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Nicola is fab and has helped several people I know make great changes to sleep probs!

j Blue leather waistcoat for a newborn > girl anyone?! > > That is special..

There is a good soft play at Beckenham Spa, about 10-15 mins drive from Forest Hill, but I'm pretty sure it wouldn't be that great for a 7 month old, do you mean proper soft play or more like a playgroup with mats and bean bags etc?

I'd go with 'they're in the wash' if you've swapped the lot, I reckon you can get away with admitting swapping one item 'I had to take it back as the hem unravelled, it didn't fit, etc' but I guess admitting you swapped everything is admitting you don't like their taste! It's a minefield with this stuff isn't it?!

Thanks everyone, ,very much appreciated! Lister not really an option I suspect as last time I went there they said you couldn't make an apt and the wait was 5 hours ,which I just don't think I can do with a teethy toddler and throbbing kidneys.. Seldoc always an option tho I hate to take up one of their slots with something I should be able to sort out during the day with my own surgery, but will prob end up going tonight if I can't get a cancellation at dmc.. I do normally have a set of emergency antibiotics on stand by, just as people have suggested, but as I've been lucky for the 18 months and haven't had an infection, they are out of date I think, so I think best to get fresh ones in case the old ones have lost potency. I am loathe to move from dmc as I was very grateful to have the midwifery care of the Lanes when I had my daughter and would like to be with The Lanes again if I'm lucky enough to have a second baby, but obviously it is far from ideal not even being able to get through to your surgery on the phone, let alone get to see a doctor...anyway sorry to bore on, nothing that hasn't been covered a gazillion times on here before obviously.. Thanks Fuchsia for those details, will use them! xx

I have a recurring kidney infection which over the years I have been told by the docs it's important to hit with antibiotics on the very first day it emerges as it spread so quickly I have ended up in A&E several times, but obviously this is the second day in a row I can't even get through to the recorded message stage of dmc, am in considerably more pain today than yesterday so while I wait for the infection to reeeeally take hold while failing to have access to a doctor or antibiotics, I was thinking wave some nettles over the afflicted area? power of prayer? apply a poultice? consult a witch doctor? pray some more? anything else I could actually do?

thanks birnhelene! Will give it a whirl on a Tuesday!

Thanks everyone! we already have stuff we do on Weds and Fri mornings at the moment, so if anyone knows if it is on on tuesdays then please do add that to the thread!

Since reading the last thread on this on here, we have been brushing our toddler's teeth with her sitting on our lap facing away from us and she will now let us brush them for a minute or 2 even, as opposed to the previous 5 seconds before grabbing the brush, have you tried that position?

I keep meaning to try these mornings at the crooked well with my 19 month old daughter, they sound ace, can anyone tell me more about them? Is it tuesday, wednesday and thursdays every week? Or have I got the days wrong? Are there any toys? you can buy coffee and croissants etc? Do they keep the doors shut??! I find that this is deciding whether we go to a lot of venues at the moment! Otherwise just an exercise in chasing my daughter out of the door 71 times before going home...!

Dr. Bidmead at Kings is indeed great. And no, you're not alone, there are lots of us out there!

That's strange, we haven't experienced any problems like that and we're on EDG too. The usual postman is very good, is it possible that a different postman works different ends of the road? I will ask him if I see him tomorrow if someone new has started or if the road is divided between 2 postmen...

In my humble opinion, the Ameda Lactaline is the best electric dual breast pump out there

I can thoroughly recommend Lori Etienne (bobbly is her forum name) who made some fantastic curtains and a blind for us recently. They look great and the quality is fab, and reasonable rates. Her number is 07817 097 650

Hi susyp it'a totally understandable to me that you would feel like that, my daughter is only 19 months so still a long way before we go through this change, but I'm sure I will feel many of the feelings you do about that emotional shift, not to mention the practical change of routine, the sense of a lack of purpose when every minute has been mapped out all day every day for years. Sorry I can't offer anything much in terms of wise words, sure the mums who have school age children will be able to offer good advice, just wanted to say how normal and understandable what you're describing sounds and that I'm sure it won't continue to feel this odd, and you'll acclimatise to the change and feel less sad when it becomes more 'normal' for your daughter to be gone for those hours every day. xx

crystal7 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Yep. Pure hell. My daughter's favourite place in > the world though so we go now and then. Okish just > after it opens on Sat am. Went once is school hols > and it was awful. Was also 8 months pregnant and > kept wondering if I'd be the first person to give > birth there... hahahahhahahahaha!

