there you see, if I had got an email like that from a good, male friend I'm fairly sure I would not have taken it to mean that the friend was harbouring a deep, unrequited love for me without an emoticon to tell me that it was a joke. I was going to put in my original post that this was not meant to be a one upmanship type of discussion 'oh people who use them are inferior to those who don't etc etc' so it wouldn't boil down to s snob, class war discussion. happy 20th birthday the emoticon! here's the Guardian article