a lot of forethought and discussion and good support in labour. For a straightfoward birth, there is no reason why you can't labour as you would at home, with minimal hospital intervention, but close by to medical help if required. Worked for us. FM:, if you're anxious about hospital birth, i'd suggest speaking to the senior midwives in advance (Supervisor of midwives) and also maybe some hynotherapy/counselling to discuss your worries and help you relax? i saw Christine neillands who made me my own MP3, I heartily recommend it to reduce some of the anxiety. Sounds like birth no 1 was just a traumatic birth, in the end, it will take time and gentle support to move on now you face a second birth in hospital, won't it?

I haven't been to search out the study, (I must do it!) but my reading of the article is just that when you take into account the increased income, mother's happiness etc, it balances out the lack of direct maternal care. My instinct tells me the same thing. Of course having a happy, engaged, not poverty stricken mother there all the time is best for a child. It's not rocket science. But in the real world we have mortages to pay, careers we've worked for, expectations beyond motherhood. We just do the best we can to balance it all out.

Chiming in on the homebirth issue as it has been raised... despite media scare stories, few emergencies that arise during labour are things that suddenly manifest, the main reason for needing to transfer to hospital is failure to progress. Most problems that arise become apparent over a period of time. It could be argued that being at home, without unnecessary intervention, and with 1:1 (in fact, 2:1) attention of midwives rather than sharing a midwife betwene several women, actually works out far safer than being in hospital! Anyway, the OP, as a disappointed homebirther, doesn't really need to be given HB scare stories... just reassured that a hospital birth can deliver many of the aspects of control that a HB would.

Penguin68 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- >> > The best way of abolishing private education is > through market forces; when 'free at the point of > use' education offers the same or better product > than 'pay out through the nose having already paid > tax' education, then the demand will whither away, > leaving only those buying for snob, rather than > educational, reasons. Until then, private > education is filling a completely acceptable need, > that of parents to ensure that their children are > educated to achieve their maximum potential I await the day when funding is equalised. Funding per head in a state school will be below ?7k, DC fees are almost ?15k pa, and that disregards all the other sources of funding (estate, charitable) available