Most childminders charge ?50 a day. I have never heard of anyone paying as much as ?60 but perhaps there are those that charge as much as that. ?50 a day is what all my friends who have a childminder pay.

In terms of the social side of NCT classes, I think sometimes people who join a class some distance from them because there's no space in their local class, find that they meet up less with the other mums in those early weeks / months in particular, when it's sometimes harder to get everything together and get on public transport or drive somewhere rather than popping down the road. (Of course the classes would still be v useful, I just have friends who say 'well I never really get it together to see the mums I met, they're all in Brockley and I don't have the car' etc For this reason some of my friends who have not been able to get on an ED course with the lovely Sillywoman, have opted in the past to go the NHS classes at Dulwich Hospital so that some of the friends they make have been within walking distance. Tho anecdotally it sounds like the classes themselves are quite different from the NCT classes - sure people who have done both or the NHS ones can contribute more on this? - I'm afraid I can't much as have only done NCT. Tho I did do the NHS breastfeeding workshop at Dulwich hospital which was ace.

hpsaucey Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Fuschia Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > Isn't it funny how once your child is named you > > can't imagine them by any other name? > > > > What names were short listed but not used? > > > > I called my daughter a very pretty name that I do really like, objectively, but it was not on our list at all when I was pregnant, because although I like it it obviously wasn't one of my top 10 even! My partner just wouldn't agree to any of the names I was keen on, including one I had set my heart on and mentally attached to the baby while pregnant, secretly sure I could persuade him! Mistake! I thought watching me go through labour would swing it but no! I'm not sure what the answer is when you can't agree, other than going further and further down a list so that you compromise on one that was not on either of your lists, which feels a bit counter intuitive, but seemed to be the only way sometimes. My daughter is 19 months now and it's only really in the last few months that I have been able to call her by her name instead of a gazillion pet names, and only recently that I've stopped feeling a pang of disappointment when someone uses her name, I know that's awful! I do like the name, which is good, I just had no intention of calling a child by the name! Perhaps naively I assumed when I imagined having children that I would call them names that made my heart sing every time I heard them called or saw them written down, that I felt totally suited them down to the ground, but I guess when I imagined that I was a moony teenager who wasn't factoring in that two people would be involved in making the decision! I know quite a few people who feel a bit shaky about the names they've called their children, some people who regularly say 'I so wish we hadn't called him x, I really don't like it now!', or 'It so doesn't suit her, what were we thinking!', and 2 friends who have changed their babies names at about 8 months and 1 year (different friends), as they just couldn't get used to them at all. Some of their friends were horrified apparently, but others said it was a no-brainer if they had found they didn't like the name. Anyway, rambled contribution over ,loving this thread!

Mrs TP Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > > > Saying that one of my girls has the middle name > Loveday and not met any of those yet. Also caused > a few sniggers at the Christening from the other > family there having their children Christened but > sod 'em I love it. I wanted Loveday as my daughter's middle name! But my other half vetoed it. Great name!

Yes that's the reasoning, so you might borrow one from a family member or friend who you trust and you know has had no accidents in the car while using it, but I guess with buying one from ebay etc, you can't be sure.

edtots site has all you need to know! Think the nearest Gymboree is Herne Hill

Another big thumbs up for Rocca, the staff there are all absolutely lovely, we have a great time every time we go!

I would say the bee, ready your requirements, the newer model (bee plus) is wider than the older model (we have the older model and is still totally comfortable for our toddler but the bee plus is that little bit roomier but still just as nippy)

A couple of riends in a similar position have found that some childminders are happy to reduce the number of days when you're not working, i.e I have a friend whose son goes 4 days a week to a childminder when she's working, and the childminder is happy to drop this down to 1 day a week when she has time off between contracts, even if that's for a couple of months at a time. She finds that this works well as he keeps up his relationship with the childminder and other children in her care on that one day a week even in periods when she's at home full time, so that it's easier for him to settle back in when she's on the next project and he's there the majority of the week, (plus gives her a day to get other stuff done even when she's not working!)